It can be set as a star
Article source: Cheng Yi
（ID：djchengyi）
Just now Wang Lihong was on the hot search, and soon after he also posted a blog officially announcing his divorce:
He said that he had done enough for his marriage over the years, but decided to live separately due to differences in lifestyle and planning.
It seems that falling in love is easy to get along with, and it is a common disease of a relationship, even a marriage, that has not been able to go on.
After all, the freshness of love will be consumed by the trivialities of life.
In "I Have Come on Earth", I saw this passage:
Even in the most beautiful relationship, there will be 200 times in your life to hate each other's thoughts, and 50 times the urge to leave each other.
In fact, it is.
There is no perfectly compatible partner in this world, and there is no perfect love.
Even most people just glorify their hormonal impulses in the name of love.
When the freshness disappears, some people's "love" will fade like a tide.
Some time ago, my girlfriend Ah Bing sent me a WeChat message to pour out that I felt as if my boyfriend no longer loved her.
When the two were first together, the boyfriend would always squeeze time out of his busy work to see her.
He would even book a plane ticket to fly to Ah Bing's city just to accompany her to dinner.
But after three years of long-distance love, their feelings have become more and more indifferent, and their former intimate lovers have become strangers.
He began to not remember what he had said, slowly returning or even not replying to WeChat messages.
Quarrels are also unwilling to take the initiative to apologize.
She had less patience to listen to her grievances and complaints, and the number of meetings was getting less and less.
Later, Ah Bing tried to save him on the third anniversary.
She secretly booked the ticket for the day from her boyfriend, bought the perfume he had mentioned and liked, and planned to appear in front of her boyfriend to surprise him.
But when Ah Bing came to the café downstairs of her boyfriend's company, she happened to meet her boyfriend and a strange girl talking happily, with the corners of her eyes and eyebrows, full of smiles.
He would lovingly wipe the cream off the corners of the girl's mouth, and would gently help the girl pin her messy hair behind her ears.
Seeing her boyfriend's happy face, Ah Bing could only hold back tears and run away.
Later, Ah Bing explained to me very sadly that what made her most sad was not her boyfriend's cheating, but such a sweet moment they had also experienced.
It's just that the wheel of time rumbles over all tenderness and affection, and love fades with the fading of freshness.
At that time, I was really sad, thinking that if only I could always be the girl I had just met.
I also remembered the classic line in "About Winter":
Between people, probably only when they first met, it was best, hypocritical and enthusiastic, fresh and romantic.
Admittedly, the throbbing and surging that comes with freshness is unmatched by any emotion.
But time will slowly tell us that no one will always love you violently.
Fleeting passions are as brilliant and fleeting as fireworks.
I once looked at a study from the University of North Carolina:
The so-called feeling of 'loving someone' is not something we experience continuously.
Continuous love does not exist, only a moment of love.
Simply put, sustained love requires us to respond and give positively.
When the dopamine filter fails, the relationship no longer seems to rely on mutual attraction.
More is the need for us to constantly run into and operate.
It is the droplets of water that "feel love" in life, and eventually converge into a steady stream of love.
Love, which is maintained by freshness, is doomed not to last.
Not even worthy of being called love.
Lovers who really love each other will precipitate more ironed love in the heat of freshness.
And the desire to get the love of others with freshness will undoubtedly end up disappointing.
Whenever I am disappointed in love, I think of the fairy love of Li Ronghao and Rainie Yang.
When chasing Rainie Yang, facing the distant distance between the two, Li Ronghao said without hesitation:
It's okay, you don't have time, I can come and find you.
So every time she concerted, Li Ronghao followed and applauded offstage.
During the period when they could not meet in a different place, the two talked about their thoughts and love day after day.
Of course, she is no longer the girl Li Ronghao has just met, but fortunately true love will only last with time.
Time has made each other's love more profound, and it has long penetrated the care and care into the details of life, as natural as breathing.
Of course, the freshness and warmth of the time when we first met were good, but the mutual froth in daily life was even more moving.
As the Jewish famous saying goes:
When a person is truly in love, he may not even think that he is in love with the other party.
May time help you filter out impurities and leave true love behind.
In the end, the moonlight is still the moonlight of the youth, and the color of Jiuzhou is still the frost of Li Bai.
Click "watching", even if the lovers are divided and combined, everyone can love more and more deeply.
Article source: Cheng Yi (ID: djchengyi), the sound is warm, the sound at night will glow. The first novel, "Good for Yourself", is now available, and we are all people in the story, and there is "Cheng Yi" in the story, and maybe you. Cheng Yi used his warm and healing voice and heartfelt words to spread positive energy to more than 50 million listeners across the network, and the program was broadcast more than 7 billion times. Weibo: @ DJ Cheng Yi.
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