She said that these children cannot be left unattended, unloved, and fall to the ground.
Qilu Evening News Qilu one-point reporter Du Yahui
As soon as Yang Shouwei entered the door, the children in the room rushed up, scrambling to shout "Mother Yang". The children found her hand, and one of them clasped a finger tightly, which showed a satisfied expression. This picture of a mother chicken and a chick is Yang Shouwei's daily routine for 22 years.
Yang Shouwei is the vice president of the Children's Welfare Institute in Weifang, Shandong Province. For 22 years, she has been in front-line positions caring for orphaned children. Under her meticulous care, 1,029 children have called her "mother", and 467 children have found adoptive parents and have their own homes. She was rated as an outstanding communist party member in Shandong Province, a model worker in Shandong Province, a national March 8th red flag bearer, a national labor model, and a national outstanding communist party member.
Yang Shouwei said that her belief is to be a good "mother" of these children. Her insistence is not to let these children fall to the ground without being cared for or loved. She said that for the sake of that "mom", she did not allow her children to be seen as different, and her greatest pursuit and happiness was to do her best to compensate them for the loss of fate.
"Alternative"
Yang Shouwei, behind this slightly masculine name, is a thin woman.
Like her name, Yang Shouwei is tough and vulnerable. Tenacity, she has been building her own home for 1,029 orphaned children for 22 years. In the eyes of the children and the mothers of the welfare home, she seemed to be omnipotent. Fragile, this soft-hearted woman, telling reporters the story of the children, always turned into a pool of water, and even trembled several times because of irrepressible tears.
The children in the Weifang Children's Welfare Institute have a severe disability rate of more than 90%. 22 years ago, when he first walked into the welfare home, even though he thought he was mentally prepared, Yang Shouwei was still shocked by the scene in front of him. "Because the children's condition and image are far beyond my expectations." Yang Shouwei said that here, cleft lip and palate, cerebral palsy, hydrocephalus, atresia, congenital heart disease, ichthyosis, intellectual disability, limb mutilation, hand and foot deformities, etc., are common diseases. There are even infectious diseases such as AIDS, syphilis, hepatitis A and hepatitis B.
The job of Yang Shouwei and his colleagues is to feed these children, urinate the, change the single and wear cotton, and keep vigil on duty. In the first few days, Yang Shouwei was nervous like a taut string, almost collapsing. Needless to say, the sound of crying, the sudden smell of poop, and the sudden loss of control of the children all tested the newly appointed "mother". Especially in the night shift at night, after the children fall asleep, Yang Shouwei must not only keep turning in circles to check the situation, but also have to put up his ears to listen to whether the children are breathing, even if one has a sudden situation, his heart has been tugging, always looking forward to the dawn soon.
Can I do this job? Yang Shouwei hesitated, instinctively resisting this kind of life. But whenever she walked into the courtyard, grabbed one small hand after another, and held these small "heart meat" and "little cotton jackets" into her arms, she felt that her heart immediately softened.
"Mom!" "Mom!"
The children called out to Yang Shouwei in a childish voice. "At that moment, I especially wanted to hug them, kiss them, raise them and raise them well, and I didn't think about anything else."
For 22 years, What Yang Shouwei cares most about is not allowing children to be seen as "different.". "They are also equal beings, and since they have come to the world, they have the right to live well, they should be treated well, and they should enjoy warm maternal love." Yang Shouwei almost obsessively guards the dignity of the children: she will ask the mothers to hug each child at least 7 times a day, must crouch down and talk to the children; she notices the sensitive emotions of adolescent children, sews beautiful and comfortable shoes for the girls...
Whenever caring people visit and donate love to the hospital, in the face of strange visitors, Yang Shouwei will say to the children, you see someone comes to see you again, how much they like you, how much they love you! When the children heard this, they were all very happy, and greeted the visitors generously: "Thank you uncle and aunt, thank you for coming to see me!" ”
Almighty Mom
One night in August 2006, yang Shouwei had just returned home from work, and his colleague called, and the colleague on the other side of the handset was panicked: "Sister Yang, you come quickly, just sent an abandoned baby, I am very scared." ”
Unable to change his shoes, Yang Shouwei was bored and hurried back to the welfare home, thinking: "What kind of children have we not seen, what are we afraid of?" But when Yang Shouwei saw the child for the first time, he almost cried out. The children in the cardboard box have their eyelids turned outward, their eyes are red, their faces, necks, chests, backs, legs, almost every inch of skin, are cracked, one by one, like fish scales, under the "fish scales" are bloody mouths, dense, many are also suppurated, blood, pus mixed together, emitting the smell of choking the nose...
