She often appears as a "mother" in film and television drama works, but in real life, she does not have her own children.
This person is Song Chunli, an excellent performance artist.
At the end of 2021, she shed tears when she participated in the six sets of interview programs of the central government, "Blue Feather Parlor", and told the sad past that she had never had a child in her life.
At the age of 27, Song Chunli married Sun Weixi, a professor of folk music at the Central Conservatory of Music, and has been married for more than 40 years, and the two have always had a good relationship.
But why two people with good feelings have no biological children under their knees, the reason for this is very curious.
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In 1951, Song Chunli was born in Ji County, Hebei Province, which is now Jizhou City.
Song Chunli's parents are ordinary workers, and the family is crammed into a large courtyard in an alley.
There are a total of 15 families living in the courtyard, the environment is very noisy, and the family lives very hard.
Song Chunli recalled: "When I was a child, there was no furniture in my home, only a table of eight immortals that impressed me deeply. ”
"But since I can remember, my mother has been an optimistic, cheerful, enthusiastic personality, no matter how hard the days are, she always smiles, which has a great impact on me." Song Chunli said.
In 1964, under the influence of her brother, Song Chunli, who was only 13 years old, signed up for the army and became a soldier.
After enlisting in the army, Song Chunli was first assigned to the Guangzhou Military Region Soldiers' Song and Dance Troupe as a dancer.
But after a period of training, the teachers of the song and dance troupe found that Song Chunli's limbs were not very coordinated.
As a result, she was transferred to the drama troupe as a drama actress.
After becoming a drama actor, Song Chunli began to systematically learn to perform, and slowly found that she liked the stage and loved acting.
Song Chunli once said: "At that time in the army, no matter how late the rehearsal was, I would not feel tired. ”
With her love for the stage, Song Chunli stayed in the army for sixteen years.
In the sixteen years of the army, Song Chunli honed her character of not being afraid of hardship and tiredness and never giving up, which also laid a solid foundation for the success of her future acting career.
In 1979, by chance, Song Chunli participated in the filming of the movie "Suffering Heart".
Since then, Song Chunli has embarked on a long road of film and television drama shooting.
In 1980, Song Chunli was transferred to the Bayi Film Studio with her excellent work ability and began to systematically contact film shooting work.
More than 40 years after her debut, Song Chunli has not shot many film and television drama works.
However, the characters portrayed by Song Chunli are classics, such as Ye Xiuqing in "Wind and Rain Beauty", Yan Jun in "Plainclothes Policeman", and Jiuxiang in "Nine Fragrances".
Because of the character portrayal in place, Song Chunli has won the 16th and 21st Golden Rooster Awards for Best Actress, China Changchun Film Festival Best Supporting Actress and other honorary titles.
In the popular costume drama "Yanxi Raiders" in previous years, Song Chunli played the role of the empress dowager to make this play more brilliant.
Song Chunli herself has excellent acting skills, is low-key and modest, and has been rated as a national first-class actor.
In addition, Song Chunli is also the vice president of the China Film Performance Society and a member of the National Committee of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference. She is a well-known female artist in the circle of "virtue and art double xin".
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Song Chunli's emotional life, who has a smooth acting career, once became a difficult problem, and when she was about to reach the age of establishment, Song Chunli had not yet talked about a relationship.
In the eyes of many people, Song Chunli, who only knows that she works, is a bit "strange", and her friends around her began to introduce her to her.
At the age of 27, he was introduced by a friend to his old grandson Weixi.
Sun Weixi is a professor of folk music at the Central Conservatory of Music and has also worked as a soloist.
Song Chunli said: "The way I am with my husband is more tacky in the words of young people now, and I met through blind dates." ”
Song Chunli said even more bluntly: "At that time, Sun Weixi's handsome and dashing talent was very attractive. ”
Both of them are engaged in art, very talkative, Sun Weixi also especially appreciates Song Chunli's frankness, no actress shelf, very approachable.
The two men kept in touch after the first meeting and quickly established a relationship.
In the eyes of outsiders, Song Chunli and Sun Weixi, who are "older leftover women", have cultivated positive results in less than a year together, and have entered the palace of marriage hand in hand.
Song Chunli is a strong woman with a strong sense of enterprise, and getting married has not changed her original intention of wanting to have some achievements in her career.
