Speaking of bedwetting and peeing pants, I believe that many people have had this experience when they were young, especially in the stage of toilet training, children are greedy, and may forget to pee while playing, resulting in peeing pants. In the process of children's growth, this is a very normal thing, but if parents do not handle it properly, it is likely to affect the child's psychology.
Recently, in Dalian, Liaoning, some netizens shared such a thing: a little girl accidentally peed her pants while playing in the playground, but in the cold winter, the child's mother not only did not change the child's clean pants for the first time, but loudly and severely reprimanded the child on the side.
According to Ms. Yu, an employee of the mall, many people in the playground at that time rushed to check it out as soon as they heard the sound, and saw a mother loudly scolding the child, while the little girl sat on the ground without pants and cried.
Many people around are dissuading this mother, but the mother continues to rebuke the child.
Even lift the child up with one hand and beat it, kick the child, and scold the child loudly: "You pee your pants, how do you not let the car crash to death."
Because the playground did not have floor heating, the weather in Dalian was also quite cold at that time, Ms. Yu was worried that the child was cold, so she dissuaded and tried to pick up the child, but she did not expect to be pushed to the ground by the child's mother.
In this situation, Ms. Yu thought that the little girl was scared by her mother to pee, and afterwards she checked the monitoring to know that it was the child's mother who was angry with the child's pants, so she scolded the child for more than 20 minutes.
After watching the video, many netizens are distressed about this little girl, and condemned their mother's behavior, and some netizens shared their experiences when they were young: "I wanted to go to the toilet when I was in the first grade, and the teacher said that I couldn't bear to wait for the end of class, and as a result, I really couldn't help but pee my pants, and then I didn't dare to stand up again in the morning." After coming home from school, I told my mother that my mother would go to school and count the teachers down, glad that I had a good mother. ”
In fact, as this netizen shared, bedwetting and pants grafting are actually a very normal thing for children. Because for adults to be independent is a very simple thing, but for children is a rather complicated thing.
First of all, the baby should realize that the poop is coming out or about to pee, to feel the pressure of the rectum and bladder, and to understand what this pressure means, and after feeling this pressure, he needs to let go of everything in his hand, immediately go to the toilet or find someone to ask for help, and finally before taking off his pants and everything is ready, he must resist the urge to defecate.
In this way, is the independent size really not simple? Especially for a child who is only two or three years old.
In this regard, parenting scientist Dr. Remo has done relevant research, research data show that less than 10% of children who can take care of themselves during the day around the age of 2, 70% of babies will reach about 3 years old, and by the age of 4, this data will reach more than 90%.
As for the age of not wetting the bed and peeing pants, there is no one at the age of 2, about 40% of the babies at the age of 3 no longer wet the bed, 70-80% of the babies do not wet the bed at the age of 4, even if it is 5 years old, there are still about 10% of girls who will wet the bed, and boys are as high as 20%.
Therefore, baby toilet training, urinary and stool management is a process, in this process, the adult's mentality is particularly important, you need to have enough patience to guide the child.
How old can my baby start toilet training?
Before the age of two, the baby's sphincter and nervous system are not yet mature, the control of the body is weak, and the bowel training is not yet possible. Spock, the father of parenting, also advised that most children start toilet training after the age of 2 or 2 and a half, and that too much training before the baby is 18 months old is not only difficult but also unsatisfactory.
Therefore, in general, the best age for the baby to go to the toilet training = is more than 2 years old, and the child's body is not ready for premature training, which is not only poor in effect but also easy to affect the baby's psychology. It can't be too late, for example, three- or four-year-old children do not know how to go to the toilet, children are likely to be ridiculed in kindergarten because of peeing pants, so their self-esteem is frustrated.
How to guide your baby through toilet training?
1. Parents should be patient
Baby toilet training is a long process, the need for parents to be patient step by step guidance, if parents do not have patience is likely to lead to the baby's resistance psychology, and even some babies may also have repeated situations.
2. Teach your baby to learn to express
Some parents will judge whether the baby wants to go to the toilet by observing some small actions of the baby, but these are actually not as good as guiding the baby to learn to express directly and effectively.
For babies who can't speak yet, parents can teach their children to express themselves with some movements, and babies who can talk should guide their babies to express themselves directly in language.
3. Choose the right toilet
When the baby first starts toilet training, be sure to prepare a toilet suitable for the baby, it is best to choose the cartoon shape that the baby likes, so that the baby will be more willing to take the initiative to sit on the toilet when he wants to go to the toilet.
4. Parent demonstration
We all know that the baby likes to imitate when he is a child, imitating the actions of other people around him, and parents can demonstrate and explain the process of going to the toilet to the baby, such as: "When the baby wants to pee, it is like the mother sitting on the toilet like this", let the baby imitate the parents' actions.
When the baby takes the initiative to sit on the toilet, parents must give encouragement and praise in time, and the baby will be praised for going to the toilet more actively the next time.