After reading: "The Courage to Be Happy", care about the interests of others

Adler psychology shows that when we interact with each other, we must have a sense of integration into the community, to care for society, and to care for others in society. Only then will it feel worthwhile.

I just finished reading the relevant content in "The Courage to Be Happy": Caring for the interests of others. The philosopher in the article said that many parents or educators hope to bring more "useful things" or "valuable things" to their children. Discourage bad behavior, confiscate books or toys, and give only what the child thinks is valuable. Parents seem to be doing this for the sake of their children, but it is a lack of respect and can only gradually distance themselves from their children. Because it negates the interest of children that they take for granted. Not to recommend anything to him, just to care about the "children's interests".

No matter how vulgar a game may seem to us, first try to understand what it really is. Try it yourself, and occasionally play with them, not with you, but by throwing yourself into it and enjoying it happily. That's when children really feel recognized, respected, and treated as equals as a person, rather than just being treated as a child. This is a concrete first step in the respect that is necessary in all relationships. Whether it is interpersonal relationships in the company, relationships between lovers, or international relations, in all kinds of relationships we need to pay more attention to the "interests of others". Adler said that we need to see with the eyes of others, hear with the ears of others, and feel with the hearts of others. First we have to start by understanding them.

In interpersonal relationships, we can't blindly focus on ourselves, look at problems from our own perspective, and understand. Rather, it is to pay attention to the feelings of others from the perspective of others, listen to the words of others, understand their real needs, and understand their actions from the perspective of others. In this way, it is easier to understand what they like, why they behave like that, and only on the basis of understanding, tolerance, and respect can there be good interpersonal relationships.