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1, reading will not read into a nerd
The phrase "reading becomes a nerd" is not true.
The truth of the matter is:
Originally, I was a nerd, but reading books did not make people smart.
Truly intelligent people can read (refine) a lot of treasures from books, and the more they read, the smarter they become.
In the same way, people say that some people are "getting older and worse", which is actually an illusion.
In fact, it is not people who get old and get bad, but bad people who get old.
The easiest way to make reading work good is to write inspiration and ideas as soon as they're available and post them publicly on social media, even if they're immature.
The process of writing is also a step of deep thinking on your own.
Valuable comments from outsiders can help you constantly deliberate, or bring you new clues, and accumulating more will naturally lead to profound insights.
It is difficult for a person to quickly improve the depth of thinking by reading and writing notes in isolation and closure.
Face-to-face conversations with outsiders can be seen as a means of gathering information, but they cannot produce high-quality thinking.
Various emotional and atmospheric factors during face-to-face conversations can interfere with one's own cognition and have a negative effect on the quality of decision-making.
2, more words equals full of energy
Some people, as soon as they speak, they worry that others will be impatient or suppress themselves, so they will talk less and less, and their ability to express themselves will not work.
What are the words? Words are vitality.
So as a parent, don't care if your child talks too much.
Some parents will worry that their children have a lot of nonsense, and people just want to talk nonsense.
Are you expecting your child to say one truth at a time?
There are also some parents who are worried that their children will lose more than they say, in fact, there is nothing to lose, Da Zhang Wei and Song Zu'er twitter every day, and they have not lost anything, but there is no gap with anyone.
More words equals full of energy.
3) Love is about getting the other person to do what they want to do
The child's learning is the child's own business;
The child's life is also the child's own business.
vice versa.
There must be love between children and parents.
What is love?
Love is about understanding each other, respecting each other, and getting each other to do what they want to do.
Instead of tying the wings of the other person who wants to fly in the name of love.
Raising children should cultivate them to "distinguish between right and wrong", and it is right to stand on the side of the right truth and the right method.
4, when a desperate bet can stimulate a person's potential
People's attention, energy, and ability are limited.
So how do we assign it?
When too many things are being done at the same time, it is difficult to do one thing to the extreme.
If you want to do something to the extreme, you have to have no plan B, and you can really focus all your energy on this thing.
If you keep thinking that I can't do this, what else can I do, then you actually subconsciously feel that you can't do it.
Sometimes it may be a desperate gamble to unleash a person's potential, which is a good thing for that person.
5, learn to have a task
Yang Zhenning has a passage that is particularly thought-provoking: to learn, you must have a task (it seems that it cannot be simply translated into taste).
He said he knew a fifteen-year-old gifted teenager who was going to Princeton.
He talked to the teenager, and after the conversation, he felt that this child was not very good.
Ask him questions about quantum mechanics and know everything.
But then ask: What knowledge do you think is the most wonderful, the most interesting, the most shocking?
The child does not know.
Yang Zhenning said: That won't work.
You don't have your own opinion, you're not impressed, you've opticald some material, what a big deal.
You have to have your own task.