"You wait, I'll steal the hukou and marry you!"
This is what the enthusiastic and cheerful Northeast actress Fang Qingzhuo said to Shen Xiaomeng.
It is said that the second marriage is for money, and Fang Qingzhuo's husband is an exception.
Her husband was misunderstood by the public as a soft rice man, and she was the first to come out to explain,
She said: "Behind a successful woman there must be a man who silently supports,
And my husband Shen Xiaomeng is my solid backing. ”
In 1955, Fang Qingzhuo was born in Dalian, Liaoning Province, and his parents were in love with a foreign country.
Dad is from Northeast China, Mom is Russian,
After marriage gave birth to her and her sister, and her parents divorced when she was 5 years old,
She was sentenced to her mother, her sister to her father,
Then he remarried with his mother and stepped on his father Fang Bing, saying that many netizens of Fang Bing may still know him.
The very well-sung song "Singing Two Little Cowherds" was created by him,
Not only that, he also wrote a lot of literary works.
Fang Qingzhuo influenced in such a family environment,
Played a crucial role in her future as an actor,
It also opened up the gap between her and her sister,
When she becomes famous, her sister wants to make extra money as an assistant for her,
She sent away her sister in the attitude of not supporting idle people at work, and her sister hated her for this.
She met her biological father 40 years later, and her sister also spread rumors that she did not care about her biological father.
In 1979, Fang Qingzhuo graduated from university and entered the Shenyang Repertory Theatre as an actor.
In 1981, he was selected by the director of the crew and participated in the TV series "The Last Train".
This debut film won her the third prize, once popular in Liaoning,
Fang Qingzhuo also strengthened his determination to become an actor in the future.
In 1982 she fell in love with a small clerk in the cultural unit,
After a year of love, Fang Qingzhuo decided to marry this man,
After the marriage, Qingzhuo still chose to continue to chase the actor's path, but her husband did not support it.
Fang Qingzhuo often went to other places to spend a lot of air ticket money in order to audition.
Even after spending all his money, he had to borrow his husband's, and after borrowing four times,
The man couldn't stand it and said:
"Fang Qingzhuo's acting is too enchanting, and he spends money first without making money.
How much money I have to be spent by you,
Is that man willing to stand such a wife? Divorce it! ”
Fang Qingzhuo didn't feel that he had done anything wrong, so he responded: "Then leave!" ”
The two married for half a year and it ended hastily.
Through this marriage, Fang Qingzhuo also completely understood a truth,
Men can't rely on it, and men who are worried about money can't want it.
Her audition is to invest in the acting career, everything needs a process, money is not earned casually,
Her husband did not understand her insistence and was not a fellow traveler at all.
Her first husband once pressed her and said, "That man can stand you? ”
It turns out that this is a scary sentence, but also a PUA,
Later, there were really men who could stand Fang Qingzhuo.
Not only do not blame her, but also silently support behind her back,
Take care of the rear at home, let Fang Qingzhuo an shoot with peace of mind, and be her strongest backing.
In 1983, the TV series "Drum Township Spring Dawn" wanted to recruit a heroine,
She spent 10 chances to audition for acting,
The Emperor did not pay off, and she finally got the opportunity to play the number one actress as she wished.
In 1986, because fang Qingzhuo's previous dramas were well received,
Then Liaoning TV invited to play the female widow "Wu Qiuxiang" in "Snow Wild",
Originally, she did not want to play the widow, until after reading the script of the crew,
She was moved by the plot to a mess,
So I changed my mind and came to play this female number one widow,
This is also the first time she has partnered with Zhao Benshan to shoot a TV series.
She won the "Feitian Award" in one battle, and the popularity of her career could not be lower than that of a complete hit,
But she did not ask for a penny of remuneration, and gave all of it to the crew.
You must know that this flying award is an international award, not everyone can get it,
Since she won this award, it shows that her acting skills are superb!
But she doesn't take money, like a new person coming to work in a big company.
Tell the boss: "I don't want money, I am very happy to let me work and study here",
In fact, this is a manifestation of not being confident in their own ability,
And big company bosses rarely use such people.
Fang Qingzhuo worked hard to shoot dramas but did not accept his labor remuneration,
This may also have been influenced by her ex-husband, who had a lot of unworthiness in her heart.
In 1989, Fang Qingzhuo's second spring came,
She met Shen Xiaomeng, a photographer 4 years younger than her, while filming in Shenzhen.