After marriage, Song Chunli often went out to shoot dramas and was not at home, there was no mobile phone at that time, and the two people could only rely on communication to communicate.
So the two people began a "paper short love long" married life.
When the university is winter and summer vacations, Sun Weixi will visit Song Chunli's filming place, accompany her to film, and take care of her diet and living.
In 1979, Song Chunli had just entered the filming crew of the movie "Adultery" and found out that she was pregnant.
For an actress who is nearly thirty years old, if she returns home and has a child, it may mean the end of her acting career.
But if you don't want this child, if you want to have a child, Song Chunli will become an elderly mother.
Faced with this sudden child, Song Chunli was in a dilemma, and she first called her husband Sun Weixi and told him that she was pregnant.
Sun Weixi, who wants to have a love crystallization of two people, is ecstatic after knowing that his wife is pregnant.
However, I heard my wife say on the phone: "The filming crew of "The Spy" is in Heilongjiang, the conditions are very difficult, and I can't delay the progress of the whole crew because of my own reasons." ”
Although he wanted the child very much, after hearing his wife say this, Sun Weixi said that he would respect Song Chunli's decision.
Song Chunli finally decided to shed the child because she felt that the child would be there again in the future.
Song Chunli, who was filming in other places, went to the hospital herself to drain the child, "lying on the cold operating table and feeling sad inside." Song Chunli recalled this past and said.
This professionalism of her touched the director and other crew members of the crew, and Song Chunli interpreted with her own practical actions that for actors, a good role is the burden and responsibility on her shoulders.
In the following years, Song Chunli's career development was in full swing, and the matter of having children has been delayed.
But as a husband, Sun Weixi never urged Song Chunli, nor did she argue with her about the child.
Two people in the circle is a well-known "model couple", Sun Weixi is also using practical actions to interpret love, love a person to love her all, respect the cause she loves.
In 1992, the 41-year-old Song Chunli suddenly relaxed and felt that she had dedicated all her best youth to her acting career.
Completely ignoring his husband's feelings, he said to him: "I slow down the pace of filming, return to the family little by little, feel the life of ordinary people, and then we want a child." 」
Hearing his wife's words, Sun Weixi was happy like a child, and kept saying: "It's so good, I finally want to be a father." ”
Seeing her husband's overjoyed look, Song Chunli realized that she had owed her husband a lot for so many years.
Later, Song Chunli also said when talking about her husband in public: "My husband knows how to tolerate, and he has been married for many years, no matter how big or small, he is embracing me." ”
From the simple language, it is not difficult to see that Song Chunli's husband has a deep love for her.
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But Song Chunli, who is over 40 years old, has a very bumpy process of having children.
Song Chunli first felt that she could not conceive naturally, so she went to the hospital with her husband for examination and wanted to do IVF.
But after going to the hospital for examination, the doctor told Song Chunli, "Your body has been overdrawn so badly that you can't afford to have another child." ”
The doctor said very firmly, leaving no hope for Song Chunli.
"Probably because I almost drowned in the water when I filmed a scene across the river before."
"After this scene, my heart was severely injured and I often needed to take quick-acting heart-saving pills, and it was probably for this reason that the doctor said I could no longer have children." Song Chunli said.
In the face of this result, Song Chunli blamed herself, feeling sorry for her husband, and feeling very sorry that she could not be a mother in this life as a woman.
Song Chunli once wanted to divorce her husband because she could not have children, and she believed that even if she could not be a mother, she could not deprive her husband of the right to be a father.
When she told her husband about the idea of "divorce", he immediately refused.
Sun Weixi not only did not blame Song Chunli for losing two people's children because of filming, but also always enlightened her: "Even without children, we can both live happily for a lifetime." ”
Hearing her husband's constant persuasion of him, Song Chunli knew that he was sincere, and gradually untied this knot and continued to live a normal life.
Although she does not have her own children, Song Chunli has a nephew named Song Chuyan, who has always had a good relationship with her aunt.
From childhood to adulthood, Song Chuyan and his aunt are very close, and they are willing to discuss everything with her, Song Chunli also regards him as his own, and her husband also loves this sensible nephew.
As Song Chuyan grew up, Song Chunli had an idea in her mind.
