The way parents get along with young children: it is better to give orders than to play games

Through the usual games, let the child abide by some taboos or rules, let the child learn some habits that should be learned, and let the child be more obedient in the effect, which is a good thing to get more in one fell swoop. A child's mother has personal experience and original games, hoping to help troubled parents.

The way parents make false instructions

1. The content of the instruction itself

Compared with adults, babies, whether it is the degree of brain development or mind, are far from the standard of normal communication, so the way of communication with them cannot be carried out according to the standards of adults, that does not work.

For example, if you want to express the meaning of ''Let the child go to dinner', if you say,' Baby, come here, let's go to dinner. Younger children may not understand much or take a long reaction time, but if you say' 'Go to dinner',' they can get a good sense of what their parents want to say.

Communicate with the baby, the key is to be concise, as little as possible with modifiers, 1-5 words per sentence, this level of short sentences children under 3 years old can almost understand, this is very critical, after all, you want to make children obedient, always make sure they know what their parents are saying, right? If you can't understand it, what else do you talk about doing what you're told?

2. Attitude when giving orders

Child psychologist Piaget believes that from 3 months, babies can judge the emotional changes of adults through their parents' facial expressions and speaking tones, not only that, they will also make a variety of different emotional feedback for different emotions.

That is to say, in infancy, although children cannot understand what their parents say, they can understand the basic properties of their parents' feelings.

The problem is that this skill brings a problem, when the parents give instructions with emotions, the child's brain will prioritize the processing of emotional information, such as parents are very fierce to the child, they often only care about crying, but there is no response to the content of the instruction, often require parents to repeatedly emphasize in order to do things according to the parents' requirements.

Many parents lose their temper because of their children's performance, in fact, they are wrong to blame the baby, not that the child himself does not want to obey, but that their brain will spontaneously block the message.

Therefore, if the baby is to be obedient, the parent's attitude is very critical. In addition, the way parents want their babies to be obedient is also very important.

Play games with your child

If your child always ignores your "no"

When the mischievous baby rushes straight to the street, and you shout "stop stop stop" in the back, he also ignores it, when the curious baby picks up the sharp knife on the board, although you are about to be scared to death "no, no, no", for him can only arouse a greater desire to "challenge"... Admittedly, when "no" is used too much, they are nothing more than a bunch of white noise!

Try this game

I played this game with my child and his friends: with the music, everyone was doing all kinds of things, reading, dancing, jumping, etc., and suddenly, I turned off the music and shouted "popsicle", and no matter what you were doing, you had to stay in the current state and not move, like a popsicle frozen. After they liked and got used to this kind of "quick freeze", I tried to get rid of the music and shout "popsicles" directly to "freeze" them. Children love this kind of game, even in non-play time, they are willing to stay still because of the "popsicles". So I left words like "no" and "no" to non-urgent situations than if I had to eat an extra cookie or scratch my hair while playing. And "popsicle" became our safety word—because it made him really stop, and even more because it was associated with fun games. Whenever I shout "popsicle," Guoguo will no longer ignore me. Most importantly, it gave me enough time to stop the danger he was trying to touch.

If the child doesn't like to share much

It's not surprising that children don't like to share, because "sharing" or "taking turns" usually occurs when they are having something they like — because they like it, they don't want to let go, because they don't want to let go, so there's a situation where "it's time to play ××× for a while"...

We took out Papa Guoguo's very cowboy belt and announced to the whole family that now, everyone can wear this belt for a while, but when asking for it, we must say: "Hello, can I wear this belt?" "Thank you" for words like that.

So, Dad wore it first. After a while, Guoguo would go to him: "Hello Daddy, can I wear this belt?" Thank you!" And he put it on.

After a while I went to look for Guoguo: "Hello baby, can I wear this belt?" Thank you!" Guo Guo happily untied his belt for me. Within minutes, he ran over and begged in the same words, and I gladly returned it to him. We'll also choose a scarf that belongs to me, or a stuffed bear that belongs to Guoguo to do this game.

Later, when Guo Guo was in kindergarten or at a children's party, when he encountered the problem of "taking turns", although he was still reluctant, at least he was able to give it, and knew that what he loved could "take turns" back into his hands.

If the child is too curious

I have children at home, and of course, I'll lock things like sanitizer and detergent in the cupboard. But things like pots, flour, spices, things like that don't have to be locked up because of danger, I still don't want my baby to move around. And, if everything is locked up, that's too much of an exaggeration. Children like to discover, to "dig", how to satisfy their curiosity, but also not to make people headaches, not to mess up, not to let us just do what a child should do and scream...

When Guo Guo rushed to the kitchen drawer again when I was not ready, I stopped him, led him, walked to the drawer of the knife and said to him, "This, Guo Guo can't move!" Then he turned to the rope behind him with a few rags and said to him, "This, the fruit can be moved, it can be used to wipe the table." "Pointing to the cabinet with the dishes and chopsticks told him not to move, pointing to the tidying box where some scratch paper was stored and telling him that he could move, telling him that his parents' desk drawers were not fruity, telling him that he could take any book on the bookshelf.

After walking through the whole house, I found that when he walked to a closed drawer or door again, he would pause and think about it, and say the words "fruit can move" or "fruit can not move" in his mouth. The same can be done when visiting a friend's house, introducing him in advance some important taboos—which, of course, must be accompanied by at least the same number of permits—and what he can and cannot.

This saves you a lot of energy and time in order to pull him away from things he shouldn't have touched.

If the child shoots too recklessly

There was an incident at a friend's house: he took the child to the exhibition, and the 3-year-old boy naughtily twisted the hand of a statue and twisted it off. But did you know that the statue is a 200-year-old antique, wrapped in a blanket and transported from Belgium in a special plane... When you think about it, it makes you break out in a cold sweat! His family has been haunted by this matter for a long time...

To avoid such serious "accidents" that should never have happened, I thought of a cartoon we watched in which the fairy healed an injured bunny and lightly tapped her finger on the rabbit's leg, and the bunny jumped alive again.

So, when we go out somewhere, I will point out to him something that needs to be touched gently, gently, with only one finger, like a fairy healing a rabbit, and remind him at any time: "This, touch it with the finger of a fairy!" At first, the child will be interested, but there are too many things that need to be careful, and he will get bored - because it is too tired! Doesn't fit their rude "style".

In this way, he will shift his focus to other points and will no longer be interested in touching things that are easily "touched" by them.

If the child's "fairy tale" is embarrassing to the parent

Honesty is always a good thing. However, when Guo Guo opened the gift box given to him by his uncle and said, "I don't want this, I already have it", the scene always makes the parents feel embarrassed. It's like a child who says to a person without hesitation, "Your hair is really ugly today" or to a person with a sick foot, "How do you walk crookedly and obliquely?", fairy tales, although forgivable, need to be changed.

The next day we're going to a Christmas party at a friend's house, and the day before I'd mobilize everyone in the house to find something very "broken" as a prop for a game like giving each other gifts.

Dad will find a dead leaf, Guoguo will find a sponge to wash dishes, Grandma will take half a piece of soap, I will take an empty bottle...

We sat down together and started giving gifts, but the requirement was that everyone praise the gifts that someone else had sent!" The color of this sponge matches my clothes very well! Thank you!"" This empty bottle can be used as a vase for me, thank you!" ......

Also ask your child if he would be happy if someone else appreciated the gift he gave. Thus, if the child can say its merits to half a bar of soap, then when he receives a gift from someone else, he will certainly be able to find its "advantages" without being impolite because it is not what he wants.

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