The two became acquainted because of the drama and began to "sister-brother love",
Fang Qingzhuo wanted to participate in the opening ceremony of the first release of "Good Fortune Boy" during his love,
Shen Xiaomeng didn't let him live or die, he hadn't seen him for too long,
Just met to leave, Shen Xiaomeng did not let her go,
He angrily refunded Fang Qingzhuo's ticket,
Who admits to also help Fang Qingzhuo avoid the crash,
From then on, Fang Qingzhuo regarded Shen Xiaomeng as a "life-saving benefactor".
There is a saying that ancient women were rescued, "There is no way to repay the grace of saving lives, only to promise each other with their bodies",
Fang Qingzhuo did the same, she took Shen Xiaomeng home to see her parents,
Her parents did not agree that she should marry a small photographer.
Fang Qingzhuo ignored dissuasion,
In 1990, she stole the household registration book from her home and Shen Xiaomeng received a permit in Shenyang.
A year later she was 37 years old.
At the risk of an elderly mother, she gave birth to her son, Jeff Shen, and the family lived happily.
Less than 100 days after giving birth to her son, Fang Qingzhuo was weaned and busy filming.
The whole house is left to her husband to take care of, to be her solid rear,
However, the first few years of marriage will inevitably produce friction and require both parties to run into each other.
Fang Qingzhuo is a northeastern big girl,
It is also common to lose your temper and hit the object during the love period.
Many people have heard of men beating their wives,
But in the northeast, many men are notoriously afraid of their wives.
After Fang Qingzhuo got married, she always wanted to lose her temper with her husband.
It will be remembered that it was her husband Shen Xiaomeng who let himself escape the air disaster.
Meditate in your heart: He is a savior and cannot be angry! Can't get angry!
Once she came home and wanted to lose her temper, she wanted to restrain her emotions,
So she thought about opening the window and going to breathe and calm down.
This action can frighten Shen Xiaomeng,
Lian Lian hugged him from his waist behind him and told Fang Qingzhuo:
"Don't do stupid things, get angry and scold me twice and you'll be fine",
It turned out that her husband thought she was stressed and wanted to jump off the building,
So hurriedly stopped down to comfort, Fang Qingzhuo felt flattered when he thought of it,
This man and her ex-husband are almost like two people,
Finding the right person is nourished everywhere in life.
Fang Qingzhuo is indeed very tired from filming, and it is normal to have negative emotions.
But sometimes I find myself talking too heavily,
He will also apologize to her husband in time to show weakness, and even learn to be spoiled,
First of all, Shen Xiaomeng is tolerant everywhere,
But as soon as Fang Qingzhuo's temper came up, his emotions were too hurtful to vent.
Husband Shen Xiaomeng was scolded by her for no reason,
It was also triggered by the emotions of wanting to talk to her twice.
A good marriage is not managed, but the other party is willing,
Women don't have to be Sherlock Holmes in marriage,
Be a poet in a feeling of disappointment, the more you care about men,
They are more troubled by gains and losses, emotional instability and internal friction.
It is better to focus on yourself and learn to truly love yourself.
Let yourself shine and adore men from the heart,
Let men also look at themselves,
Good love is mutual support, equal strength, mutual appreciation.
Once, my son came home from school.
Just happened to bump into Fang Qingzhuo and Shen Xiaomeng arguing,
The couple was arguing and didn't see their son come back.
Fang Qingzhuo was momentarily excited and said a harsh word in front of his son:
"What hope do you have for this day?"
If you think I have a big temper, then you look for the one who has no temper, let's get a divorce. ”
When the son next to him heard this, he cried out in fright,
Ran over to my mother and pleaded, "Mom, don't divorce your father, no one will want me when you divorce." ”
When Fang Qingzhuo heard his son's words, it suddenly stung her heart.
She realized she was talking too hard and scared the child.
Hurriedly sorted out the emotions and hugged the child and said:
"The baby does not cry, it is the mother who said the wrong thing, what the mother just said is a lie,
I will never divorce your father for the rest of my life, and I will not cry."
Since hearing his son's words, Fang Qingzhuo began to reflect on himself,
Adults quarrel and talk about small things, but it is a big thing to make children feel inferior.
She herself came out of a divorced family,
He didn't want his children to follow suit.
Since then, she has never mentioned divorce to Shen Xiaomeng again.
The couple has something to solve things, if the emotions are too big,
Then calm down and not hurt the whole family for the sake of their own emotional pain.
Many mothers don't have to worry about their own children, are they afraid of not kissing themselves?
We must unite with our children, and be a mother who wants to pursue a career boldly to chase,
After all, the world is very realistic, and those who can make money are more family status.
Are you saying it's really not true?
