Today's article is all dry goods, don't miss it. Learn these 3 tricks to ensure that your position of chasing girls has improved by leaps and bounds.
Emphasis on preference
The vast majority of girls eat this set, but the vast majority of boys will not eat this set. What is favoritism? For example, a chestnut, in the New Year, Grandma gave you an extra hundred years of money, do you feel that in her heart is different from other children, happy? High unhappy? This feeling is brought about by preference.
And many old irons are prone to make a fatal mistake: because of the fear of poor control of the sense of demand, blindly weaken their own efforts, so that it is difficult for girls to appreciate your preference. After that, no matter how gentle and considerate you are, girls will feel that this is the routine operation of central air conditioning, and it is not easy to be touched by you, which seriously affects the progress of love. So, when the time is right, be sure to make the girl realize that she is your exception.
Some old iron may say, "Isn't it all based on the fact that she likes me?" "Here we have to mention a psychological knowledge: the compensation effect of love. People will always notice those who like themselves first, and unconsciously look for your strengths.
In other words, letting the girl perceive your preference will increase the probability of her heartbeat. Moreover, the sense of identity brought about by being favored will make the girl feel happy, excited, and think that this positive energy is what you give her. You know, the feeling of love that girls want is an emotional experience. However, our preferences should not be too public, and we must always balance with the sense of need.
Psychological cues
Girls who refuse to confess love to say a word: "I feel that we are not suitable." Let's reason in reverse: how to make girls accept your confession? The answer is simple, make her feel like you two are a good fit. But girls don't actually know what is "appropriate" in their hearts, there is no specific concept and requirements, more is subjective judgment. So all we have to do is use psychological cues to be the "right person" in her heart.
For example, ask her out to dinner, and when she's done ordering, you say, "Our taste really is." "Or isn't it possible to listen to songs online now?" You let the girls play songs there, and then say, "The overlap of our song lists is so high, and the songs we like to listen to are similar." When discussing social news, after the girl finishes her opinion, you will pick up: "Our two ideas are also in agreement." "Through this incessant hint, it will make girls feel that you are a good match more and more."
In addition, "appropriate" also includes many aspects, consistent behavior, psychological resonance are counted, and the old irons have a lot of room to play. Here is another chat tip to guide the girl to express, that is: cherish her desire to share.
Every time you communicate, listen carefully to the girl's words and don't interrupt her. And not only to listen, but also to respond. Instead of saying that she finishes her opinion, you immediately take your own opinion. This feeling of being able to receive feedback immediately after expressing yourself is very heartwarming for girls, and she will be more willing to tell you your true thoughts the next time you chat.
Give an inch and take a mile
Many old irons will feel that there are many topics at the beginning of chatting with girls, but after a while, they find that they have nothing to say to her, and then inexplicably break the connection. Or the ambiguity disappears, and the two sides return to ordinary friends. It's not a matter of lack of skill, it's that the battle line is too long and the girl has lost interest in you.
In promoting the relationship, most girls would rather miss than take the initiative. But the girl will send a signal, and if you don't receive it or don't act in time, she will close the window and become cold. Therefore, when it is time to take the initiative, you have to take the initiative, and if you inadvertently hold hands with her and do not dislike it, you will basically succeed.
Write in the last words
Love, which comes quickly, may fall in love just because you look at you more. It is not that you can only do these things if you are in love, but that by doing these things, it is easier for you to enter into love.
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Author | Yellow chestnut Ye
Consultant of the First Psychological Writing Group | Senior Emotional Mentor | Best-selling columnist on the internet