When having a child at the age of 67, many people's first reaction is: "Is there really enough ability to raise children?" ”
An aunt in Zaozhuang, Shandong Province, Ms. Tian, who gave birth to a child in a dispute at the age of 67, could not understand the children, and even offered to sever the relationship and refused to accept the sister.
Some media also believe that parents are irresponsible for their children, and if they do not have the ability to accompany their children to grow up, the younger daughter may become a burden for their children.
A netizen's message was impressive, he said: "Any dispute is meaningless, need to let time to prove, it is recommended to look at this matter in 2 years, maybe there is an answer." ”
Now that 2 years have passed, how is this family doing? Let's get closer to them.
Natural pregnancy, should I give birth to a child?
Ms. Tian turned out to be an obstetrician-gynecologist, and her husband, Mr. Huang, is a lawyer, and both of them have raised a son and a daughter, and they have both started a family.
After retiring from the unit, Ms. Tian has been paying attention to exercise, her physical condition is very good, she is like many retired elderly people, planted a vegetable field downstairs, and usually likes to be busy in the vegetable field.
Mr. Huang is also in good health, he still works in the law firm, the two retiree salaries plus his income is more than 10,000, there is no financial pressure, life is very regular.
One day, Ms. Tian felt uncomfortable in the stomach, she went to the hospital to prescribe some drugs to promote digestion, who knew that after returning home, she found that she saw red, she was frightened, ran and did B ultrasound.
The doctor told her that she was pregnant, Ms. Tian couldn't believe it, she was a doctor herself, she knew her body condition very well, menstruation had been abnormal, it had reached the age of menopause, and the probability of natural pregnancy at the age of 67 was very small, she felt incredible.
But the truth is there, she hesitates to do it or not, the children have already started a family, the eldest granddaughter is in college, the younger granddaughter and grandson are also in middle school, this time to have a child, it is easy to be laughed at by the people around her.
Husband Mr. Huang is more rational than her, he feels that the two are physically tough, there is also a certain economic foundation, and the natural pregnancy at such an old age is a miracle in itself, and the crystallization of love should be cherished.
Slowly, Ms. Tian also changed her mind, she felt the fetal movement, and she had a sense of joy of being a mother.
Find the rhythm of life, the younger daughter grows the more cute
On October 25, 2019, Ms. Tian gave birth to her next baby girl by caesarean section in the hospital, weighing 5 pounds.
Some media got the news and ran to the interview, Mr. Huang's domineering words were impressive, he said to the camera: "I earn more than 10,000 a month, and I am fully capable of raising." ”
On the surface, Mr. Huang is full of confidence, but in fact, he is under a lot of pressure.
First, children do not accept it.
Mr. Huang's children have families, and they can't understand their parents, thinking that they have reached the age of old age, and raising another child will be very stressful.
After the children's persuasion was fruitless, they even said that they had severed their relationship, and when Ms. Tian gave birth to the child in the hospital, none of them went.
Mr. Huang was mentally prepared, he said that he would try his best to raise, there was really no way, just find someone to adopt, certainly will not add burden to the children.
Second, the pointing of the people around you.
With the spread of the news, many people know that there is a pregnant woman in Zaozhuang who gave birth to a child at the age of 67, named "Tianci".
Mr. Huang does not care what others say, but Ms. Tian is very concerned, she saw some comments on the Internet, the mood is very depressed, there are symptoms of postpartum depression.
Her husband enlightened her that the days were her own, why should she care what others said, as long as xiao Tianqi was healthy, there was nothing.
When he was discharged from the hospital, Mr. Huang cooked by himself, planted vegetables by himself, and went to buy farmhouse eggs and rapeseed cooking oil to supplement his wife's nutrition.
Xiao Tianci was slightly older, Mr. Huang took his wife and children to work, the unit took care of him, gave Mr. Huang a suite, the front is the office space, the back is a lounge, Ms. Tian with the child to play in it.
Busy until the afternoon, Mr. Huang went to pick up the little granddaughter, the little granddaughter lived with them, he was responsible for the pick-up, and then the family went to the vegetable field to go around, watered the vegetable field and weeded it, and brought back some vegetables for dinner.
Although life is busy, but every day is very fulfilling, Mr. Huang sighed, with a small gift, his blood pressure is normal, climb 5 floors in one breath without panting.
After the daughter saw her mother return, she couldn't help but come to visit, bought shoes for her mother to wish for peace, and picked up her little sister who was dozens of years younger than herself, perhaps a close relative, and the little sister smiled at her.
This smile made the eldest daughter unable to let go any longer, she hugged her little sister and loved it, and the original worries disappeared.
The son also accepted his sister, saying that if his parents were older, he would take on the responsibility of his brother, take care of his sister's growth, and let Mr. Huang drop a stone to the ground, in the end, blood is thicker than water, family affection, is a constant concern.
Acceptance, a family with a happy and harmonious relationship
Xiao Tianci is more than 2 years old, the longer the better, her lively and cute appearance is also loved by many people.
Every time Mr. Huang and Ms. Tian went out with their daughters, the neighbors would come around to tease the children, and the children did not recognize the birth, and grinned when they saw people.
When Xiao Tianci was just born, some merchants offered to sponsor milk powder and diapers for the child, but Mr. Huang refused.
In his opinion, it is more important to give the child a peaceful life, and the couple's income is enough to maintain the needs of the child's growth.
He learned a lot of parenting methods, in terms of taking care of children, not worse than young parents, more than 2 years old, height and weight are normal children's level, can sing nursery rhymes, will also count to 10.
After experiencing the baptism of years, Mr. Huang does not intend to train his children to be a bully, he prefers that Xiao Tianci has broad insights and can grow up healthily.
Therefore, he will take his children out for a walk when he has time, and the family of three will run to travel, so that children can see the beauty of the rivers and mountains of the motherland.
Today's family has long accepted Xiao Tianci, Mr. Huang's daughter will go home to take her sister when she has time, help her mother reduce stress, and her son often returns home to reunite, so that Xiao Tianzi can feel the warmth of a big family.
Having children at an advanced age is not unique in life.
For example, Sheng Hailin gave birth to twins at the age of 60, but their situation is different, Ms. Tian belongs to the natural pregnancy, which is really rare among 60-year-old women.
Xiao Tianci can grow up healthily, and Ms. Tian and Mr. Huang, as parents, must have paid a lot, and also let the people who questioned it see a beautiful answer.
The road of life is their own way, there is no standard answer, choose the right path for yourself, there is no need to care about other people's opinions.
Let us bless the little gift together, grow up happily, and be surrounded by love every day.
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