In 2010, Fang Qingzhuo successfully played the role of the villain Rong Mama in "Huan Zhu Gege".
In fact, the audience who is familiar with Fang Qingzhuo knows that she is very different from Grandma Rong.
In life, Fang Qingzhuo is cheerful and talkative, warm and kind, and always gives people a feeling of amiability and cuteness. And as a public figure, she has done many admirable acts of kindness.
For example, after she won the grand prize with "Runaway Mother", she took out 60,000 of the 200,000 prize money to give to the prototype character of the film, and 130,000 yuan was used for public welfare.
The last 10,000 remaining was also given to the female staff member who met because of the play, a child who was sick.
In addition, she has already made the decision to donate corneas. What is even more touching is that her actions have also driven her son.
It is reasonable to say that such a kind, know how to give a woman in love, in marriage should be very happy.
But in fact, Fang Qingzhuo's love life is not smooth sailing, she not only had a failed marriage, but also in the second marriage, she also had a small friction with her husband.
Fang Qingzhuo once said to his son, if it were not for you, your father and I would have divorced 100 times.
So what kind of past does Fang Qingzhuo have, and what is her relationship with her husband now?
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Fang Qingzhuo was born in 1955, because her mother is of mixed Chinese and Russian descent, so Fang Qingzhuo also has a quarter of Russian blood.
When Fang Qingzhuo was very young, her parents divorced. Later, Fang Mu and the poet Fang Bing met and fell in love, and naturally walked into the besieged city hand in hand.
Fang Bing is a very talented man, and the song "Singing Little Two Cowherds" that has been widely sung is his work.
Many years later, Fang Qingzhuo admitted in an interview that he was deeply influenced by his stepfather.
In her childhood, Fang Qingzhuo had a performance ability that surpassed others, and sometimes her mother made food and asked her to send some to her neighbors.
And every time he returns from completing the task, Fang Qingzhuo will show what everyone in the neighbor's house is doing, and his mother will always be amused by her.
In the early 1970s, Fang Qingzhuo, like most young people, participated in going to the mountains and going to the countryside. At that time, she was assigned to yingkou to join the queue.
In that vast world, Fang Qingzhuo sprinkled her youth, and soon she became a talented woman with a good reputation.
Around 1974, someone learned that the Yingkou Cultural and Labor Troupe was enrolling students, so they encouraged Fang Qingzhuo to try it, and Fang Qingzhuo also felt that this was a good opportunity.
Maybe she was really talented, and that time she was really successfully admitted to the Yingkou Literary and Labor Troupe. It can be said that since the age of 20, Fang Qingzhuo has officially embarked on the road of literature and art.
That year, in order to give their eldest daughter an unforgettable birthday, Fang Qingzhuo's parents came to Fang Qingzhuo in front of Fang Qingzhuo with a big truck pulling white ash from the factory and a carefully prepared photo album.
After all the bumps along the way, their faces looked all gray and funny. But opening the album, Fang Qingzhuo was almost moved to cry.
On the first page of the album, her father wrote her father's message to her: Zhuo'er, from today you are 20 years old, in the process of serving the people, you must leave your footprints.
It is this simple and unpretentious sentence that has always inspired Fang Qingzhuo and made her step by step onto a bigger stage.
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In 1979, Fang Qingzhuo was favored by the Shenyang Repertory Theatre, and thought that her career would go further from then on, but she did not expect that what awaited her was a series of failures and cold receptions.
At that time, movies were booming. Fang Qingzhuo has repeatedly participated in auditions in various domestic film studios, but he is always eliminated for one reason or another.
Counting up, she lost the election 9 times before and after, and later the people in the drama troupe ridiculed her as a "test star", and interestingly, the fire wind was also in this troupe at that time.
Although this made Fang Qingzhuo very devastated, as soon as there was a new audition, she was immediately resurrected with blood.
Perhaps God was touched by her persistence, and finally after the 10th audition, she was successfully selected by the crew.
I have to say that Fang Qingzhuo's fate is really tortuous, just when her career has turned around, her emotional life has problems again.
Fang Qingzhuo rarely mentioned her first marriage, she only admitted in an interview that although she did not live with her first husband for a long time, she was still depressed for a long time after the divorce.
Because of the divorce, she has always loved to talk and laugh, she has lost the ability to be happy, and she has become much more silent.
It seems that only work can make her forget her own thoughts, and Fang Qingzhuo is immersed in a person's world, until a few years later, she recovers and meets a love.
The male protagonist of Fang Qingzhuo's love is Shen Xiaomeng, who is 4 years younger than Fang Qingzhuo and is a videographer.
One is an actor and the other is a photographer, and their acquaintance naturally began in the crew. According to Fang Qingzhuo's later recollection, when filming that play, they spent only more than a month together.
But it was in this more than a month that they developed a good feeling for each other, Shen Xiaomeng was originally a taciturn personality, but there were so many people in the crew, but he liked Fang Qingzhuo, who could speak the Tao.
And Fang Qingzhuo? She could talk endlessly and energetically to anyone, but once Shen Xiaomeng appeared in her sight, she was like losing her tongue, revealing a rare delicate posture.
A month passed in a flash, and after filming that scene, they went to other crews.
One day, Fang Qingzhuo suddenly received a long-distance phone call at the shooting site, and when he heard Shen Xiaomeng's voice coming from the microphone, Fang Qingzhuo's heart was going to jump out.
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On that call, Shen Xiaomeng only implicitly told Fang Qingzhuo to pay attention to the weather and take care of his body. However, such a short few words made Qingzhuo, who was easily moved, burst into tears.
Shortly after the phone call, Fang Qingzhuo sent a telegram to Shen Xiaomeng, in which she said bluntly, thinking that she wanted you to love you day and night, every second.
