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#Land Tour ##奇妙知识第一季 #
It can be said that most love has a good start, and as for the ending, it is difficult to describe.
When lu you is proposed, many people first think of his well-known labels such as "patriotic poet" and "literary scholar".
As a famous patriotic poet of the Southern Song Dynasty, Lu You wrote countless patriotic poems in his lifetime, just as his poem said, "Get on the horse to hit the wild beard, get off the horse to write the grass army", how can the eldest husband die for the sake of wine? ”
"Victory over bed on the battlefield" is the lofty concept of life. His heart is full of enthusiasm for the country and the nation, and his ambition and pride. Of course, in addition to patriotism, he is also a soft-hearted man, and his love life makes people feel emotional, so that people hundreds of years later, after reading it, can't help but shed tears of sympathy.
The two most important things in Lu You's life are patriotism and love. Lu You's life has come to an end, and there are no two feelings that have been solved, one is the recovery of the motherland's rivers and mountains, and the other is the nostalgia for Tang Wan.
When I was young, when I first read the love story of Lu You and Tang Wan, I couldn't help but praise: it is really a talented woman! Now that I read it again, I can only sigh and sigh!
Born in a storm, he was gifted and intelligent from an early age
On November 12, 1125, in the seventh year of Emperor Xuanhe of the Song Dynasty, in the upper reaches of the Huai River, the grass and trees turned yellow, and everything withered, and a large ship that went to Beijing to take up his post swayed on the river.
In an instant, it was dark and stormy, and the hull of the ship was shaken by the fierce wind and waves, and the thunder sounded earth-shattering. As for the dawn, the wind and rain were getting weaker, and the cries of babies came from the cabin of the ship, this person was no one else, it was the most famous patriotic poet in the history of the Southern Song Dynasty - Lu You.
Years later, Lu You also recalled in his poem:
"Yu Sheng Huai Shang, it is Ri Ping Dan. The storm is terrible, and it falls to the ground, and the rain stops. "I was born in a rainy and dark day, and I haunted the Jiaoguilangren ship."
Born in the wind and rain, it seems that lu you have long been doomed to the unevenness of lu you's life.
The arrival of a new life made Lu Zai (Lu You's father), who was originally worried about the fate of his career, feel a new expectation.
The servant woman announces the good news to Lu Zai. It is said that this little official generally has big eyes and has an aura, and it is necessary to give a good name. Lu Zai nodded, thought for a moment, and then said to his wife: "This son's name is You, the word is Wuguan, how'", the lady said: "The name of the child is Lu You, and the name has three points of water." The Water One, the Blood of the Earth, can also. In this way, the word "Lu You", which was written into the historical roster, has since accompanied Lu You throughout his life.
Regarding the name, the parents were still a little embarrassed by it, of course, the origin of Lu You's name has always been a matter of opinion. Some people say that when Wang Shi was dreaming, he dreamed of the famous lyricist Qin Guan, but Qin Guan at that time had been dead for 24 years.
Lu Zai thought to himself, why would Madame dream of this character who was a generation older than herself and wrote very well in poetry? Recall that perhaps because the mother's family and Su Shi and so on have a certain relationship, so Lu You was named Qin Guan. Later, when he grew up, Lu You was called "Lu Wu Guan" by his friends.
At that time, Lu You's father, Lu Zai, was 38 years old and was transferred to the deputy envoy. On the way to Beijing, when the boat arrived in Huaishui, his wife, who was pregnant in October, gave birth to Lu You.
A few days later, the ship lifted anchor and headed for Fenjing (汴京; present-day Kaifeng, Henan). From time to time, the ship skimmed the shadow of the mountain, and the wife lamented that the world was too chaotic: "The flowing water and the flowers are gone in the spring, and the heavens are in the world." The world has changed greatly, and it is not possible to sway, so let it be safe with the encounter. ”
In that year, the Jin Dynasty united with the Song Dynasty to destroy the Liao State, turned around and tore up the covenant, and raised troops to attack the Song Dynasty.
The following year, the Jin soldiers marched south, and the war forced the capital, the Northern Song Dynasty fell, and the Southern Song Dynasty was established. Social unrest, chaos in the imperial court, Lu Zai was impeached and dismissed, and had to return to the south with his family.
At that time, it was a deep winter and there was heavy snow. The young Lu You was wrapped in the arms of his mother and warmed up with his body temperature.
Despite being in a chaotic world, wandering around, and living a turbulent and displaced life, the husband and wife's love and education for their son are not less.
Husband and wife, born in a family of scholars, official eunuchs. Lu You's homework was often personally guided by his father, Lu Zai. Born in a family of scholars, Lu You is also very competitive, from a young age, talented and intelligent, reading hundreds of volumes, good at poetry, writing, in his teens is already a pen like a god, known as a "prodigy".
