Deconstruct love and marriage

Q: What does a woman's love depend on?

Yin moves with yang, and if yang doesn't move, a woman's love is gone.

Simple understanding, men give gifts is love, willing to spend time with love, always care is love.

A woman who says you don't love him, so to speak, doesn't answer her phone the first time; it can also be said that she won't give her gifts.

Where do these ideas come from?

It may be a passage from an idol TV series,

It may be a heartless word from a girlfriend,

It may also be a passage of vibrato.

Wait a minute

Anyway, she believes it, it doesn't matter what you say.

Q: How can emotions be let go?

My client was hurt so much that they asked me how I could let go.

I said: Like him, you can't put it down; if you like him, you can easily let go.

Everything is less liked, more appreciated, you can have less anxiety and irritability.

Liking is possessive, appreciating is not possessive.

To possess is to want to be greedy, to be greedy, to not get it, to be anxious and irritable.

Q: What exactly is marriage?

Marriage has always been a clear card, and people will not doubt what they often see.

That is, it does not respect common sense.

Legal definition: a long-term contract of voluntary equality.

What are the components of a voluntary and equal contract?

1. Two people jointly create wealth and share wealth;

2. Cooperate in reproduction;

3. Emotional maintenance.

Among them, 2 is related to 1 and also related to 3, and the higher the material level of development, the weaker the association between reproduction and marriage will be.

Singles can also give birth legally, the emergence of sperm banks.

If material prosperity is extreme, then the only factor in the existence of marriage is emotional bonding.

Q: What is the wisdom of marriage?

The third point is the weakness of human beings, the wisdom of human nature determines the level of life, and the understanding of emotion determines the level of happiness of marriage.

I have seen that most couples are also Xiao He and Xiao He are defeated.

The faster the good, the faster it breaks, all because of the lack of understanding of emotions.

Marriage is a combination of reason and sensibility, as defined by law.

Assuming that people are 100% rational, then sensibility is a dispensable state, like a luxury consumer goods, you can buy some if you want, you can not want it or you don't want it.

But people are all emotional, they all have to live in inner pain, and their desires are wanton, that is, they want love and they want freedom.

To want to love is to want to possess, to prove one's existence by possessing the other person.

Possessing each other's thoughts, thinking, thinking, all want to be free, all want to live their lives according to their own wishes.

The more emotional the more bad the marriage, the more rational it is, the more it can last.

A long marriage is a sign of wisdom.