Looking back, Fang Qingzhuo also realized that his temper was big,
In the past few years of marriage, her husband Shen Xiaomeng has been tolerant enough to tolerate himself.
Shen Xiaomeng has paid a lot for this family over the years,
Especially in the matter of accompanying his son, being a father and a mother,
And he actually owes something to his son.
Although the husband always said: "You are suitable for being a star, not a mother." ”
I used to think about it,
But since realizing Shen Xiaomeng's dedication to the family for so many years,
And the encouragement and support for his career, Fang Qingzhuo was very grateful to him in his heart.
The reason why Fang Qingzhuo is emotionally unstable, many things have a sense of unworthiness,
Often humble and profane, it is because the ex-husband has PUA in her marriage,
So to a large extent, she blames herself and feels wronged,
So in the marriage she was covered with thorns,
As soon as someone else said she was wrong, the memory of her painful scene was awakened.
For a long time she was depressed,
Until the second marriage and Shen Xiaomeng together, she can slowly be true to herself,
Even if it is easy to get emotional, Shen Xiaomeng will accommodate him,
At this point, this man healed her to a great extent,
Everyone says that good feelings are mutual achievements,
Shen Xiaomeng is the one who is willing to achieve her.
As a comedian, Fang Qingzhuo cooperated with Zhao Benshan for the last time.
It is in "The Chief of a Village" and Zhao Benshan as a husband and wife,
Husband Shen Xiaomeng carried the camera to personally shoot her kiss scene with Zhao Benshan,
At that time, Zhao Benshan's wife was also at the scene, and the families of both sides were fully supportive of the acting career.
At that time, Fang Qingzhuo was embarrassed and broken, and her husband looked at himself kissing other men.
I also want to shoot it myself, just a sentence:
"You two take a good shot, I see how close you two can be!"
At that time, even Zhao Benshan himself was super nervous,
Fang Qingzhuo laughed afterwards and said that he had taken away Zhao Benshan's first kiss on the screen,
At that time, her husband Shen Xiaomeng did not think about these things.
Whether a man leaves you or not depends on,
Is the cost and cost of leaving you high?
Is it difficult to find another one like you who maintains the same quality of life treatment?
It's exactly the same as looking for a job, if a company is well paid,
Job hopping means that the dedication is too high and not cost-effective,
Then there is a high probability that the sweetness will be tasted and dried all the time.
After that, she chose to leave the northeast and go to the first-tier city of Beijing to develop.
When she personally took the information to the Beijing Youth Film Studio to talk about signing the contract,
The other party put forward the condition, saying that she was not from the class,
Older, not allowing her to settle in Beijing,
And the unit house and salary can not be wanted,
When the employment expires, it is automatically disassociated from the company.
Fang Qingzhuo was a resounding red in the northeast,
Now I am looked down upon like this, and I am in such a situation.
After her husband Shen Xiaomeng knew about this matter, he gave Fang Qingzhuo an idea:
"None of us should rely on each other, but develop independently on our own.",
So the whole family moved to Beijing to accompany Fang Qing Zhuoben's career,
With the full support of her husband Shen Xiaomeng,
Fang Qingzhuo also became calm and calm, and directly resigned the iron rice bowl of the Shenyang Repertory Theatre.
Devote yourself to the development of Beijing, open your own film and television company,
Use money to invest in your own filming,
A number of works were successfully produced in Beijing, and Fang Qingzhuo became famous.
Made a lot of money by ratings,
Bought a large house of 500 square meters in Beijing, and she finally settled in Beijing!
Later, beijing house prices soared, and many people said that Fang Qingzhuo was too investment-minded.
Fang Qingzhuo smiled and replied, "What! I wasn't confident.
I was looked down upon before, eager to prove that I can also settle in Beijing,
And buy a big house, not an older actress. ”
The decoration of that house was all done by Shen Xiaomeng himself.
Fang Qingzhuo was too busy filming to take care of it, and Shen Xiaomeng was fully responsible for the decoration of the house.
Simply no longer busy with work, take time to cook for his son,
By the way, take care of the housework, and be a father and a mother.
Occasionally Fang Qingzhuo had a few days off to go home,
Shen Xiaomeng also didn't need her to cook, saying that she just had to rest when she went home.
At that time, most of the family's economic resources were earned by Fang Qingzhuo's filming.
Their home configuration has changed a lot,
In the past, Fang Qingzhuo and Shen Xiaomeng raised a family together,
Later, Shen Xiaomeng went all out to become a family cook,
Take care of your son's three meals a day, take care of all the housework,
Once Fang Qingzhuo has a place in his career that needs his help,
He will also give advice in a timely manner.
