Text: Shi Yi long affection
Not every emotion has a destination, I will interpret your heart.
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Someone on Zhihu asked: "Is there a clear line between like and love?" ”
The following answers are similar, but one of the high praises is very touching: "Like is strategizing, love is tied hands; like is reaching out to you, love is holding your hand tightly." ”
Admittedly, liking and loving are two states of feelings, but the difference between the two in essence is really obvious.
However, if you are moved by someone and fall in love, what you think about is the other party, as long as the other party is slightly nicer to you, you think that is love.
His sweet words move you, make you obsessed, and one of his moves makes your heart beat faster.
You think you have met the person who wants to be with you wholeheartedly, but you don't know that people's liking for you will only stay in the ambiguous stage, and they have not thought of developing with you for a long time.
That is to say, liking and loving are two different things, the difference is really obvious, don't be silly and can't tell the difference.
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Like is not to get to give up, love is unswerving to go on
It's like when you're shopping at the mall, you see something at a glance, but when you look at the price, you immediately lower your expectations.
Love is not the same, love is that although the price is very expensive, it is not within the scope of what you can afford, and you will remember it deeply, and you will run to see it every time you pass by.
A person who likes you may take the initiative to approach you, interact with you, and maintain an intimate relationship.
But he only feels good about you because you have something in it that fascinates or appreciates him.
Once the sparkle on your body dims or is not as dazzling as the others, he will choose to leave you and turn around and walk towards others.
The person who loves you is different, although initially he is impressed with you because you are very special, you are very good, but once he identifies you, his heart will never have another place.
No matter what happens in the future, he will unswervingly accompany you and walk with you.
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To like is to change you, and to love is to accept you
People who like you will be complacent because of your merits, and will stay away because of your inadequacies.
If you have a beautiful appearance and a slim body, he will always show off your beauty to others everywhere, and even compare with others.
However, if you are not outstanding in appearance and average in stature, he will not take you with him when he goes out to a party, and he will not take the initiative to introduce you in front of relatives and friends, for fear that you will make him lose face.
After a long time together, his words are full of disgust for you, and he hopes that you will make changes and be able to take them out like others, without the slightest regard for your feelings.
Conversely, the person who loves you, no matter what you look like, will accept and will not force you to change or ask you to be what he expects you to be.
Even if you have always been very ordinary, he will not change his mind about you, in his heart, you will always be the best and most special existence, no one can replace.
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Like is possessive, love is giving
In the relationship, with different people, you will always have different feelings.
Some people may not be cherished even if you give everything to him; some people can be full of emotions even though you have done nothing.
In fact, this is one of the most obvious differences between liking and loving.
People who like you say they like you, but they always reach out and ask for you, taking your efforts for granted.
No matter what you do for him and how much you give, he will not be grateful, but will think that this is what you should have done.
But the person who loves you will not be like this, he will not bind you in the name of love, nor will he reach out to you for it, he will feel sorry for your difficulty and cherish your efforts.
Those things that you have liked for a long time but are reluctant to buy, he will always surprise you unconsciously, and there is full of love between words and deeds.
That is, with someone who loves you, you don't need to open your mouth to get what you have in mind, and he will give you everything you want and fulfill your little wishes.
I especially like a sentence that Zhang Guorong said: If there is a good feeling, it is like, and if this kind of like can stand the test, it is love.
Liking is just a momentary heartbeat, after which there is no feeling, and love is the fixation of the heart after the heartbeat.
In this life, people will always be liked by many people, but it is difficult to be firmly chosen.
A person who likes you will bring you a short period of joy, but he will never be able to accompany you to the end.
And a person who loves you, although he has not made a touching vow to you, has proved with his actions that he will always be with you.
This is the difference between liking and loving.
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Author: Shi Yi Changqing, a southern girl who loves words and lives hard, every word has its meaning of existence, hoping to give you strength and help you be strong.