After reading: "The Courage of Happiness", your life can be chosen by yourself

This is an era of individuality, as if everyone has the freedom they want, to choose the way they want, the job they want, and even their friends. But in fact, there are very few people who can really do this in real life, and those who can't make choices for their own lives, some of them have been bound and bound by certain ideas since childhood, and they are not in a real state of adulthood, and they are still waiting for the help of others when facing choices, and they cannot make choices for themselves that suit them.

I just finished reading the relevant content in "The Courage to Be Happy": your life can be chosen by yourself. The philosopher proposed to the youth that as educators, when children make mistakes, if they are ordered to write apology letters or reviews, the purpose is only to obtain forgiveness, not to reflect at all, and there is no other meaning than to enable the writer to obtain a certain degree of self-satisfaction, but to ask about their way of life. Kant said that man's underage state does not lie in a lack of reason, but in the absence of the teachings of others who lack the determination and courage to use his own reason, that is, it is his duty to be out of a minor state. Without a state of true self-reliance, all abilities from reason to sensibility, the philosopher said, must show their intellectual courage. Generally speaking, we will live easily according to the teachings of others, neither thinking about difficult problems nor taking responsibility for failure, as long as we show a certain loyalty, all troubles will be borne for us.

In order to put their children in their underage state, many adults try to instill how dangerous self-reliance is and the risks and horrors involved. In order to put them under their control, parents and educators often interfere and protect their children too much, resulting in children who have to wait for instructions from others to decide nothing. Even if the person who is eventually cultivated becomes an adult, he is still a child at heart, and he can't do anything without their instructions. In this way, there is no self-reliance at all. Philosophers said that when doing psychological counseling, do not put the client in a position of dependence and no responsibility, educators exist in isolation, no one praises, all rely on their own strength silently forward, do not expect the gratitude of students, can contribute to the lofty goal of self-reliance, educators to have this spirit of dedication, only in the spirit of dedication to find happiness, the essence of happiness is dedication.

In life, parents have to tell their children that everything in their own lives and daily actions is up to them, and if the materials needed to make decisions, such as only knowledge or experience, then provide them with them, and if they can be truly respected, then they can let them decide everything. We must respect the children's own decisions, do not help them, tell the children that we can help them at any time, is their eternal backing, and guard them within the appropriate distance from them. Even if the children end up failing in their own decisions, they still learn that their lives should be chosen by themselves. In the process of children's growth, we educators must learn to let go at the right time, give children more space for growth, and choose space.