For middle-aged women, getting caught up in an extramarital affair often loses their minds. Once a woman is emotional, she not only invests her body and money, but also invests in feelings.
Women caught in extramarital affairs often moths to put out fires and cannot extricate themselves.
But I find it hard to have true love in an affair, and most men are also trying to get what he wants from you. Once you get it, you will be full of indifference.
Whether it is a man or a woman, once it falls into a confused relationship, it will often bring disaster to the family and pay a painful price.
Meeting my ex-boyfriend at a party and having an affair for two years made me miserable
I have a reader who once left me a message in an article. She is 38 years old and has two children. Her husband is an ordinary company employee, and she has always been a housewife at home.
She and her husband often have conflicts, and the two people have a bad relationship.
At a class reunion a few years ago, she met her first love boyfriend. The other party is already married and has a child. The two men met at the party and sighed. After the party, we exchanged contact details.
Every day, the man would message her and occasionally send her a little snack and gift. She felt the care of the other party, and her heart seemed to be reopened.
They are not in the same city, and although they use WeChat to contact, they still long to see each other. So men often come to see her in the name of business trips.
When she first started dating, she would also feel guilty. But slowly, she became more and more obsessed with this feeling. Seeing each other two or three times a month, I can often get the comfort of the other party, and there is always infinite joy in my heart.
This kind of passion and concern is something that my husband can't feel. In marriage, she felt like a nanny, raising children and taking care of her husband's diet. But this relationship outside of marriage made her feel pampered.
In order not to arouse her husband's suspicions, every time her ex-boyfriend came from a different place, she entrusted the child to a friend, went out on a date during the day, and returned home as usual at night. So for a long time, the husband did not have doubts.
Some time ago, the other party gave her a gold chain. After being accidentally discovered by her husband, she asked her: "Where did you get the money to buy these?" Change the phone all at once, change the chain all at once? ”
She lied that she had bought it with her own private money. The husband was not easy to fool around, sent her a screenshot of the chat on her mobile phone, and then had a big fight, and called her ex-boyfriend's phone to warn the other party.
Since then, they have been mired in the Cold War. My husband learned to drink, came home late every day, and had a bad attitude towards his children and himself. She had considered ending the marriage, but looking at her two young children, she couldn't help herself. I can't leave it, I want to live well.
Extramarital affairs are beautiful, but also cruel
In fact, I have always felt that after a woman is thirty years old, she should not easily believe in love. If you have already formed a family, you must face your feelings outside of marriage more rationally.
But any woman with a little posture, after marriage, will always face all kinds of temptations. Feelings outside of marriage look beautiful, just because you don't have close contact with each other, get along for a short time, and see all the advantages of each other. If you really live together, there will be a lot of quarrels and dissatisfaction.
In an extramarital affair, a woman is nothing more than lusting for the passion and beauty that the other party brings to herself. But the more dazzling something is, the easier it is for people to fall.
Love pursues passion and romance, and marriage requires responsibility and fidelity. While you enjoy the stability brought by marriage, you also want to have the care and love brought by your lover, and both sides are not willing to give up, so it is doomed to have no good results.
The more covetous you are, the more you can't extricate yourself. The more you can't extricate yourself, the more you will cause bitter fruit for yourself and your family.
Feelings outside of marriage are like fireworks in the air, beautiful in an instant, but leaving an eternal silence.
Marriage is not easy, and it is done and cherished
Marriage is long, two people walk hand in hand for decades, there will be quarrels, there will be dissatisfaction, there will be pain. Love is different from marriage and is beautiful most of the time. Two people go on occasional dates and all that is left is a sweet feeling.
The reason why middle-aged women fall into this kind of feeling is often because of the lack of love in their hearts. Many women have been looking for love all their lives, and when she finds that in a long marriage, she has not experienced the feeling of love, and her heart will be lost.
This sense of loss grew day by day, and when she faced the earnest greetings of men outside of marriage, her heart began to ripple. Once a woman's heart begins to waver, there will be more and more stories behind it.
In fact, many feelings do not break out in an instant. She may have struggled too, but in the end she lost to her inner longing.
In this life, we will face many temptations and choices, take a wrong step, and often never recover. When you already have a marriage, then be careful.
I like a passage that Yang Dai said:
Between husband and wife,
When he is poor, it is his wife who tests,
It is the husband who tests the rich time,
Middle-aged couples rely on conscience.
Marriage has just begun when passion retreats,
The essence of marriage is companionship and responsibility,
Mature love, on the other hand, depends on conscience.
The second half of life is all about responsibility.
Indeed, middle-aged couples are allies and brothers, and when the passion retreats, how to stick to the marriage is the real test.