Author | Fan Deng Reading · White with seven seven
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Chu Qiao
Zhu Ziqing wrote in "Silence":
"Your words should be like the stars of the night, not like the firecrackers of Chinese New Year's Eve."
No one likes someone who is always chattering to themselves.
Always bringing negative emotions to others will only keep others away from you.
Learning to be quiet is a compulsory course in life.
There is a saying: "No job is not wronged." ”
At work, everyone has been wronged, maybe there are too many performance indicators, maybe the pressure of work is too much, maybe the boss does not recognize your efforts...
But even so, don't talk about your pain to others.
Because this will not only reduce the burden, but also attract the annoyance of others.
In the movie "The Queen Who Wears Prada", when the heroine Andy first entered the workplace, because she was not adaptable, she was often busy and unhappy.
She gets up at six o'clock every morning, prepares morning coffee for the boss, and starts the day.
Her phone is kept open 24 hours a day and she can't miss the boss's call at any time.
As an assistant, Andy has to deal with a lot of chores and tasks that make it difficult for her to complete every day.
One by one, she kept her feet on the ground.
Image source | Stills from The Queen Who Wears Prada
Once, the boss asked Andy to arrange a plane ticket for himself to attend his daughter's concert.
Unexpectedly, it happened to be a heavy rain that day, and the plane was all grounded.
The boss was unable to catch up with her daughter's concert, and she was very angry and scolded Andy for not doing a good job.
Andy is very aggrieved, and she finds her boyfriend Nigel to complain, hoping to get some comfort in Nigel.
Unexpectedly, Nigel said:
"Since you're not happy with the job, you can leave!"
You think you're doing your best for your work, but you're just perfunctory, not just perfunctory, but also perfunctory.
With such an attitude, you actually want to get rewards from your boss. ”
Nigel's words, like a basin of cold water, suddenly woke Up Andy.
Andy began to reflect, to re-examine himself.
She began to take the initiative to change and change her previous work attitude.
A few days later, her boss gave her a difficult task to find the unpublished manuscript of Harry Potter.
After receiving the task this time, she did not make any more trouble, but used the contacts at hand to inquire around, and finally completed this difficult task.
Moreover, Andy began to gradually learn to preset problems, and made thoughtful preparations before the boss's further requests, and finally got the approval of the boss known as the "female devil".
Speaking to others about grievances at work has no effect, because no one can empathize.
It is better to take active action and find countermeasures. With the method, the difficulties are naturally solved.
Mo Yan once said:
"In life, I am destined to suffer many grievances. The more successful a person is, the more grievances they suffer. ”
No one's job is easy, and setbacks and tribulations are commonplace.
Mature people have long learned to swallow grievances and survive in order to harvest growth and breakthroughs.
Yu Qiuyu said: "In this world, no one can really empathize with a person's pain.
You have a thousand arrows piercing your heart, and you do not want to die, it is only your own business. ”
It's heartfelt, but it's realistic.
There are many people in this world who watch theater, and very few people really care about you.
I have seen such a post on the Internet:
The girl and her husband were married after many years of love, and the relationship between the two has always been good.
In order to have a child as soon as possible after marriage, coupled with the good conditions of the husband's family, the girl became a full-time housewife.
I thought it was the beginning of a happy and fulfilling life, but I didn't expect that the good days didn't last long.
Not long after marriage, the girl found out that her husband had cheated.
When she questioned her husband, instead of feeling guilty, he also moved his hand on her.
Later, the husband and wife had a small quarrel for two days and a big quarrel for three days. Such a married life makes girls more and more miserable.
So she found people around her to talk to.
Unexpectedly, not only did she not get comfort, but many people sneered at her.
"What's wrong with you eating people's food and drinking people's food, and being wronged?"
"Didn't you just ask for it?" Why don't you work? ”
"Originally, you climbed high, there are gains and losses, and you can't take advantage of all the good things!"
"Your husband is so capable of making money, it's time to be satisfied!"
……
No one gave her advice, and no one felt sorry for her situation, which made the girl very disappointed.
At this time, she also finally understood that your so-called sad things, in the eyes of others, are just small things that don't matter.
The writer Canoe once said: "In fact, there is no empathy in the world, and if the needle does not pierce others, they will not know how much pain." ”
Don't always open the scars to others, your wounds are just dust in the eyes of others.
The joys and sorrows between people are not connected, and some are just cold and warm self-knowledge.
Life is really hard, only self-transit, others love can not help.
YiShu said: "It is useless to complain about suffering, and many things have to rely on ourselves." ”
Everyone's life has difficulties, and complaining about it every time people not only cannot reduce the burden, but also slowly destroys their own lives.
And the really powerful people understand that only by silently carrying everything can they gradually become stronger in silence.
In 1979, Deng Yingzhong contracted lexin paper mill.
In just one year, Deng Yingzhong turned a small factory that was on the verge of closure into an enterprise with an income of more than 10,000 yuan.
One year in January, Deng Yingzhong saw that the company was getting better and better, and he was very happy to hold an annual meeting to share this joy with all employees.
How to expect that in the middle of the night, the factory suddenly caught fire, and the fire was fierce, burning the factory to the ground.
A fire burned all of Deng Yingzhong's hard work and efforts, which made him feel what despair was.
Fortunately, everyone went home on holiday that day, and there were no casualties.
Deng Yingzhong knew that as the person in charge, he could not fall, as long as someone was there, he was not afraid to start again.
He didn't complain, he didn't complain everywhere.
Instead, he took the staff and family with him the next day and cleaned up the site.
He told everyone truthfully about the situation in the factory, it is possible that there may be no salary for many months, and everyone's choice is respected if you want to go and stay.
However, not a single employee left, and everyone believed in Deng Yingzhong's ability.
And Deng Yingzhong did not live up to everyone's trust, and in just ten days, the factory reopened.
People can save themselves, and God will not fail.
Deng Yingzhong's character for many years is obvious to everyone.
When the factory was just restored, some major customers said that they could postpone the delivery time, and then they would continue to increase orders with Deng Yingzhong.
He was also approached by material suppliers, who provided him with raw materials and were willing to slow down the payment.
Later, Deng Yingzhong worked hard to win an investor and sponsored 200,000 yuan for the factory. He completed a year's worth of production in three months, and the paper mill was finally reborn.
When misfortune comes, it is useless to complain to others, and only by carrying it up on your own can you get out of the predicament.
Writer William Ward said:
"Pessimists complain about the wind, optimists wait for the wind to change, and realists adjust the direction of the wind."
People are in the trough, don't bother others, that is the cold and warm of human feelings that you can't predict.
Self-helpers, the hardships of life, rely on their own to survive, will usher in the real spring.
Osamu Dazai writes in The Human Disqualification:
"I still think that complaining to people is futile, and it is better to suffer in silence than to do so."
Don't dump the garbage in your heart in the circle of friends, no one will want to spend a long time with a person who always has negative energy, hurting others and hurting themselves.
To manage your negative emotions well is to manage your life well.
Everyone in the world is carrying a heavy load, learning to accept and bear, in order to go more and more relaxed.
Life is not smooth sailing, in the face of bumpy experiences, not aggrieved, not complaining, it will water their own growth.
Click "Watching", when you become stronger, life will treat you well.
Author | White and Seven Seven, a cat woman healed by words.
Editor-in-Chief | A doctor
Typography | Come slowly
音乐 | More Than Words Can Say