Before giving birth, I carefully studied several parenting books, which read: "Parents are the best toys for children", and after reading them, I deeply agreed.
But after becoming a parent, I deeply realized that this "toy" is very difficult.
Not to mention that everywhere is full of thrills, you must also learn to flexibly deal with the strange needs of the baby:
Frog jumping together also comes with its own croaking sound effect;
After being strafed by a baby machine gun, you have to lie on the mat to fix the position, and so on.
In the game, I tried my best to keep my personal safety and soul peaceful. In the various games played with me, it seems that the most harmless family has hurt me the most.
No more peaceful nights
I remember the first time I played with my baby was on a single eleven night, and I was just 1 and a half years old and had a lot of new knowledge of fruits.
Originally thinking that cutting fruit toys can enhance the cognitive development of the baby, and the cutting action can also enhance fine movements, I took advantage of the double eleven to chop my hand.
I didn't think that since the night of the fight, my night had not been peaceful. In the beginning, Wa was really obsessed with the process of cutting fruit, and ping-ponged at home every day.
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A few days later, The baby changed her routine and began to practice stalls in the aisles of the house.
That was the first time I'd noticed that human cubs were really capable of imitating. I heard only one shout on the side of the road, like a long shout in a decent way:
"Selling-Water-Fruit~~Selling-Water-Fruit-Fruit-~~~"
Our whole family looked at this sample and was very relieved, thinking that if this baby could not find a job in the future, it would be good to sell things.
But we only guessed the beginning, not the end.
Every night since then, my house has become a "market before closing", extremely lively, shouting and selling, everyone has to accompany the small sample trading, cashier hundreds of rounds, so that the whole family is deeply overwhelmed.
Crash, go over the house game
Play for at least 5 years
After playing with him for a while, his tricks are constantly upgrading.
Every night I not only have to play the role of cashier – buying things, selling things;
Also work as a tally clerk together, but also cook together, deliver to the door, etc.;
Properly became an assembly line worker in the one-stop service of the supermarket.
In addition, Wa is no longer satisfied with this set of scripts, my family will also be on the "zoo script", "express station script", "jumping mud pit script", "gun battle script" and so on.
I really didn't expect that after becoming an old mother, I would unlock the skills of being a mass actor in Hengdian Cinema, and I could also travel around different sets according to the needs of the producer, feeling that I was going to be "played ~ wasted " by the baby"
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Although I know the benefits of having a family, my mother also needs to breathe. However, in the book I saw this description of the family:
Children usually spontaneously start playing at the age of 1 and have been improving their gaming skills for the next 5 years;
From playing alone, to developing to cooperating with others, from a simple pretend action, to being able to direct and perform a "big drama".
So this kind of family game has to be played for at least 5 years, and after reading this description, I feel that I am not good at all.
These lazy methods
It was my trick on the road to being "played"
One night, Xiao Mo began to let me learn pig barking while holding a doll with him and jumping into the mud pit on the game mat.
I was already playing with my mouth dry, and as soon as I moved, I shouted at the Lynx elf, "Learn to bark."
The Lynx Elf was very cooperative in learning pig barking, spoiling me and Xiao Xiangle, and I was very clean this evening.
I also began to suddenly realize that my presence seemed to be fungible in this game.
In the days of being replaced, I slowly explored some "fooling" methods, low-cost play.
1
Just move your mouth
We often find that in the family, the child is very addicted to playing all kinds of imaginary things.
It could be an apple for a while, a cat for a while, a monster for a while;
Anyway, Sun Wukong's 72 changes are not as good as eva.
In this process, they understand the characteristics of various things through imitation and deepen their cognition.
This time is very suitable for us to be lazy, we just need to find a comfortable posture to respond, move our mouths, ask more questions, encourage more, and stimulate them to be more curious to explore independently.
For example, by asking questions, guide him to observe the object of his imitation.
What is a demo play? Apple?
What does apple taste like? Very sweet and sweet. Come over and smell the apples of the small sample brand?
Another example: encourage children to look for more of the same kind.
What is the demo now?
Captain Buck in the undersea column, what about your teammates, come and find them together...
Or: Guide your child to make comparisons.
What is the difference between the little white rabbit and the small sample?
The little white rabbit jumps and walks, how does the sample go?
......
Children who enter a state of exploration will be very eager to share their findings with those closest to them.
At this time, we no longer ask questions, we can be more "horse ass spirits", encourage their discovery and thinking, and fully show weakness.
When praising, remember the golden formula of fooling around: exclamation + evaluation of things + feelings, very easy to use!
"Wow, the sample was very carefully observed, and found that the rabbit ears would move, and my mother didn't notice it, it was so funny!"
"Wow, the sample can also learn to bark rabbits, and my mother doesn't know that the rabbit's voice is like this, this sound is so funny!" 」
2
Find alternatives
Sometimes children who have played house games will always pull us to play some interactive plots repeatedly, until we play "annoying".
Because the child needs to make himself more aware of the rules of the world through such repetition.
Or comb through your emotions in the repetition and slowly release the negative emotions you experience.
Usually in such a situation, I will play with the demo for a while, and then find a substitute to join the game.
Find more extras
For example, many children are afraid of needles, but they like to play needle games, release their fear of needles through games, and also satisfy their curiosity about needles.
After the demo has been played for a few rounds, I will strategically guide the demo to the doll, and even the small table and chair at home will be found out, and wait in line for the sample injection.
In this way, the baby does not have to stare at my arm and prick it repeatedly, after all, it needs rain and dew to be wet, and it also fully meets his inner needs.
Watching the baby inject while also checking them, telling them to drink more water and coax them not to cry, the old mother was deeply comforted, and the empathy ability was not bad!
Take advantage of artificial intelligence
Since the Tmall Genie learning pig barking incident, in the baby's house game, I will introduce Tmall Genie, Little Love Classmate, Siri and so on.
In particular, the various dubbing needs of the baby, handed over to the Tmall genie is "true incense", learning to cry, learning to fart and so on.
And starting the conversation between Siri and Baby will really open your mind.
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After being a little bigger, he fell madly in love with watching toy videos, in which adults would hide behind the scenes, manipulate dolls to buy things, see doctors, drive cars, and perform various plots.
So I had a thought, and encouraged the samples to learn to shoot videos, anyway, the babies are born dramatists. Sure enough, the sample was properly hooked.
I sacrificed a mobile phone, and the demo gained full control, immersed in my own blockbuster, and enjoyed it.
3
Find teammates on
In Eva's house game, there is also a universal substitute - teammates.
I usually guide the baby to add drama to her teammates, and gradually put her teammates into important plots, at which time my mother can enjoy it next to me.
However, pay attention when entering the horror episode of fighting and killing, hide away from it so as not to be injured by mistake.
Finally, I would like to say that although playing with children is indeed a chore for mothers, the fun brought to children by playing at home is a good memory of childhood.
Think that the child will always grow up, and the family game will always have a day to end, so while the child is still dependent on us, let's spend more time with him (in a lazy way)!
Audit expert Chang Run
Master of Child Development, Vanderbilt University, USA
Planner: Lan Lan
Typography: Xiao Ho
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