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Life is a process of continuous growth, continuous possession, and constant farewell.
If we compare life to mountaineering, then in the first half of our lives, we are constantly picking up, those connections and resources that we think are important, then the indispensable love, friendship and affection in our lives are an inseparable part.
When you reach middle age, you start to go down the mountain.
Rather than constantly picking it up, we should learn to let go, and gradually you will understand and see through many truths, such as: can not overestimate human nature, can not overestimate any love.
Sometimes, your sincerity cannot be exchanged for sincerity, but only for disappointment, hurt and betrayal.
If this is the case, why hold on to it? There are three kinds of feelings, only by giving up early can you embrace happiness, and I hope you can also understand it as soon as possible.
One: It will only use you and hurt your affection
Affection is something we cannot choose, and the parents who gave birth to us and raised us, the brothers and sisters who accompany us day and night, etc., are all people who are crucial to us.
But as we get older, we will gradually find that family affection will also deteriorate. Just as some parents are gone in life, brothers and sisters are no longer kissed, sometimes it is the relatives who hurt you the most.
Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy" has been loved by her parents since she was a child, and she also has a particularly selfish brother. If Fan Shengmei had seen the indifference of family affection earlier, maybe she would not have had such a hard time.
She worked alone in Shanghai, and it was not easy for her to live, and in order to save money, she could only share a room with others. Her parents never cared about her life, only reached out to her for money.
In order to make her parents happy, Fan Shengmei will send money back on time every month, buy a marriage house for her brother, and even raise children for him.
But even if Fan Shengmei has taken such pains to manage family affection, in the end she still can't get a little pity from them.
After 40 years old, the affection without love is really worthless, but unfortunately some people are reluctant to let go.
If you don't want to live a life of grievances and pain, after middle age, those family affections that need your trouble to manage, stay away as soon as possible. No matter what you do, you can't touch the other person, and your sincerity is only endlessly hurt.
Two: It will only consume you and make you feel troubled and laborious friendship
Basically everyone has experienced useless socializing, which refers to relationships that are not beneficial to you, but only consume you and waste your time and energy.
When you are young, you feel that there are many friends and many roads, and in middle age, you must understand that not all people can be called friends.
Chen Xu said that when he was in his twenties, his heart was not mature enough, even if he did not like social occasions, but in order to appear sociable, he would still force himself to join.
He began to try to be like the people around him, learn to pat himself on the back, get along with different people, and communicate with different tones and postures.
In order to be able to successfully sign contracts with customers, Chen Xu also took shortcuts to obtain more information that was beneficial to him. But these efforts, in the end, did not bring him any help, but just wasted time.
Chen Xu felt that his behavior was ridiculous, if he could be sober, maybe he would be able to take fewer detours.
In middle age, Chen Xu realized that he should change, and he no longer spent time participating in meaningless socializing, but learned to create a better life on his own.
In the end, Chen Xu also got his wish and got closer to his ideal self.
After forty years old, meaningless social networking is really worthless, fortunately Chen Xu has understood this truth, but there are still many people in real life who are reluctant to let go.
The more people want to seem gregarious, the harder it is to manage their own lives.
Only by unswervingly following your own path and not trapping yourself in useless social interactions can you maximize the value of your time and energy and not waste it.
Three: Love that will only affect you and make you feel sad and hopeless
Sometimes, many people can't let go of a love, not because they can't let go of the person themselves, but because they can't let go of the obsession in their hearts.
You know that two people are impossible, but you are not willing to let go of the past, and you do not want to start a new relationship. Come to think of it, does it make sense to do this?
The presence of the other person will only affect you, make you feel sad and desperate, and there is no other use than disrupting your pace and affecting your plans to move forward. If so, why torture yourself?
Only by letting go can we usher in a new life.
Sooner or later, one day you will understand that having no reason is the norm, and we must learn to say goodbye to certain people and certain things throughout our lives, even if we do not give up, we must be fierce and decisive.
Many things in life, want to take easy, but it is difficult to put down, people to middle-aged us, only learn to let go, the future road can go more smoothly.
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