Xu Zhimo, who wrote the beautiful and flowing verses of "Farewell to Kangqiao", the three women who have been entangled in pity in his life have flashed a dazzling light, we have talked about Zhang Youyi, and also said Lin Huiyin, today let's take a look at lu Xiaoman, the talented woman with the most stories in the Republic of China.
Lu Xiaoman was born in a wealthy family in Shanghai, and has been a very personal girl since she was a child. Before her, the Lu family gave birth to 8 children in a row, all of whom died prematurely, and it was difficult to usher in such a delicate and transparent doll, and it was a single seedling, and the parents were naturally spoiled to heaven.
Lu Xiaoman, 16, was proficient in English and French and was recommended to become Gu Weijun's English-French accompanying translator to participate in the reception of foreign envoys. In three years of diplomatic life, she has repeatedly shown alert and patriotic feelings, and is well-known in Beijing's social circles.
She has both the intelligence and liveliness of a Shanghai girl and the beauty and dignity of a Beijing girl, and the "Old News of Chunshen" has a saying: "Shanghai celebrities are known for their social interaction, starting from Lu Xiaoman and Tang Ying." ”
She is very good at painting, Yu Dafu said: "Xiao Man is a Prometheus who shook the Chinese literary and artistic circles in the 1920s. ”
Compared with her talent, Lu Xiaoman's love life is more electric and flint, she has pursued love first in her life, there have been three men before and after, each relationship is vigorous, especially the marriage with Xu Zhimo, from beginning to end, has not been recognized by the world.
In 1922, although the 19-year-old Lu Xiaoman was a famous lady in the capital, he still obeyed the "order of his parents and the words of a matchmaker" and married Wang Geng, who was 6 years older than her.
Wang Geng, a high-achieving student at Tsinghua University, was sent directly to the United States after graduation and studied at the University of Michigan, Columbia University, and Princeton University. In 1915, after receiving a Bachelor of Arts degree from Preston University, he transferred to West Point, where he was in the same window as U.S. President Dwight Eisenhower.
Lu Xiaoman and Wang Geng did not know each other very well from the time they met until they were married for only one month. Wang Geng has a calm personality and pays attention to his career, while Lu Xiaoman likes to interlace cups and lively, and the difference in personality makes a rift in their married life.
However, the romantic and amorous Xu Zhimo entered Lu Xiaoman's world and brought her spiritual comfort. The most helpless thing in life is probably to meet the right person at the wrong time, Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo are like this.
In order to marry Xu Zhimo, Lu Xiaoman beat the fetus fiercely, and also fell into the consequences of lifelong infertility, their union not only had to endure the gossip of the world, but also met with the opposition of the Xu family's parents, and even did not attend the wedding, Liang Qichao's "May this be the last time you get married" Marriage speech is even more embarrassing to the couple.
Although love is beautiful, it is helpless but it has lost to the triviality of life such as chai rice oil and salt, which is the end that no one can escape. Xu Zhimo was enough fond of Lu Xiaoman and worked hard to provide for Lu Xiaoman's luxurious life, Lu Xiaoman refused to accompany Xu Zhimo to Beijing for development, so he ran between the two places and endured huge life pressure alone.
In 1931, Xu Zhimo was on his way back from Shanghai to Beijing when he was hit by an air crash, and this amorous talent died at the age of 36.
After Xu Zhimo's death, Lu Xiaoman closed the door to thank guests, and since then she has no longer entered and exited social places, dressed in plain clothes for life, silently enduring the criticism and accusations of the outside world.
While concentrating on sorting out Xu Zhimo's last works, she regained her brush and immersed herself in painting, learning landscapes from He Tianjian as a teacher, and learning flowers and birds from Chen Banding as a teacher.
Ten years later, she successfully held a solo exhibition in Shanghai, and was twice selected for the National Art Exhibition, becoming a full-time painter at the Shanghai China Academy of Painting.
And her emotional life at this time, there is also a person to accompany, that is, Xu Zhimo's good friend Weng Ruiwu, he is skilled in medical skills, proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, after Lu Xiaoman's abortion, not only lost his fertility, but also the body and spirit are deteriorating, Weng Ruiwu took good care of him, considerate, he was willing to scatter his family wealth, even if Lu Xiaoman smoked opium later, his teeth fell out, he did not abandon.
But Lu Xiaoman had only gratitude for him, no love. Lu Xiaoman said in his later years: "If you ask me how many loves I have experienced, I will slyly say that I have only experienced one love, and that is Shima." For Weng Ruiwu's feelings, it is a habit. ”
In 1965, Lu Xiaoman completed her controversial 62 years, she was half a life in the cold, behind the depression, the funeral was extremely cold, only a pair of couplets.
Lu Xiaoman once said that he hoped to be buried with Xu Zhimo after death, but Xu Zhimo's son strongly opposed it.
The Xu family always attributed Xu Zhimo's death to Lu Xiaoman, and if it were not for her huge living expenses, Xu Zhimo would not have run for money and eventually died.
Because Lu Xiaoman was childless and childless all her life, her ashes were unclaimed for a long time, and soon after, she disappeared.
Until 23 years later, her cousin thought that there was no cemetery after the death of her aunt Lu Xiaoman, so she built a crown tomb for her at the Dongshan Overseas Chinese Cemetery in Suzhou to commemorate it.
In his lifetime, Lu Xiaoman became a rich family with fine clothes and jade food, and was also ruined by the arrogant and indulgent big lady.
Hu Shi said: Lu Xiaoman is a scenery that must not be seen.
Xu Zhimo said: Her eyes are also talking, and the secret of the heart spring is swirling in the light of her eyes.