Today I want to discuss a matter with you, I have contacted a lot of parents, and now I am preparing to take my children to travel, because it is going to be winter vacation, many have travel plans, although the epidemic is current (however, this year's restrictions should not be as strict as last year)."
Most of the places they travel are places that some adults find very meaningful, such as Taishan, all kinds of famous mountains and rivers, or some of these Internet celebrity punch points. In general, this logic is no problem, traveling well, traveling thousands of miles, it must be a good thing! But in fact we overlook a problem, there is an old saying in the education circle " In the eyes of children, there are no seven wonders in the world." Instead, there are seven million. ”
Can you understand this logic?
It is the child's perspective on the world that is more exciting than ours. Not because he doesn't know anything, but rather, because they can see the world from their own point of view, from this point of view of learning (growth), which is better than us adults. We are based on experience, based on our own values, worldview, in fact, we look at a lot of things, the angle will be narrower, and the things we learn are actually very closed. But the children are just the opposite, so this year's epidemic, let's not talk too much about the epidemic problem, we mean that under normal circumstances, spend a lot of money or spend a lot of time on the road, and then go to a punch card, a scenic spot, how much help to the child?
In fact, it is very small.
In fact, if it is the purpose of education, it is recommended that parents should take their children and have a deep understanding of the city or even an area where they live.
First, we can spend more time with our children in the same time, such as three days, without spending time on the road or accommodation and other chores.
Second, by letting your child know about the city, you can also make him more aware of the history of the city, about other students, and our (real) living environment, which is actually very important.
In other words, let me give you a simple example, for example, if you go to Beijing to work and are ready to settle down, then after you get to Beijing, you will indeed go to the Summer Palace, the Great Wall, and the Bada, but what you really need to be familiar with is the hutongs (commercial streets) of Houhai, Xidan, and Nanluoguxiang, right? You're definitely going to hang out on the Second Ring Road or even take the subway, because you have to understand the city so that you can live a better life in the city.
Children are the same, children most of the time is two points into a line, from school to home, home to school, and then we parents feel, oh, should let the children grow up to see, then I take you to the United States, I take you to Japan, this has not improved his own life? Of course, I also want to go, and I am willing to go often, but it is better to start from the side, dig out the details of life and the city, and let the children find wonderful and beautiful in the daily (pay attention or ignore) things.
Third, should we let our children develop this kind of travel habit from a very young age? This is a blind spot in the thinking of many of us, we think that only this kind of famous mountains and rivers are helpful to him, he needs to see this kind of thing, he can have a broad vision, he can have a magnificent world view, values. In fact, it is not like this, people's world view and values, on the contrary, are based on habits and small things, accumulated over time and gradually formed, it is based on small things, based on details, no one has formed their own world view because they climbed Tarzan once and watched the sunrise of Tarzan once. It is precisely in these small things and small details of chai rice oil and salt that we can improve our own life experience.
Don't think that children are happy only when they watch the sunrise on the top of Mount Tai, they can find happiness all the time. This is also what I often tell parents, don't underestimate your child's ability to get joy. They don't say that they have to fly to Japan, to Hawaii, to Africa, to Turkey to get happiness, at any time, as long as the adult is willing to pay attention, you are playing cards with him for an afternoon, playing werewolf killing, in fact, he can harvest full of happiness.
Of course. If you are not bad for money, you are willing to cultivate your child's vision early, and you are willing to fly to the United States every weekend, of course, it will not stop you.
I'm talking about most people, most ordinary parents, we don't really have to worry about whether to take the child out to travel, whether to spend a lot, a lot of money for the child, more companionship, with the child's perspective and thinking to think, in fact, for the child, the best happiness. Having a pair of eyes that are good at discovery (vision) is a good gift for every parent to give to their children.
I hope that this winter vacation, everyone can use this method to bring more happiness to children. Dig into the details around you, taste the real life, accompany with your heart, and take care of it, and your child will have a better vacation.
Of course, also out of the consideration of the epidemic, it is strongly recommended that parents do not work hard to hurt the people, waste the better growth of their children, and do not use the eyes of adults to bind children, the world in their eyes is wonderful everywhere!