In the parent professional class, the teacher reflects the child's problems How do parents treat it?

When I got home from work, the child's father told me that the teacher reported that our child had broken the child's face and asked us to go to the kindergarten tomorrow to solve it. Hearing the child's father's words, I knew that the child had done something wrong and was preparing to train the child. Thinking about it, the child is usually very quiet, gets along well with the children, and has never bullied the children, how can this happen? Is there a reason for this?

I think many parents will encounter teachers to reflect on the child's problems, the child is their own good, hearing this reflection, the parent's instinctive attitude is not to believe or unhappy. The child is good at his side, he has never been like this. Even at the extreme, I wonder if the teacher is looking for the child's fault, or whether I have offended the teacher. There are also some parents who hear the teacher's feedback, indiscriminately, first of all, to reprimand or beat up their children, thinking that this should be the education.

I would say that there is no teacher who does not want a child to grow up healthy. Teachers also hope to report good news to parents and not to report worries, and parents are happy to be happy. But sometimes some problems occur, for the sake of the healthy growth of children, responsible teachers will definitely contact parents. The starting point is all for the good of the child, so parents should not resist.

However, there are many children in the class brought by the teacher, and many things are presented every day, and the problems reflected are not necessarily very comprehensive, so please understand. When we encounter problems reported by teachers, how do we deal with them? The way you handle it is important and has an impact on both the parent-child relationship and the child's growth. We parents can neither protect our children nor wronged our children. My approach can be used as a reference for you.

I didn't immediately blame the child, because it was dinner time, so I calmed my emotions and calmly finished dinner with the child. Parents are also advised here that no matter how much the child makes, we should not talk about it during meals. After eating, I moved a small bench and sat across from the child.

I asked the child, "Tell your mother why you broke the child's face today?" ”

"Mom, he used to flick my head with his fingers, and it really hurt. I've told him several times before, and he's still playing with his fingers. This time I really couldn't stand it, so I squeezed it with my hand, and I didn't expect his face to break. The child said to me like this.

I immediately grabbed the child's hand and looked at it. It turned out that the child's fingernails were too long and I forgot to cut them. I said to the child, "Baby, I'm so sorry, Mom is too busy at work to cut your nails for a long time." Child, what should you do if you encounter a child bullying you? ”

The child did not make a sound, I said: "Do we have to reason with him first, tell him that this is not right, can not bully people?" ”

The daughter said, "I said it, but he just wouldn't listen." ”

"Baby, if he doesn't listen, can you tell the teacher and let the teacher take care of it?"

"I told the teacher, and the teacher didn't care."

I said, "Is it because the teacher is too busy, or is it that you are talking too quietly and the teacher doesn't hear what you are saying?" Is this the case? ”

The daughter thought for a moment and nodded her head in agreement.

After finding the cause, I told the child, "Baby, if we encounter this kind of thing, we must first solve it ourselves." You can yell at him to stop. If he doesn't listen, be sure to tell the teacher out loud, and the teacher will definitely help you solve it. If you tell the teacher, and the teacher still doesn't care, you can fight back. Let's think about it, today you didn't tell the teacher to do it yourself, hurting the children. Are you doing it wrong? ”

The child listened to me say this and nodded vigorously in approval. A sense of trust has been built. I asked my daughter, "Since we're doing it wrong, what should we do tomorrow?" ”

"I'll apologize to him tomorrow." My daughter answered me, and I was so happy that I praised her for her understanding.

The next day, I went to the kindergarten with my child, apologized to the children and parents who were broken, saw if the child's injury mattered, apologized to the teacher, and caused trouble to the teacher...

Through this, I think we, as parents, should be rational parents when we encounter problems with our children. How?

1, when encountering children's problems, we must first learn to listen. Listen carefully and patiently to your child's story. When the child is talking, find the root cause and avoid misunderstanding the child.

2. Guide the child and teach the method. Let the child encounter problems and solve them with their own strength first. If not, ask someone else for help. Tell your child that teachers are the most trustworthy people in school. Parents must establish a fair and just image of the teacher in the child's mind, so that the child believes in the teacher and respects the teacher. It's not just about teaching children how to solve problems, it's also about building a sense of security in school. Parents actively cooperate with teachers to win the best time to help their children.

3. Accompany children and teach tolerance. After the incident, no matter how busy you are, you should accompany your child to school and explain to the teacher and the parents of the children the reasons for the problems of the two children. Sincerely apologize to the children and parents. And prompted the two children to shake hands and make peace. Let children learn to take responsibility and harvest friendship of mutual understanding and tolerance.

4. Legitimate defense and self-protection. Teach children not to blindly tolerate, can be appropriate to fight back. Especially girls. Proper self-defense is also a self-preservation that children need to learn. My child did not bully the children, after this incident, the children said that my child was too powerful, a pinch can pinch the face, just in the absence of children bullying him.

It is undeniable that there will be some wayward children who do not listen to the discipline of teachers and parents. If we let our children blindly give in, it will also encourage such children to develop bad habits. Sometimes the response of their peers will also prompt them to wake up and let them correct their bad habits.

Parents are the first teacher of children, what we do is in the eyes of children, and our way of doing things is a bright light for children's growth. We parents only need to use a rational, tolerant and peaceful attitude to teach our children how to deal with things in life. It can not only exercise the child's calm attitude when he encounters it, but also cultivate the child's strong will.