Falling in love with her cousin, Qin Se is evenly harmonious
Most of Lu You's poems are written patriotically, and for this iron-boned man full of ideals and ambitions, there is no shortage of love poems in his pen.
Most of Lu You's love poems are related to his cousin Tang Wan.
In Shaoxing, Zhejiang, there is a Shen Garden. On the pink wall of Shen Garden, there were two que inscriptions, the first que was written by the famous poet Lu You, and the second que was Lu You's ex-wife Tang Wanhe.
Tang Wan, a native of Shaoxing, was the only daughter of Tang Hong, the mother of Li Shiyuan, and her grandfather was Tang Yi, the shaoqing of Hongru in the late Northern Song Dynasty. It can be said that
Like Lu You, Tang Wan was also born in the door, the family of scholars, the family was superior, and was born beautifully, from a young age, intelligent, literary talent, is a local famous talent.
When Lu You was 19 years old, he came to Lin'an to take the exam, but he failed to pass the exam, so he worked harder and worked hard to study the scriptures. The following year, on the occasion of the Yuan Festival, he became acquainted with his cousin Tang Wan while viewing the lanterns in Lin'an.
Due to their similar ages and similar feelings, the two can be said to have fallen in love at first sight, often playing against each other in a piece of poetry and spending the good time of their youth together. In the eyes of everyone, the two are green plum bamboo horses, a pair made in heaven and earth. Therefore, the Lu family used an exquisite family heirloom phoenix as a souvenir and settled this marriage with Tang Wan.
When Lu You was 20 years old, the two got married, and Tang Huan naturally became the daughter-in-law of the Lu family and The wife of Lu You. Tang Wan was a talented and cultivated woman, and their married life, like most young people, lived a sweet and happy life, completely leaving behind all kinds of chai rice oil and salt and fame and fortune. The happiness and joy brought by the new marriage made Lu You indulge in a gentle dream, completely forgetting the career path of obtaining a meritorious name.
But the good times are not long, and the happy days are always as short as a flash in the pan. The two's beautiful marriage lasted for a short time, and the biggest obstacle came from Lu You's mother, Tang Shi. Tang shi was an arbitrary and stern woman, in the past traditional feudal era, men came out on top, and Guangzong Yaozu was an extremely important thing for the family, especially for the families of famous and prestigious families.
Lu You's mother's hope for her son is no more than that. The Tang family is full of expectations that his son will be able to be admitted to the title in the future, the title of the gold list, and give the family a sigh of relief. Seeing that his son was indulging in his children's love every day, he was greatly dissatisfied, and the resentment in his heart suddenly arose, and Tang Wan undoubtedly became the object of hatred in Tang's heart.
Many times, the Tang clan used the position of mother-in-law to make wild accusations against Tang Wan, reprimanding Tang Wan for influencing her son's career, only caring about the flowers before and the moon, and the children's love. However, the young couple's affection is entangled, and it is not something that the Tang family can influence. Because she could not change the status quo, Lu Mu became more and more disgusted with Tang Wan, believing that Tang Wan had brought obscurity to the Lu family, and was the broom star of the family, delaying her son's future, and strongly demanding that her son Lu You should leave Tang Wan.
In that feudal society, when great emphasis was placed on parents as the center, Lu You, who had always been filial and obedient, felt a lot of pain, on the one hand, his beloved woman, on the other hand, his respected mother, he had no choice but to secretly cry. Because his mother's life was difficult to violate, he could only tearfully send his wife back to her mother's house. In this way, the original pair of infatuated men and women were separated by worldly utilitarianism and so-called "filial piety".
Although Lu You had made countless efforts for Tang Wan afterwards, he had secretly built another courtyard to house Tang Wan, and as soon as he had time, he would go and continue his dream with Tang Wan, but how could the paper cover the fire, the shrewd Lu Mother soon became aware of and blocked the exchange between the two, and married Lu You another meek Wang as a wife.
When Lu You was 24 years old, the eldest son was born, and at the age of 26, Zhongzi was born, and Lu You gave birth to a total of seven sons and a daughter in his life, but unfortunately, he and Tang Wan, the woman he loved deeply all his life, could not leave a son and a half daughter.
Separating from Tang Wan became a major regret for Lu You's life
In this world, there is no shortage of love stories of all kinds of talented people. However, love is never just joy or sorrow.
Nalan Rongruo's sentence: "If life is only like the first sight, what autumn wind sad painting fan", let many people sigh, lament!
For Lu You and Tang Wan, although it is not the so-called "what autumn wind sad painting fan", it also has a lamentable ending.
There is a saying: "The most distant distance in the world is not that I stand in front of you and you do not know that I love you, but that I love each other but cannot be together."
This phrase is most appropriate to describe the relationship between Lu and Tang.
