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There are countless kinds of creatures living in this world, and human beings, as the best of all living things, have successfully stood at the top of the biological chain.
Among billions of people, some people are smart, some people are stupid, some people know that they are smart but do not show it too much, and some people are obviously very stupid, but they do not know themselves, not only do they not know themselves, they are always showing off in front of others, stupid, like clowns jumping beams.
From an anthropological point of view and a medical point of view, the intelligence or stupidity of individuals is largely related to innate genes, we can not deny that some people are smarter than others from birth, in later life, if you can use your own intelligence, the future will be smooth.
Some people may not be so smart from birth, but in later life, being cautious everywhere can also make life tasteful. What is even more unacceptable is that people who are stupid in themselves do not know it.
It is a terrible thing to find the most accurate positioning in life, this kind of self-aware people are more difficult to grasp their own positioning, they are also difficult to see their own positioning in the eyes of others, therefore, such people will always do some strange things, sensationalism, so that people around are embarrassed.
In a short period of time, they may be able to obtain some short-term benefits, but from a long-term perspective, such stupid behavior will only make them lose more than they lose.
No one wants to admit in public that they are inferior to others, admit that they are stupid, as mentioned above, some people can live cautiously and carefully, trying to hide their shortcomings.
However, some people like to show off their stupidity everywhere, and psychologists point out that those who are stupid and do not know themselves usually have the following four manifestations.
First, excessive ostentation
Psychologists believe that the more a person lacks something, the more willing he is to show off something, so the essence of showing off is actually a kind of inferiority.
When a person tries his best and still can't get something, they try to assert their sovereignty as much as possible, trying to let the whole world know that they actually have such a relationship.
Whether it is the material level or the spiritual level of the show off, mainly from inferiority and ignorance, because this kind of people are typical of stupidity and do not know themselves, they are deceiving themselves, but the people around them can actually see clearly.
In fact, in real life, those who are really capable are very low-key. For example, Wei Dongyi, a mathematical genius at Peking University.
Excessive ostentation is a manifestation of inferiority, they are eager to be recognized by the outside world, and the more stupid people are, the more they will prove themselves in this way.
Second, admit death, a tendon
Such a person is very stubborn, admits to death, as long as he identifies a thing, he will go all the way to the black, whether right or wrong, only act according to his own ideas, and will not listen to anyone's advice.
Those who are stupid and do not know themselves, this is it, their thinking is very limited, they do not diverge their thinking, they do not give examples, they are stubborn, they do not change. Like the Duck effect in psychology, the more stupid and ignorant people are, the more confident they tend to be.
In fact, this kind of behavior is an act of unwillingness to admit their mistakes, and they are afraid to expose their mistakes to the public. It is better to hit the south wall and break the bloodstream than to change their plans in time and improve their actions.
Third, self-righteousness
Self-righteousness is a signature feature of those who are stupid and unaware, who think that the people around them are inferior to themselves, always overestimate their abilities, look down on others, and be proud and arrogant.
Self-righteous people always live in the world they imagined, they can't see the excellence of others, they can only see the mistakes of others, in life, they always do things with their hands down.
As a result, many opportunities that would otherwise be good will be missed, so it is difficult for such people to succeed. It is conceivable that such people cannot even see themselves clearly, and how can they see others clearly.
Fourth, be ambitious
Perhaps those who are stupid and do not know themselves may have some small talents, which is a little more prominent among all sentient beings, but it is precisely because they do not recognize their true strength that they are still far from success.
On the basis of knowing that they have some small advantages, they will give up their efforts and immerse themselves in their talents, they will not be down-to-earth towards their goals, they always want to wait for an opportunity of their own, step up to the sky.
It is not surprising that such a person would be so ambitious. When a person cannot accurately recognize his own position in life, it is easy to be stupid and become one of those who are stupid and do not know themselves.
Therefore, recognizing where one's own abilities lie and recognizing one's social positioning is a very important thing for individuals to survive in society.
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参考资料：Vogel, D. L., & Wester, S. R. (2003). To seek help or not to seek help: The risks of self-disclosure. Journal of Counseling Psychology, 50(3), 351.