My brother's family has two children, if you can pass On Song Chuyan to me, I won't have my own children, and I can also make up for the regret that my husband and myself have not been parents.
But Song Chunli was also not sure whether her brother and sister-in-law could agree with her idea, so she found a good time and tentatively revealed to her sister-in-law the idea of wanting Song Chuyan to become her adopted son.
What Song Chunli did not expect was that her brother and sister-in-law were very enlightened and said: "As long as the children themselves are willing, we have no opinions." ”
Song Chuyan has had a good relationship with his aunt and uncle since he was a child, and now he can be closer, of course, he is very willing.
In this way, Song Chuyan became the adopted son of Song Chunli and Sun Weixi, and Song Chuyan also directly changed his mouth to call the two of them "Father and Mother".
This sentence of "father, mother" made Song Chunli and his wife feel very warm in their hearts and smoothed the scars in their hearts for many years.
Song Chuyan chose to apply for the Beijing Film Academy during the college entrance examination, and became an actor like Song Chunli after graduation.
On the screen, Song Chuyan often starred in the military and police series, portraying the image of a steel tough guy impressive.
After entering the show business circle, Song Chunli and her son Song Chuyan also co-produced the movie "I Am a Veteran" together.
It is not difficult to see that Song Chunli is very supportive of the development of her son's acting career.
When his son grew up, he was busy filming, and he didn't have time to stay with Song Chunli and Sun Weixi all day to accompany them.
The old couple felt that life was very empty and there was no rush, so they had the idea of "wanting to adopt a child".
But as a public figure, Song Chunli has a lot of concerns, she said: "When she was supposed to be a grandmother, she wanted to adopt a child as a mother, afraid of gossip everywhere." ”
Song Chunli and actor Deng Jie are good friends who talk about everything in private, and after having this idea, Song Chunli told Deng Jie for the first time.
Deng Jie and her husband Zhang Guoli's situation is similar to that of Song Chunli and her husband, and the two of them have not had children of their own after marriage, but have adopted a daughter.
Deng Jie heard Song Chunli's idea and expressed her support.
Deng Jie said: "Sometimes it is not what we bring to the children, but the children bring us too much happiness. ”
With the support of their friends, Song Chunli and her husband decided to adopt a girl.
In this way, when Song Chunli was 61 years old, she adopted a baby girl who was a few months old.
The family takes good care of this child and cherishes the fate with this child.
Because she had never taken care of a child for several months, Song Chunli had some difficulty in taking care of this daughter.
Song Chunli often reads parenting books to recharge herself in scientific parenting.
When encountering places that you don't understand, you will also communicate with your friend Deng Jie, and in this child, Song Chunli poured all her love.
Although it is tiring to take care of the baby, the couple also experienced joy and happiness that they never had before.
Now, Sun Weixi is also retired, and the husband and wife spend all their time with their children.
Sun Weixi, a professor in the music department, also teaches children to sing and play instruments at home.
The daughter grows up slowly, and the husband and wife will also exercise their daughter to learn housework and learn some life skills.
From the details of these educations, it is enough to see the intentions of Song Chunli and his wife for this child.
This child is also very lucky to live in such a loving family and grow up slowly.
In 2021, the 40th anniversary of the marriage of Song Chunli and her husband, on the day of the anniversary, the daughter bought a cake for her parents with her pocket money.
"Parenthood is probably like that." Song Chunli said after the fact when referring to her daughter's intimate actions.
Nowadays, Song Chunli rarely takes over the drama, and she herself said: "As I get older, there are fewer and fewer plays that are suitable for me." ”
"I don't like to play my mother and mother-in-law, especially my mother-in-law, for fear of giving people the impression of an evil mother-in-law."
Although Song Chunli gave up the opportunity to be a mother because of her career when she was young, it is fortunate that people can have both children and daughters in their old age.
What makes Song Chunli different from when she was younger is that she chooses to spend more time with her family.
Song Chunli is a person who loves life very much, likes to raise flowers and plants, write calligraphy, and talk to her husband about art.
At the age of 27, he married her husband Sun Weixi, and after forty-four years together, she still respected each other as guests, and this feeling was very enviable.
Because filming has never been fertile, it is indeed a pity for a woman.
Fortunately, heaven took care of it and gave Song Chunli a pair of adopted children to fill the pain in her heart, which was also very lucky and thankful.