It can be imagined how shocked Shen Xiaomeng should have been when he saw such a confession.
The reserved man quickly contacted Fang Qingzhuo and issued an invitation to her, saying that there is a film retrospective exhibition in Beijing, do you want to come and see it?
Beijing, the film exhibition, Shen Xiaomeng, any of which had a strong attraction for Fang Qingzhuo at that time, she quickly took a plane and flew to Shen Xiaomeng's side.
In this way, a sister-brother relationship began.
At first, Fang Qingzhuo did not dare to think of getting married, but with the take-off of her career, the matter of marriage was also brought to the table by Shen Xiaomeng.
In 1987, Fang Qingzhuo won the title of Best Actress at the Feitian Awards for the TV series "Snow Wild".
Seeing that his girlfriend had achieved such results, Shen Xiaomeng said to Qingzhuo, your career has reached a new level, and now you consider whether we want to be together in the end.
Fang Qingzhuo is a very temperamental person, her boyfriend's calmness makes her very distressed, she immediately said, how can you think like this! I don't care about that, I care about you as a person.
It was also in that year that 32-year-old Fang Qingzhuo and 28-year-old Shen Xiaomeng married.
A few years later, Fang Qingzhuo and Shen Xiaomeng's sons were born. They have a deep emotional foundation, and now that they have the crystallization of love, the little life should be sweet and happy.
But what makes people cry and laugh is that in the day-to-day relationship, the personality difference between them is becoming more and more obvious, and the two people are always quarreling because of trivial matters.
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Fang Qingzhuo is a person who is very willing to share her life, and even the conflicts with her husband will be told as jokes afterwards.
In her description, her husband, Shen Xiaomeng, gradually returned to rationality after her passion faded. He no longer liked Fang Qingzhuo's rhetoric, and he no longer embraced her affectionately in his daily life.
Fang Qingzhuo's expression of feelings is in his opinion an actor's occupational disease, and she lives her life full of life interest, and he also feels that it is flashy and unrealistic.
Fang Qingzhuo needs romance and longs for her husband to express her emotions in words like herself, but Shen Xiaomeng is addicted to her own world and rarely responds to her wife's emotional needs.
Sometimes, Fang Qingzhuo is rarely at home, and Shen Xiaomeng only cares about watching the ball with great interest.
QingZhuo, who had nowhere to vent his anger, turned over the diary of his long-deceased father-in-law, and poured his dissatisfaction with Shen Xiaomeng on the paper through the end of the pen in the form of a letter to the father-in-law of heaven.
When Shen Xiaomeng saw his weeping wife and the accusation she wrote in her father's diary, she finally took out some patience to comfort Qingzhuo.
But then came another collision of indifference and unrestrainedness.
For a long time after marriage, they will have some conflicts because of different concepts.
Divorce has also become a weapon that the couple hangs on their lips, once Fang Qingzhuo and Shen Xiaomeng were clamoring for a divorce, and their son asked softly with a frightened face, What should I do if you divorce me?
At that moment, looking at his son's uneasy look, Fang Qingzhuo's heart was about to break.
Later, even if the couple has different opinions, they will no longer quarrel with great fanfare and will no longer easily say the word divorce.
Perhaps it was the disappointment again and again that made Fang Qingzhuo lower his expectations. Perhaps it was no longer arguing, which gave her more time to listen, and gradually she found that her husband's goodness was even better.
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Although Shen Xiaomeng does not like to express love in words, in fact, he has done a lot of things silently.
The nanny at home once told Fang Qingzhuo that whenever she returned from filming, Shen Xiaomeng would fill the refrigerator with her favorite ingredients in advance.
Once Fang Qingzhuo said in small talk with his mother that Shen Xiaomeng had prepared bath water for her, but she did not expect her mother to say, I have given birth to several children for your father, and he has not spared bath water for me in this life.
Fang Qingzhuo listened to her heart move, this is something That Shen Xiaomeng does every day, and she has become accustomed to it.
When their family renovated the house, Fang Qingzhuo did not have a little heart, everything was Shen Xiaomeng was in charge.
He knew his wife's little mood, and specially bought a set of beautiful tables and chairs to put in the courtyard as a gift to welcome Fang Qingzhuo back from filming.
In addition, in the years when Fang Qingzhuo concentrated on filming, Shen Xiaomeng paid much more to her son than she did. It can be seen that although this man cannot say beautiful words, he cares about Fang Qingzhuo and this family.
It is worth mentioning that Shen Xiaomeng is not without his own career, he once served as a cameraman for the TV series "The Chief of a Village" starring Zhao Benshan.
A few years later, he also served as a producer for Zhao Benshan's TV series "The Chief of Ichigo". In recent years, Shen Xiaomeng's personality has become more and more calm, and he has gradually withdrawn from the film and television industry.
After thinking back to Shen Xiaomeng's silent goodness, Fang Qingzhuo finally convinced himself that her husband was not unable to express love, he was just not good at expressing it in words.
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Today, Fang Qingzhuo and Shen Xiaomeng have been together for more than 30 years, and they have already become a veritable old husband and wife.
Fang Qingzhuo filmed as always, sharing his life with the public as always. On the occasion of New Year's Day, she also recorded a small video of blessing netizens.
In the video, she is still so energetic that she can't see that she is a 66-year-old person.
Perhaps when marrying Shen Xiaomeng, Fang Qingzhuo hoped that love could always be the same. But in the polishing of the years, she has also changed her mind.
In a poem to her husband, Fang Qingzhuo wrote: Love is a pillow made of clouds in the sky, and the wind will disperse as soon as it blows.
Love is a strawberry on the table, and it is not fresh for a while. But home is still a place to talk about love, and what love needs most is to be grateful to each other.