The heartache for this little life overcame the fear, and Yang Shouwei fixed his mind and gently picked up the child. The little girl did not cry or make trouble, and quietly leaned on Yang Shouwei's chest. Yang Shouwei took her to take a bath, treat her wounds, and changed into clean clothes. After diagnosis, Xiaoyu had ichthyosis. Doctors say that this is a skin disease caused by genetic mutations, which cannot be cured, and can only be alleviated and reduced by careful care.
At that time, the dander on Xiaoyu's body fell off very badly, and wherever he went, the dander fell wherever he went. Because the skin is cracked everywhere, the subcutaneous tissue is exposed in a large area, and the arms are slightly extended, the legs are moved, and even the belt meat is pulled to make the child grin. Looking at the child's pain, Yang Shouwei was so distressed that he wiped his tears. However, because ichthyosis is very rare, I searched through the information and did not find a specific nursing method.
"I thought of a lot of special methods based on the principles of nursing." Yang Shouweiqin bathed Xiaoyu, put her into the bath tub, held warm water, sprinkled on Xiaoyu's body little by little, so that the skin gradually moistened and gradually adapted to the stimulation brought by warm water; apply medicine to Xiaoyu three times a day, and all cracked skin should be gently applied; in order to avoid floating "scales" pulling useful skin, it should be cut off as soon as possible, how big a piece of floating, cut off how big a piece; the dander on Xiaoyu's head often wraps the hair, stands up, the longer the more painful, Yang Shouwei uses scissors little by little, even, It's cutting off the raised dander and hair one by one...
Mom's care and patience will work wonders. After more than a year of meticulous care, the wounds on Xiaoyu's body began to heal one by one, the fish-scaled skin gradually fell off piece by piece, and many parts of the body began to have a normal skin color.
One day, Yang Shouwei bathed Xiaoyu as usual. This child, who has not cried, smiled, or spoken since he was admitted to the hospital, suddenly raised his head to look at Yang Shouwei, opened his mouth and shouted: "Mother." Yang Shouwei, who was holding a towel and preparing to wipe the child, was stunned, she thought Xiaoyu could not speak! But the sound of "Mother" came into her ears so clearly, and Xiaoyu's little face still had a smile! "At that moment, how excited I was, how much I loved her, she felt and understood. This 'Mom' is her response to me! Yang Shouwei said.
Like Xiaoyu, the children in the welfare home have a variety of diseases, in order to be able to take care of each child as well as possible, Yang Shouwei learned non-stop and became an "all-round mother". "When I first entered the hospital, the foundation of professional nursing was basically equal to zero, and now I am afraid that I will not learn enough, not fast enough, afraid of seeing my child uncomfortable, I can only be in a hurry." Yang Shouwei brought a bunch of nursing textbooks to study, running from east to west, asking for advice. Now, she has obtained a number of qualifications such as orphan and disabled child nurse, senior nursery teacher, nutritionist, rehabilitation hygienist, Montessori teacher, social worker, social worker supervisor and so on.
In order to let children with diseases and disabilities live a healthy and recover as soon as possible, Yang Shouwei and the mothers of the welfare home racked their brains to innovate, and a leading nursing method for orphans and disabled children in China was born here: for the needs of children with cerebral palsy, a "cerebral palsy suit" was designed that is easy to wear and easy to take off; for the needs of children with cleft lip and palate, a "straw bottle" was designed; for children who were bedridden for a long time, an "O" type pillow was designed; for some children with self-harm behavior, protective "restraint clothing" was designed... Since 2000, under the meticulous care of Yang Shouwei and his mothers, with the help of various medical plans, many children with heart disease in the hospital have bid farewell to death and children with cleft lip and palate to rebuild their beauty.
