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As the saying goes: Bear with the wind and waves for a while, take a step back from the sea and the sky. Tolerating is not cowardice; tolerance is not meanness. What is the first class of self-cultivation? It is goodness. Tolerance is goodness.
Confucius Ziyun: Is there a word that can be practiced for life? Forgiveness! He who knows how to forgive must be a man with a broad heart, and the prime minister can hold a boat in his belly. Tolerance, tolerance, and generosity are manifestations of a person's self-confidence. It is no exaggeration to say that tolerance can make people live more peacefully in this world.
1. He who is greatly good will be tolerant
Tolerance, not weakness.
When Zeng Guofan was studying at Yuelu Academy in Changsha, one of his classmates was cynical and grumpy. Zeng Guofan's desk was leaning against the window, and this classmate deliberately caused trouble and said, "The light from my reading comes from the window, you block the light, you quickly let go." ”
It was obvious that he was making a fuss for no reason, and Zeng Guofan did not argue with him and changed places.
Zeng Guofan's diligence is well known to the world, and he likes to study hard at night, because he is stupid by nature, and he can only make up for it by hard work.
One night Zeng Guofan was reading vigorously, and the classmate came to pick a fight again and said, "I don't usually study, but I have to make noise late at night..."
Zeng Guofan still did not return his mouth, and lowered his voice of reading.
Soon, Zeng Guofan was shot. The man was even angrier, "The feng shui of this house is mine, but I told you to take it." ”
The classmates on the side couldn't look at it anymore and questioned him: "Isn't the location of the desk that you asked someone to put it?" How to blame others. ”
Classmates have been upset with Zeng Guofan, but Zeng Guofan only reconciles with Yan Yuexi and dissuades his classmates from quarreling, like a person who has nothing to do. It can be seen from here that Zeng Guofan's arrogance is extraordinary.
Tolerance, not cowardice. Zeng Guofan tolerated it, not because he was afraid, but because he could not argue over this little matter, and zeng Guofan was more willing to read the article again at that time. As long as you don't delay yourself, why not let him? The tolerant person looks weak, but in fact he has mastered the top wisdom, and the wisdom is like foolishness.
The terrain is kun, and the gentleman carries things with thick virtue. Those who know how to forgive, their moral cultivation is as deep as the earth, they can accommodate all things, and they can nurture living beings. How many people who are obsessed with trivial things can reap happiness and achieve great achievements? Some people say that Zeng Guofan can be lenient with these small things, so if it is a big thing, can he still be so tolerant?
Second, the belly is like the sea, and the cause is like a mountain
Tolerance gathers popularity.
Zeng Guofan and Zuo Zongtang were both famous courtiers in the late Qing Dynasty, and the imperial court was also known as "Zeng Zuo". In the Qing court, most of the officials were Manchus, although they were regarded together, but they were not of my race, and their hearts would be different, and the Qing court was more or less uneasy about Zeng Guofan, especially in the ten years of Zeng Guofan's rubbing and rising ten steps, the imperial court's heart for the defense of Zeng Guofan, who held great power, became heavier, played the way of checks and balances, and promoted people around Zeng Guofan in a way to contain Zeng Guofan.
Zuo Zongtang was an important figure in the imperial court to complete the checks and balances. Zuo Zongtang was arrogant and conceited, and once deliberately asked the left and right attendants: "Why do others call 'Zeng Zuo' instead of 'Zuo Zeng'?" ”
The attendant replied, "Because there is Zuo Gong in Zeng Gong's eyes, there is no Zeng Gong in Zuo Gong's eyes." ”
Zuo Zongtang pondered for a long time after listening to it, and realized that he and Zeng Guofan were in the same bosom.
How many people can be accommodated in a person's bosom, how many people can be won. Zuo Zongtang was at odds with Zeng Guofan in the court, and Zeng Guofan was equally tolerant of this political enemy. The sea is wide with fish leaping, and the sky is high for birds to fly.
Yes, the mind may be aggrieved, but when you are tolerant of those grievances, you let go, the burden in your heart disappears, and you find that the beauty is back.
Third, how much grievance you have suffered, how great things have been done
Tolerance is taking responsibility for oneself. Zeng Guofan mentioned in a letter to his brother Zeng Guoquan that the most memorable thing in his life was four profound lessons. In the letter, he said that in his 30-year career as a eunuch, there were many unsatisfactory things, but these four were the most memorable and embarrassing.
The first thing is: Daoguang twelve years, to Xiangxiang examination Xiucai, in the examination was publicly reprimanded by the examiner, saying that his article was not clear, Xiucai did not pass the examination. The following year, he took the county exam again, and only the last talent was selected.
The second thing was: In the first year of Xianfeng, Zeng Guofan, who was already in Hanlin, reported to the Xianfeng Emperor, and in order to explain the work situation in detail, he also drew a picture, but this picture was ugly and caused ridicule from the Manchu ministers.
The third thing was: In the fourth year of Xianfeng, Zeng Guofan was defeated at Jinggang in Yuezhou. At that time, he wanted to commit suicide and martyrdom by diving into the water, but fortunately he was rescued by his staff, and after escaping back, he moved to the Gaofeng Temple in the south of the city to live in a small residence, and was despised and ridiculed by the officials and gentry of Jiangxi Province.
The fourth thing was: Xianfeng was defeated in Jiujiang in five years, Shi Dakai attacked the Xiang army's water camp in general, burned more than 100 Xiang army warships, Zeng Guofan was captured by boat, and later he fled to Jiangxi with a hard scalp, and then impeached the inspectors and envoys of Jiangxi; the next year when he was besieged in Nanchang, everyone in Jiangxi Province was schadenfreude. His relationship with jiangxi officials was even more so that almost no one could tolerate him.
However, after Zeng Guofan became famous, he did not hate them, retaliated against them, and even promoted some people.
We say that it is easier said than done, and indeed, who will not talk about the truth, how many people can be as tolerant and generous as Zeng Guofan? We can't always take the sages and great men to ask ordinary people, but we might as well change our thinking, is it really only good for others to tolerate others?
In fact, tolerance is responsible for oneself. Tolerance is the cure for harm, if the heart has always been loaded with hurt and hatred, life has become bleak, life is meaningless, is not indebted to yourself. By relaxing our minds, we can come out of our narrow limitations. Only when the heart is wide can life spread its wings and fly high; with a broad heart, life can open the sea and the sky.
Twenty-five hundred years ago, the old man replied to his disciple, "Whoever has a word that can be done for life?" When there is only one word "forgiveness", how much deliberation has been made and how much wisdom has been condensed!