The two seemed to have reached some kind of tacit understanding, and Xiao Wang played with the computer mindfully, completely ignoring his wife. When asked if Xiao Wang had a good feeling for Xiao Xie, Xiao Wang thought about it and said that he didn't like Xie Huilan, it was just arranged by his parents, and his parents were happy.
He didn't like Xiao Xie's wife, so why did he agree to their marriage? Xiao Xie has been suffering from marriage for five years, why did she choose divorce at this time?
Some people say, "Marriage is a social problem, love is a physical problem."
Love that is not married can be sweet, and entering marriage without love is unforgettable pain.
Because everyone has the desire to be loved, and being deliberately snubbed by the other party, there will be resentment.
Love, on the other hand, may turn into hatred.
Xiao Xie and her husband Xiao Wang met through blind dates, both of them are not young, and their parents and fathers and mothers can't wait to do with them when they see that the two are quite matched.
Xiao Xie, who was urged to marry, also wanted to find a stable family, she and Xiao Wang had only met several times, only met for 15 days, and were already engaged.
Xiao Xie didn't know what was going on with the other party, but everyone around him said that he could cultivate feelings, and as long as people were honest, they could live well.
Xiao Wang is a very honest person, does not like to talk, does not smoke, does not drink, has a stable job, and his only hobby is to play games.
On the wedding day, the two people sent the guests away, and Xiao Xie was waiting for the groom, hoping that he could talk to himself and imagine his future. Xiao Wang said, "I'm sleepy, you go to sleep." ”
Xiao Xie can also understand that she always feels that her husband is very hard, from busy in the morning to the evening, and to receive so many customers, it will definitely be very tired.
But she never expected that after getting married, her husband's attitude towards her has been very cold, either playing games or playing mobile phones, she tries to communicate with her husband, he always "um", "ah", "good" answers, leaving her a little speechless.
Women all want faces, Xiao Xie has bitterness in his heart and can't say it, so he has to grit his teeth and endure.
Some people may say that Xiao Xie directly told his parents to let them help.
She still had a glimmer of hope in her heart that her father-in-law and mother-in-law treated her well, that she would prepare dinner for them, wait for them to return, and then they would eat together, and then come home, and that her mother-in-law would regularly clean her room and clean the house.
The only thing that disappointed her was that Xiao Xie had not been pregnant, so her mother-in-law would bend over backwards to suggest that they do a physical examination, and Xiao Wang also went to do a check-up, and found that her body was very good, no big trouble, so she set her sights on her daughter-in-law.
On weekdays, he often buys some nutritional products for his daughter-in-law, and even suggests that his daughter-in-law exercise more, Xiao Xie thought that the two would have feelings after getting along for a long time, but he did not expect that she still looked up to her husband, Xiao Wang has always been lukewarm to her, and even the friends in the dormitory are not as good.
Under the persecution of his parents, Xiao Xie said all the resentment in his heart, and his mother was angry on the spot, saying that this man was cheating on marriage, a woman can live for five years, you don't want to live, why marry your own daughter?
In the end, the matter could no longer be hidden, and the couple quarreled over divorce.
When it comes to the divorce, Xiao Xie said to the staff: "We have been married for 5 years, my first kiss is still there, he has never shook my hand. ”
Xiao Wang leaned back on the bench, leaned forward slightly, did not speak, did not give any explanation, and agreed to the divorce.
The old woman had a lot of criticism of Xiao Xie: "As a wife, you have to take care of your husband, is it not good?" I don't know, you don't divorce, cultivate more feelings. ”
Xiao Xie really couldn't help it, she said that she had tried her best, but in front of a man who didn't like himself, she couldn't do anything.
As for the property, Xiao Xie calculated that he had spent a total of three hundred thousand, and originally did not want more, that is, to earn back the previous hard work, but the father-in-law did not agree, saying that at most he would give two hundred and fifty thousand.
This made him feel funny, the divorce was not discussed by Xiao Xie and his father-in-law and mother-in-law, but Xiao Wang sat next to him expressionlessly.
His marriage was arranged by his parents, his divorce was also helped by his parents, and his marriage has always been a piece of wood, without any emotion, without any emotion, only with a feeling of indifference.
She wanted to change, but she couldn't wake up the person who pretended to sleep, for her mother-in-law's sake, she forgave him, but she felt that it was her responsibility not to have children.
She finally saw herself clearly and boldly filed a request for divorce, and although she could have foreseen it, she had the right to ask for a divorce.
Xiao Xie immediately called a lawyer, who said that the house was their common property, and their names were on the property deed, and she had the right to fight for it.
Once I heard the lawyer say this, I didn't say two words, and I promised Xiao Xie three hundred thousand without saying two words, and my attitude changed drastically, I was afraid that Xiao Xie would change his mind, and it also made us see the truth of a marriage, when the marriage cannot be sustained, all feelings will become interests.
How much harm can a marriage without feelings do to a woman?
Liu Shufen has a profound interpretation of this, she married her husband, the two did not say a word, not even a glass of water.
In the eyes of others, Liu Shufen is a fiery temper, and she can't move to play with her husband, but only she herself knows that her husband's coldness, like a knife, cut her heart open, so that her emotions cannot be vented.
She had a very hurtful passage: "Other people look at me and beat you, scold you, how you hit me, they don't know." ”
If you like someone, then you will cherish it, and if you don't like it, then you will give up.
Before we enter the palace of marriage, we should pay attention to three points, not just see each other's appearance.
First, their values are not the same.
The three views are different, there is no need to force, no matter how handsome he is, we must stay away.
The three views between people, not because you love to eat spicy, but because you love to eat spicy, he will say spicy in front of everyone, you love to travel, he said you don't care about your family.
When two people's interests are different, he will belittle your hobbies and let you adapt to him, if you don't like it, it is psychological pressure that makes you gradually lose confidence.
Couples who live together know how to do it, and even if they have similar interests, they will respect each other and appreciate each other's strengths.
Second, how their parents got along.
A person's character is closely related to his origin.
The more you pay attention to their parents, there is a good chance that it will become your future lifestyle, and once married, the powerful in-laws will try to transform you into the way they want you to be.
Men have long been accustomed to the life of their parents, and the concept of "black under the lights" makes him not reflect, and naturally brings the ideas of his parents into his own small home, either to adapt or to be transformed.
Third, whether the lowest-level personality can be accepted.
Whether a marriage can last depends on the moral bottom line of both parties.
People's emotional reactions are usually based on an intuition.
Some people will shout, some people will close the door, some people will do something hurtful, some people will slowly adjust their mood, which has a lot to do with their personality.
If you can accept her angry look, there is a good chance that after marriage, you will be very happy, understand each other's bottom line, find the right way, and the relationship between the two will get better and better.
The quality of marriage, taking care of the rest of one's life, really can't be careless.
When it comes to making compromises or decisive choices, everyone has their own ideas, divorce is only the worst way, no matter which one, in the end, it will be unfavorable to themselves.
The best way is to get to know each other before getting married, and avoid flash marriage, which is a responsibility for your own life.