"The purpose of Sister Yang learning things is very pure, just for the good of the children." She learns what the children need. She was desperate, she just didn't want the children to suffer a little. Zhang Yongmin, a nursing staff member in the nursing department, said.
farewell
In Mr. Yang's office, there are walls of pictures of children hanging and several thick photo albums on the shelves. In the photo, some of them are going out on an outing together, some are doing crafts with their mothers, and the children are all smiling brightly. Yang Shouwei clearly remembered the story of every child who had or was in a welfare home, and she gently stroked those photos and said that this was my boat, this was my Qingyun, this was my snow and snow...
"This is a picture sent to us by Xiaoyu's adoptive parents, and my baby is now living a healthy and happy life." Under the careful care of the mothers of the welfare home, Xiaoyu's physical condition gradually improved, and she also learned to sing and dance, and her personality became cheerful. In 2014, after living in a welfare home for 8 years, Xiaoyu was adopted by a caring family. The photo of Xiaoyu sent by his adoptive parents, Yang Shouwei couldn't help but cry every time he saw it. Later, I simply stopped looking at her, not because I didn't want to, because I didn't want to look at her again, because I missed her too much.
For mothers, the most important thing they look forward to is to find a stable and happy home for their children. But I really sent away the children I had raised for many years, and I was so reluctant to do so. When 5-year-old Qingyun was taken away, he used all his strength to pick up the stairs when he went downstairs, grabbed the door frame when he went out, grabbed the door after getting into the car, opened the window and shouted desperately: "Mom, Mom, you don't want Qingyun!" Yang Shouwei and his mothers were fierce not to send it, some hid behind the curtains and cried vigorously, and some did not say a word under their red eyes, but just bent down and desperately mopped the floor.
"Considering the growth of children, we set an unwritten rule ourselves, that is, to make up our minds and do everything possible to delete the experience of the children's welfare home, ourselves and the children's past, from their hearts." Yang Shouwei's eyes were red, and he turned Over Xiaoyu's photo. Over the years, all adopted children, Yang Shouwei did not contact again, and generally did not accept the active contact of adoptive parents and children. The difference is the last side of them and their children.
"As long as the children live and grow happily in their own homes and on their own life tracks." His good life, stable and happy is our greatest comfort and happiness. Yang Shouwei said.
There is another kind of farewell, which comes painfully.
To this day, the heart will often return to Yang Shouwei's dreams. Xinxin, who was less than 2 years old, was abandoned on the street, and 110 police officers sent him to a welfare home. After examination by the doctor, it was found that his right eye had retinoblastoma, commonly known as "eye cancer", which is the most serious and harmful malignant tumor in infant eye diseases.
When he was admitted to the hospital, the heart condition was already very serious, Yang Shouwei and his mother took him around for medical treatment, but there was no improvement, and he could only do surgery and remove his right eyeball. But less than a year after the operation, misfortune struck again, and the cancer cells eroded the left eye of the heart and metastasized to the whole body. The doctor was also unable to do anything and recommended returning to the hospital for hospice care.
In the last days of the heart, the torture brought by the disease deeply tugged at Yang Shouwei's heart. His left eye vision was also completely lost, and the eyeball protruded from the eye socket and began to suppurate and bleed. Every day, when cleaning his wounds, the child would cry out in pain, and Yang Shouwei couldn't help but shed tears with him. At this time, the heart will endure the pain, grope and reach out, find Yang Shouwei's face, want to help her dry her tears, he said, "Mom, don't cry, Mom, don't cry." ”
This sensible little angel finally left safely in the crook of Yang Shouwei's arm. That day, the heart that had been unconscious for a long time suddenly woke up, lay down in Yang Shouwei's arms and whispered, "Mom, I want to eat ham sausage." With past experience, Yang Shouwei knows that the child may not have much time left. She changed into a beautiful red dress for her heart, which symbolized auspiciousness, and she wanted this child to be in another world without any pain. The small hand of the heart grasped Yang Shouwei's fingers, and slowly closed his eyes in the warm crook of his arm and in the murmur of the children's song.
In the face of the unbearable pain of the child's departure, Yang Shouwei told himself again and again to be strong, and then wiped away his tears, straightened his back, and used this thousand hammers and hammers to continue to take better care of more children.
baton
The first child to love, not his own child. This is a common experience of many young caregivers in welfare homes.