The Lu family is a family of poets and books, eunuchs for generations, and their parents have placed endless hopes on their son Lu You. Under the rule of that feudal ritual religion, the fate of his parents was greater than the heavens, and although Lu You was sad, he could only obey his mother's wishes, abandon Tang Wan, and continue to marry Wang Shi. After Lu You remarried, Tang Wan also remarried to Zhao Shicheng of the Song Dynasty in the same county, and Zhao Shicheng and the Lu family still had a cousin relationship, and Lu You and Zhao Shicheng were cousins of the same generation.
In the spring of the twentieth year of Shaoxing (1150), Lu Youyuchun came to the Yuji Temple in the south of the city, the Shen's Small Garden in the south of the temple, the scenery was extremely beautiful and moving, making people linger. Lu You strolled and met Tang Wan and his step-husband Zhao Shicheng.
Because the two families originally had a cousin relationship, they met today, and at the invitation of Zhao Shicheng, Lu You also enjoyed the spring feast and drink together. At this time, Tang Wan and Lu You had not seen each other for many years, and now they met again, although there were a thousand words to tell, but because the two were no longer the relationship they had before, how dare they have a little bit of disclosure?
I don't know what to do, but I always have affection. Love does not know when, can no longer be easily said, Lu You can only borrow wine to dispel his sorrows, the wine shed tears of emotion. When he was drunk, he wrote an essay on the wall of Shen Yuan with the words "Phoenix":
Red crispy hands, yellow teng wine. The city is full of spring color palace wall willows. The east wind is evil, the joy is thin, a sadness, and a few years away from the rope. Wrong, wrong, wrong!
Spring is as old as ever, people are empty and thin, and tear marks are red and silky. Peach blossom fall, idle pond pavilion. Although the mountain alliance is there, it is difficult to trust the book. Mo, Mo, Mo!
Looking at the charming spring colors of the city, I can't be happy. The east wind seems so hateful, blowing the rich joy to pieces, where is the sorrow of the cavity to tell, and where is the full of love? The text expresses the unspeakable sorrow and helplessness of Lu You and Tang Wan's love affair.
"Although the mountain alliance is there, the mianshu is difficult to trust" is a few short words, which deeply tell the state of mind that the liver and intestines are cut off and cannot be loved.
After Tang Wan saw Lu You's poem, she also wrote a poem as a "response":
The world is thin, people are evil, and the rain sends dusk flowers to fall easily. Xiao Feng dried, tear stains were broken... People are in their own right, today is not yesterday, and the sick soul is often like a swing rope... Afraid of people asking, tears filled with joy. Conceal!
In such a feudal era, it has always been difficult for women to achieve autonomy in their married life, and the situation is even more difficult for women who divorce and remarry. Remarriage and the shackles of feudal society made it even more difficult for her to express her love for Lu You, although her husband was not bad for her. Years of depression and unhappiness, as well as the end of her feelings for Lu You, all kinds of miserable torture, let her die of hatred soon after.
Tang Wan's early death once plunged Lu You into grief, which also became a permanent and difficult to heal wound in his heart. In the years that followed, Lu You often expressed his longing for Tang Wan in his poems. Even at the last moment of his life, he still had his soul around Tang Wan, and the Shen Garden that was related to Tang Wan.
At the age of 75, Lu You revisited Shen Garden and wrote down that heart-wrenching sigh with a pen: "Forty years after the dream has been broken, Shen Yuan's willows are not flying." After six years, he was already more than half a hundred years old and visited Shen Garden, feeling sad in his heart, and wrote down, "The little stranger in the south of the city is in the spring, only to see plum blossoms and no one." ”
At the age of 84, he was about to die, and when he visited Shen Garden again, he could not help but sigh and sighed, "I also believe that beautiful people will eventually make soil, and I can't bear the dream too hurriedly."
When life comes to an end, I have to admit that the deceased person in my heart who is haunted by dreams has long been turned into yellow earth, which is a kind of sad sentiment?
Write to the end
Since ancient times, there has never been a shortage of various love stories, there are beautiful love stories that make people envious and longed, and there are also various tragic stories that make people regret and sigh...
For Lu You, the love in his life is undoubtedly the latter, bitter and tragic. In such a traditional society of feudal etiquette, what was the cause of his love tragedy? The answer is obvious. Readers are reluctant to over-evaluate.
There is a saying, "With the hero's nature, only the heart of a child can be achieved; with the true feelings of a child, a heroic cause can be done." ”
For land travel, this may be the case. The marriage life of Lu You and Tang Wan is only 3 years, but this love marriage has had a profound impact on Lu You's entire life. Even though Tang Wan died of illness, he still remembered her for more than fifty years, until he came to the end of his life.
There is a saying that true love, even if we know each other and never have a period of mutual retention, is enough to warm and comfort life; true love, although it is difficult to be perfected by reality, can transcend life and death, cross time and space, and reach eternity.
For Lu You, this is really the case!
Resources:
Jin Tingting, Lu You, Liaohai Publishing House, 2016.05, p.1
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