Red crispy hands, yellow teng wine. The city is full of spring color palace wall willows; the east wind is evil, the joy is thin, a sadness, a few years away from the rope, wrong, wrong, wrong! This is a poem written by the famous poet Lu You of the Northern Song Dynasty for his predecessor. --Wife Tang Wan. It makes people cry, and it is a masterpiece in Song poetry. Tang Wan is Lu You's ex-wife, in her early 19s, and she married Lu You. At that time, Tang Wan was a talented woman, talented and beautiful. She was a well-known talent at the time. She married Lu You. However, Lu You's mother, Lady Tang, did not like Tang Wan, and made all kinds of accusations against him, and finally forced Lu You to repair Tang Wan. 10 years later, Lu You met Tang Wan in Shaoxing at the end of the Tang Dynasty and wrote the poem on the wall with a pen. Express his heartache and grief.
After listening to this story, many people feel very strange, saying that it is better to demolish ten temples and not break a marriage, Tian Rumi has a good life, the son is happy, and the marriage is happy. Isn't that a good thing? Why did he force his son and wife to divorce? Lu You in his later years gave the answer. He once wrote a lonely poem. Lonely Nightmare is the name of the water bird. It is named after several sounds. Legend has it that she was transformed by the tragic soul of her daughter-in-law, who was abused to death by her mother-in-law. This poem is aimed at one's own mother, saying that the concubine is uncomfortable and the grandson is stubborn. The lifeless Zen language euphemistically expresses that Tang Wan has never had children since marriage. This made the mother-in-law very dissatisfied.
In the end, he was actually driven out of the Lu family. This may seem unbelievable now. However, in ancient times, in order to achieve the purpose of marriage, there was no successor. As for what, the kitchen was in the upper hall and the kitchen, xian nei helped and ranked second, why didn't Lu You and Tang Wan have children? Because Lu You's mother is actually Tang Wan's aunt, Lu You and Tang Wan are cousins. With the development of modern medicine, we all know that due to genetic similarities, the probability of close relatives marrying is high, and the probability of infertility, otherwise it will have a very bad impact on the next generation of children. Genetic diseases treat disability, frailty, etc.
But throughout ancient China, the marriage of cousins was very simple and was even respected in many families, especially the magnates or royalty. What the hell is going on? First of all, the concept of the ancients is completely different from ours. They think that cousins, cousins, if married, are kissing and kissing, which helps connect the feelings between relatives. In the case of arrangement, cousins are more reliable than strangers. In addition, people may have more emotional bases.
At that time, not only ordinary people said this, but also in the royal family. You are like the Empress "Chen Ajiao" of the Han WuDi Emperor at that time, who was a cousin of the Tang Dynasty, Princess Changle. His mother was Empress Changsun, but he married a husband named Changsun Chong, who was his mother's nephew. Another example is that Liu Jun, the Emperor Xiaowu of Song, not only married his cousin, but also gave birth to two sons and two daughters, and the four children were quite intelligent. There are many similar examples, so even the ancient royal family was keen on intermarriage between close relatives. Not to mention the universality of the folk at that time. Second, we can see that the emperor set an example. Of course, in the imperial court, it was rarely explicitly prohibited. Third, ancient medical technology was backward, and inbreeding increased the chance of birth defects, which was found in modern medical research. There was no such technique in ancient times, and even if the child born was defective, the ancients rarely contacted the marriage of close relatives, so it did not matter to the health of the child born.