The complete female protagonist outside, the male protagonist inside,
Fang Qingzhuo was very grateful to her husband for maintaining a large rear for her.
And she devoted herself to her acting career, making money in front of her to chase her dreams.
In 2011, Fang Qingzhuo played Chen Guixian in the movie "Runaway Mother",
Won the "Asia's Most Popular Artist Award" at the New York Film Festival,
After so many years, she finally got her wish and shined in the film and television industry.
Once on the show, some netizens commented:
"The two have been married for more than 30 years, and Fang Qingzhuo's husband is a soft rice man.",
She was the first to come out after seeing it to explain:
"In fact, my husband has paid a lot for me,
If I hadn't had him to help me take care of my family and son for so many years,
I simply couldn't have made my career what it is today!
He gave me advice in his early years,
I fully supported me to come to Beijing for development, and I am very grateful to him in my heart, it is he who has made me! ”
Now they've been married for 31 years.
Still together, no one can do without whom,
Netizens asked: "How do old husbands and wives keep their marriage fresh?" ”
Marriage psychology believes that children are the bond of family relationships.
Children can dislike their mothers, but they must like their fathers.
Fang Qingzhuo was busy running for his career all year round, leaving her husband alone at home.
He has not cheated for 31 years, all relying on the children to pestering and calling Daddy,
The relationship between father and son is good, and the father prefers to accompany the child, forming a positive cycle.
Both cultivate men's dedication to the family,
A sense of presence at home, and taking care of children and many things,
The child prefers to pestering his father, then he will not have time to cheat at all...
This trick is called "reluctant children can't trap Lang",
Most likely, the child helped tie the man.
Don't underestimate human nature, good marriage is never a marriage with love, but with human nature.
Good learning masters never insist on learning with willpower,
Never believe in their own willpower, or find a way to use physical means to help.
Human nature is the most untestable, so it is not tested at all.
The best way for a person to control himself not to play with his mobile phone is to put his hands elsewhere.
Even lock up and give the key to a friend, out of sight and not bothered,
Instead of confronting the environment, let the environment assimilate itself.
Many times we can't control ourselves, let alone be distracted from managing others.
Fang Qingzhuo set an example for his children in his career,
Just because she's not a housewife doesn't mean she's not a good mother.
Every word and deed of the child is to imitate the adult, how to deal with problems encountered, etc.
For example, a person who engages in a career wants to find a boss to take himself,
She will definitely not choose classmates who have a particularly good relationship with her.
Instead, choose someone who is not very familiar but seems to be particularly capable.
Sometimes people mix love with strength,
Children who love you will not necessarily support you,
But your strong child will definitely respect you,
True strength is peace, not to be preoccupied,
It is emotional stability, it is always able to bring a magnetic field of ability to people,
People can't help but get closer, admired, like.
Just like the most handsome person in China is Ma Yun,
Because he has hundreds of millions of talents, has more wealth and hundreds of millions, and regards money as dung,
Because he's a natural leader, would you hate being friends with people like that?
Isn't it better to get along and even convince the other person to help you?
Man is a social animal, and he must learn to see the essence clearly.
Become a valuable person, exchange value with value,
Instead of emotional blackmail, bind with love.
Everyone has a Strong psychology, and children imitate their parents,
There must be a bias to imitate the one that you think is stronger,
He will also have a lot of respect for his mother psychologically.
Because my own mother is better than other people's mothers!
Good pride! I like mom more!
When we compare children with other children,
Children will also imitate us comparing other people's parents with their own parents, and people are more popular than dead.
A mother is first herself, then the husband's wife, the mother of the child.
A full-time housewife is a woman's choice to pay for her family, but it's not the only option.
You belong to yourself first, and then you belong to your husband,
Then it belongs to the mother of the child, and then to the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it must be in order.
Now Fang Qingzhuo's son is 28 years old and has his own career.
Shen Xiaomeng loves Fang Qingzhuo very much, and Fang Qingzhuo feels that he has met this man.
Her life was complete, she got all she wanted,
I am the winner, get rid of family divorce,
Get rid of the PUA in marriage, meet a good husband to cultivate the heart,
Now the whole person is full of vitality, the mentality is getting more and more peaceful, and the life is very energetic!
Who suffers and who changes, Fang Qingzhuo changed his inferiority and bad temper,
Harvested a happy family, all say that the back of the comedian is a tragedy,
And she got rid of the past and lived happily and contentedly,
I also hope that more people meet the right people. Meet the man who is willing to grow old with a white head.