When the nurse Wang Min arrived at the post the first day, Yang Shouwei led her to see the children in the class and told her to memorize the children's habits. Looking at some children who were already fourteen or fifteen years old in front of him, Wang Min intuitively felt awkward. "At that time, I was young, and I was still a big girl who was not married, but I wanted to be the mother of a fourteen or fifteen-year-old child." Wang Min said with a smile.
Many young nursing staff mothers in the hospital are in such a situation as Wang Min. Yang Shouwei taught them hand in hand, how to feed, how to dress, how to teach different children, all without reservation. Yang Shouwei's learning ability also set a benchmark for them, and everyone began to scramble to self-pressure and obtain various certificates.
The caregivers described Yang Shouwei as a "spinning top that can't stop", going early and late every day, and no holidays are the norm. Every year during the Mid-Autumn Festival, Spring Festival, and the day of family reunion, Yang Shouwei also chooses to spend it with his children. What is the home like, Yang Shouwei led the nurses to decorate the room. Every once in a while, the decoration of the room also has to be changed, this is for the children who have been bedridden for a long time, to make them feel the change. Yang Shouwei will also urge mothers to pay attention to adjusting the position of children's beds, which is so that children do not sleep too much and can have a beautiful brain.
"When the crabs are steamed in the courtyard, Sister Yang will call me and say hurry, steam the crabs, and you should quickly bring the children over to see the crabs!" Zhang Yongmin grabbed the children to the kitchen, and the fish and shrimp jumping around alive and the crabs that ran rampant caused the children to be surprised. Mothers will also take their children out to visit parks and supermarkets, which are hoped that children will have more contact with the outside world and prepare for entering the family and entering the social role in the future.
It is not enough to have only one Yang Shouwei. Under the patient cultivation of Yang Shouwei, the mothers in the hospital have all become the best nurses. "The young nurses in our hospital are very good, even if they are not yet married and have children, the children in the hospital, whether from feelings or daily care, are completely like mothers." Yang Shouwei said. Mom has become the proudest identity of Yang Shouwei and his colleagues.
Unlike other children, Sun Chunmei called Yang Shouwei "Aunt Yang".
She wasn't a child anymore. This year's Sun Chunmei is 34 years old, grew up in the welfare dean, and after graduating from nursing school at the age of 17, she returned here and became a former playmate and a nurse for her younger siblings.
In 2010, the children's welfare home was moved from the original old home to its current location, and the old home continued to be used as a social welfare home to care for the disabled elderly and children in the child welfare home who were still unable to return to society until the age of 18. This relocation made Sun Chunmei shake. "Everything is fine in the new hospital, but I always feel that I should go back, that is my home." I'm gone, what about my friends, what about my younger siblings when they grow up? Aunt Yang took care of them until they were 18 years old, and it was up to me to take the baton and continue to take care of them as they grew older. Sun Chunmei found Yang Shouwei and said his thoughts, and Yang Shouwei said with tears that of course I support you, good boy.
So, Sun Chunmei returned to her home.
In front of the old courtyard, there is an apricot tree that has grown for many years, and its branches are vines. Sun Chunmei grew up playing with her playmates under this tree, and now she will push them to sit under the tree for a while. The intellect of the friend seems to stay in that old time, as if only Sun Chunmei is slowly growing up. But it doesn't matter, she will always accompany them to grow old. Just like the children's "Mother Yang".
"Hey, where did Sister Yang go?"
"Today's big set, take the kids out to play!"
Before the epidemic, every time there was a big gathering in the nearby community, it was the happiest time for the children's welfare home. Because on that day, Yang's mother would take the children out to catch the big market. There are all kinds of gadgets that dazzle the children, and there are grandparents who like children. Mother Yang will use her own money to buy small goldfish for the children, buy snacks to eat, and meet the children's various wishes.
Nurse Su Juanjuan put on beautiful clothes for the children, combed up a little and tugged, "Thank you Teacher Juanjuan!" The children jumped up from her hands excitedly and ran to their mother Yang. Soon, every finger of Yang Shouwei was tightly grasped. Su Juanjuan smiled and watched Yang Shouwei and the children walk out of the courtyard door, like a mother chicken and a baby chicken, laughing and laughing into the gentle morning light.
(The children involved in this article are pseudonyms)