Coddling, sometimes like a plastic sheet, can make people feel suffocated, disrupt the child's growth rules, and limit the development of children's abilities. So, how to love children is the right one? In a doting family, the child is always the first priority. Whatever parents do, they must take the child as the center, everything is for the sake of the child's happiness, everything is to make the child satisfied. Such family rules are undoubtedly unreasonable, and will give children a sense of superiority and pampering.
Therefore, we must fundamentally change this state, establish normal family rules, and do not give special treatment to children. For example, we can't let the child eat alone, even if it is the food he likes to eat, we must distribute it equally, and do not leave the best food to the child. If there is an old man, let the child give better food to the old man and cultivate his good character of respecting the old man. Yue ran is also the only son in the family, but his parents have never doted on him. Grandma is older and not in good health, and every time there is good food at home, her mother will let Yueran personally give it to Grandma.
Once, there was only one piece of osmanthus cake left in the house. Mom deliberately asked, "Suddenly, there is only one piece of osmanthus cake." Is it left for you, or for Grandma? Without thinking about it, he said, "Of course it's for Grandma." Mom smiled in relief. Although special treatment for children at home can allow him to get temporary "enjoyment", it is easy to cause defects in children's psychology and personality. In contrast, children enjoying such special treatment is actually too much price.
Therefore, we must not give special treatment to children, and we must do things in theory, not by the child's nature. Parents doting on their children is often reflected in the material aspect. For example, buy the child what he wants, and meet the child's material requirements as much as possible. But the more this is the case, the less the child understands us, and his "appetite" will become larger and larger and more difficult to satisfy.