The gap between people is opened little by little, and it is more important than effort to think. Some people are good at summarizing, finding their own problems in reflection, review, and thinking, seeing the parts of themselves that need to grow, and then starting over through changes and adjusting the direction of life in time.
Some people ignore it, go black along a road, and are always immersed in their own ideas, so the effect of hard work will always be greatly reduced.
Read a sentence that says:
"The most wasted thing in the world is to talk about experience to young people, it is better to talk about ten thousand sentences than to fall by yourself, tears teach you to be a person, regret helps you grow, and pain is the best teacher." The detour that life should take, in fact, is indispensable to a meter. ”
Maybe everyone's situation is different, maybe only the truth summed up according to their own experience is more profound, but no matter what, it is always good that someone can listen to it.
Adults, 18 truths that must be understood!
1, no matter how good the friendship relationship is, it is also necessary to exchange courtesies.
The essence of social networking is value exchange, interest exchange, never move other people's cake, or because of their own cake and move other people's cake, otherwise it will shake the core cornerstone of friendship. So the interests are mutual, and no matter what it is, always ensure that both people have interests.
2, quietly work hard, secretly get rich.
Human nature is like this, thinking that you are poor and afraid that you are rich. When you surpass others a little, you are rewarded with jealousy; when you surpass others a lot, you are exchanged for approval. People never allow the people around them to make a mark, I hope you have a good life, but I don't want you to live better than me.
3, there is nothing that cannot be passed.
Maybe time can't help you solve any problems, but time can definitely make what you can't put down, what you can't think of, become no longer important. The more you are attached, the more you have emotions, try to restrain yourself and avoid all excessive behaviors, resulting in many irreparable consequences.
4) You can love someone.
But don't forget yourself because you love someone, then your attraction in the relationship between the sexes does not exist, and you will only make yourself very embarrassed, and it is difficult to escape the result of having nothing. The more you want to keep a person, the more you have to be generous, starting from your own attractiveness.
5, money is very important.
Youth does not wait for people, time does not wait for people, you do not work hard, someone works hard, then you will be slowly filtered out and replaced in many positions. The more you go on, the more you will find that the importance of money is no longer something that can be summed up in one or two sentences, no matter what relationship, what life, what life.
6, do not care too much about other people's opinions.
Others don't understand you at all, let alone you, so someone's opinion of you is only his opinion of you, subjective view, you don't care, then his opinion will not affect you, and it has nothing to do with you. Always living in the eyes of others, so life, very sad.
7) Don't think about who to save.
True salvation is the deep self-redemption, so that one can only save oneself, not be saved by others. No matter what kind of person you meet, you can't get used to it, just stay away, don't think about who to change, save whom, can only live your own life.
8, the cup will not be naturally full.
When you are unlucky, when the luck is not good, don't think that it is a natural law to deny the pole, as long as a person is unlucky to the extreme, it will naturally run from time to time. Time to operate is also conditional, first of all to get rid of their own delusions, to get rid of their own complaints, and finally to do what they can do.
9, find the center of gravity of life.
As you saw earlier: "If your job is to make money to support yourself, then don't waste your emotions in complex co-workers and uncertain leadership, do what you have at hand - after clarifying your life priorities, it will become an anchor in your life, no matter how fierce the wind and rain outside, your boat will never deviate from the course." 」 ”
10. Accept the part of human nature.
To get along with people, as long as you deal with people, then the problem of human nature can never be ignored, and it must be taken into account that people are not absolutely rational animals, but vain, greedy, prejudiced, and selfish. If you can accept human nature, you can get along well with people, understand and use human nature, and do more with less.
11, people live, the most important thing is three things.
Do not forget the book; the body has a place to go, the soul has a place to return; sunny days are prepared for cloudy things. Impermanence is the norm of life, no one knows what will happen tomorrow, because of this, life is worth looking forward to, but it is also possible to usher in a storm tomorrow, so people must know how to plan ahead.
12. Marriage.
Marriage is a different way of life, romance and passion are not its norm, ordinary and suffering are. Marriage cannot be run in the form of love, otherwise there is no one who does not fail, and love can only be an occasional snack. There is also a need to ensure equality of value, which means that the idea of changing one's life by marriage is unrealistic.
13. Stop internal friction and self-fulfillment.
The more you go on, the more you will find that making too many friends is actually meaningless, unless you just lack playmates, the purpose of friends is just to play, and when you want to play, someone plays with you. If you want your friends to take you to the top and make absolute money in business, why should it be your turn? Stay away from all unhealthy things as soon as possible.
14, people must grow.
It is not terrible to have problems, what is terrible is that you have never recognized your own problems, and you always feel that you have no problems, which is the biggest problem of people. You can not be perfect, but you can't stop growing, you must constantly improve yourself, think about what parts of yourself need to grow.
15, do not be greedy and cheap.
Anyone who likes to be greedy and cheap will eventually suffer a big loss because of small cheapness, and those free things are actually the most expensive. In this world, there are many things that are clearly marked with prices, such as how much you pay, what kind of services you can enjoy, free things, may just be a sweet.
16, the eye is high and low is the disaster of life.
Don't look at this mountain to the height of that mountain, it is useless, a house is not swept, why sweep the world? Those who have aspirations have long-term aspirations, and those who have no aspirations always aspire. What kind of life you can live is certain, because you deserve this life, because you only deserve this life, so don't question your partner without moving.
17, do not come to the door empty-handed.
You don't buy gifts, maybe people don't say it, but they must be unhappy in their hearts, you buy a gift, and you say don't, even if people return it to you, it's a matter for others. And even if you return it, people's hearts are also comfortable, especially if you have children at home and the elderly, don't go empty-handed.
18, do not take yourself too seriously.
In fact, you are not so important, but you think you are very important, and do not overestimate your relationship with anyone, can not stand the temptation, let alone stand the test. Of course, you don't have to be disappointed, look down, and slowly relax.
For these truths, do not disagree, perhaps some truths, may not be suitable for everyone, but you can understand the nature of the truth. After all, here, I don't want you to follow the truth, but I hope that some truth can drive your thinking.
Think clearly about what is really important in life, and then filter out the things that are not important and only cherish the things that you are trying to do.
Each of us has a great influence on the people around us, on the other hand, think clearly about what is really important in your life, and you can also strengthen your own will, only in this way, you will not be biased by others.
Reason, just the truth, or according to the actual situation, after all, life is not an examination room, fill in the standard answers, but life is also like an examination room, when answering questions to think.
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