Recently, a video of a love conversation between Little Lori and her father has been popular all over the Internet, her round face, cute bangs are cute. When facing a plate of fresh and delicious pomegranates placed in front of him, he was hungry and salivating, but his father had told him before he went out: Dad could not eat before he returned, and he was also responsible for looking after the pomegranates, and not to be eaten by dogs.
The baby wants to eat this pomegranate so much that he repeats "This is a pomegranate" while smashing his mouth and staring at the pomegranate. When I really can't stand it, the baby picks up the ancient poem to divert his attention, and the little milk sound is heard by the heart.
However, she failed, and her hand uncontrollably put a pomegranate into her mouth. Perhaps feeling guilty after eating, the baby has repeatedly tried to divert the topic with the phrase "Mom, Dad didn't bring a mobile phone". When Dad returned, the baby sat up straight with a panicked face.
Dad asked the baby, "Have you eaten?" The baby answered very honestly, "Eat ~", and covered his face with a little embarrassment.
When Dad announces "Ready ~ Start", the baby says, "Let's eat together~", and then asks again: "Can I eat?" "Yes" After getting Dad's permission, the baby was happy to eat! During this period, I did not forget to feed my father.
For a series of reactions to the baby, netizens shouted: "Meng overturned!" Especially the way she recites ancient poems with milk and milk! "How many people want to have such a cute little girl?" Simply lovely don't want it.
However, after a closer look, we found that the baby's series of reactions in this small video are very worth thinking about and learning.
Like what:
According to a few pomegranates, the baby can think of "the grains are hard";
Have a certain degree of self-control, distracting by memorizing poems;
When Dad asked if she had eaten, she did not lie and honestly said "I ate";
Understand the courtesy, first ask dad: "Can I eat it?" "Eat after getting Daddy's permission;
Know to share pomegranates with dad.
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Netizens' comments:
The father in the video actually borrowed from a very classic psychological experiment - "Marshmallow Experiment" to examine the child's self-control ability and train the baby to delay gratification. The baby distracts himself by memorizing poems, trying to resist the urge to eat pomegranates, which is great!
Today, Xiaobian will talk to you about related topics on self-control. For children to eat and sleep on time, addicted to mobile phone games, work rubbing and other behaviors, many parents often hold a "Buddhist" attitude, thinking that this is not a big deal, children grow up to slowly get better. It would be a big mistake to think that way. Compared with IQ, self-control is the key to a person's success in school, work, marriage and family, and interpersonal communication, and the cultivation of self-control needs to start from early childhood.
Self-control is one of the core competencies of children's development
In the 1960s, Walter Mischel, a psychologist at Stanford University, recruited more than six hundred 4-year-olds to participate in the "Marshmallow Experiment," when researchers told the children: "There is a marshmallow on the plate, if you eat it right away, you can only eat one, if you wait fifteen minutes before eating, I will reward you with another one, you can eat two, this is up to you to decide." "After saying that, the staff went out. After the room door closed, two-thirds of the children could not wait to eat the marshmallows, and only one-third of the children endured until the end.
The most fascinating part of the experiment was that the researchers tracked and studied the children for decades. They found that most of the children who persevered were more socially capable, successful, family-harmonious, and better than impatient children. Waiting is a challenge for people of any age, and these children who resist the temptation of marshmallows have one of the most important principles of success : self-control.
Psychological research has shown that whether a person can succeed, self-control affects them more than twice as much as intelligence. Children with super self-control ability from an early age know how to control their emotions, are not susceptible to the influence of the environment and others, and can better regulate and dominate their thoughts and actions; while children who lack self-control ability often cannot grasp their own life direction because it is difficult to resist external temptations, like a rudderless ship. Therefore, when the child's self-control is not strong enough, we may wish to try to make some guidance and changes, so that the child knows how to persevere and endure.
Lead by example and be an example and role model for your child
Many times as a parent does not lead by example: asking children to read, but they are chasing dramas and playing mobile games; asking children to be obedient and well-behaved, but they always love to be angry; asking children to go to bed early and get up early, but they always stay up late to sleep late. Parents are the first imitation objects of children, if you want your children to have self-control, then please reflect on your words and deeds, have you done a good example and demonstration?
Guide your child with appropriate and clear rules
Young children are not yet able to judge and evaluate the appropriateness of their own behavior, at this time, parents must formulate some necessary "family rules", which is what we call "contract education". Work with your child to make rules and regulations, such as time to play games and time to watch TV. Once the rules are set, they cannot be easily changed, and both children and parents must abide by them. When the child's behavior does not conform to the rules, the parent must reason with the child and tell him that he has crossed the line.
In addition, parents can also find some related picture book stories or video animations to guide children to restrain their words and deeds, here and recommend the story paradise in the Guli Gudou learning box, which can effectively help children develop good habits of self-discipline and self-control.
The forest cinema is quiet, because "The King of the Forest" is about to be staged. "I'd most like to see the Forest King vs. Monsters." Blue Eyes said excitedly as soon as she sat down, and Xiaomei immediately made a quiet gesture to it. Blue Eyes turned his head again to look for Jump, and Jump didn't pay attention to it. "It's so boring, I'm about to get bored!" ......
What next adventures will happen to Blue Eyes?
Accept your child's emotions, but reject their unreasonable demands
Some parents can't help but want to get angry when they see their children crying, no matter what the reason, they will often shout "Don't cry, cry again I beat you." If the child is wronged and the parents do this, they are actually suppressing the child's emotions, not self-control. The correct approach is to slowly comfort the child, or directly let him cry, and guide him to vent his bad emotions, so as to better regulate the child's self-control. However, when the child's request is unreasonable, parents should clearly and firmly say "no" to the child, and do not raise their hands and surrender because the child is crying and laughing.
Be good at communicating and encouraging children
Parents are the best teachers of children, and their attitudes and behaviors directly determine their children's performance and ability. If parents can understand their children's inner thoughts and enhance their self-control in a way that children like, instead of suppressing them with accusations and insults, I believe that children will trust their parents more and listen to their parents' suggestions. When the child shows change and progress, parents should affirm his performance, learn to praise the child, the child will be happy to work hard and change.
Dear parents, with enough self-control, children will have more patience and perseverance in doing things, and they will be more capable of facing the challenges on the road to growth. At the same time, in the future, in the face of various temptations in society, we can have enough determination to say "no" to it!
Give your child a happy and happy childhood
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