"Phoenix Man", as the name suggests, is the golden phoenix that flies out of the chicken nest. They all have a common feature, that is, they were all born in a poor family, and then they were admitted to college with their own efforts, and after graduation, they got rid of the hat of poverty. And naturally they became the hope of their relatives in their own village.
Under the influence of their previous education, when they have developed, they usually meet all the demands of their families. Because in their minds, family is always the most important. And they often make their own decisions in life without consulting with their wives.
And one of the things they fear most in life is losing face. So they often choose to show off their jobs, families, and even salaries in front of others. However, this can also cause them a lot of unnecessary trouble. Seriously, these troubles can even ruin their marriage.
Recently, in his life, Zhao Haoran ruined his marriage because of his face and vanity.
Married to the Phoenix Man
Zhang And Zhao Haoran are college classmates, but they have not intersected before. Because the two people's majors are not the same department, the first time the two people met was at the school party.
The two people are the host of the party, so at this party, the two people naturally became acquainted. After the meeting, the two people left each other's contact information. Zhao Haoran felt that Zhang Grain was very much in line with his mate selection standards, so he quickly launched a pursuit of Zhang Grain.
In Zhang Grain's eyes, Zhao Haoran is the representative of inspiration. He was born in a poor family from an early age, and was admitted to university with his own efforts. And with excellent results in the school, all the scholarships were covered. This also made Zhang Grain admire Zhao Haoran very much. So when Zhao Haoran pursued her, she directly agreed without hesitation.
After the two people were together, Zhang Grain found that Zhao Haoran loved face very much. She had also advised Zhao Haoran many times for this, but Zhao Haoran's macho personality could not listen to it at all.
After graduation, the two people directly chose to get married, although Zhang's parents were very opposed to this marriage. However, Zhang Granule had always firmly believed that Zhao Haoran would definitely have an appearance in the future.
The annual salary is considerable
Because Zhao Haoran's family is very poor, the ceremony when the two people get married is also very simple. Even the marriage room was rented, but Zhang Grain did not mind.
After marriage, the two people put all the focus on work, because both people are excellent, so in just two years after marriage, the lives of two people have undergone earth-shaking changes.
Zhang Grain worked in a state-owned enterprise with a very good salary, and Zhao Haoran chose to enter a foreign company when he graduated. After two years of hard work, he quickly sat in the position of middle-level leader, and now his annual salary is also 500,000.
After Zhao Haoran developed, the first thing he did was to buy a house first. When the two people moved into their own house, Zhao Haoran felt that he finally had a home.
But after Zhao Haoran had money, the nature of the "phoenix man" on his body was also exposed. He did not choose to give his salary to his wife for safekeeping. As for the reason that men can't run out of money, they put all their salaries in their own hands. In this regard, Zhang Granul did not have any objections. Because her annual salary is also enough. Moreover, although Zhao Haoran did not hand over the economic power to his wife. However, almost all the expenses of the family were contracted by Zhao Haoran, so Zhang Granule did not have any dissatisfaction because of this.
Returning home exposes annual salary
After the two people got married, because of their busy work, they never returned to Zhao Haoran's hometown, and Zhao Haoran's parents were also worried about their son, so they called him and hoped that he could go home to see.
After Zhao Haoran and his wife said that Zhang Grain also agreed, so in the 8th year of the marriage of the two people, Zhang Grain and Zhao Haoran returned to their hometown. Before going back, Zhang Lianli specifically told her husband not to expose his salary in the village, so as not to bring unnecessary trouble.
But Zhao Haoran felt that his wife was simply unfounded, and he was so capable now, if he went back and didn't tell others, how could he let others know.
After the two people left to return to Zhao Haoran's hometown the next day, the people in the village got the news and went to the village to see what Zhao Haoran had become now, so Zhao Haoran and Zhang Grain had just arrived at the village entrance and saw a group of people at the mouth of the village.
Zhao Haoran couldn't help but flutter again when he saw so many people coming out to greet him, and he returned home surrounded by villagers, and also forgot all the instructions he had given before his wife came.
After Zhao Haoran returned home, he just had a few words of greeting with his parents. There are many relatives in the family who have long since stopped coming. When they heard that Zhao Haoran had returned from the city, they all wanted to see what Zhao Haoran had become now. Zhao Haoran looked at those relatives who originally thought that their families were poor and had severed ties with their parents, and now he felt very ironic that they were coming to the door again, and he felt that he wanted to let his parents find face in front of these relatives. Therefore, when they asked about their annual salary, Zhao Haoran directly said that his annual salary was 500,000.
Listening to Zhao Haoran's words, the eyes of those relatives lit up. And Zhang Grain listened to Zhao Haoran's words, and his face immediately darkened.
divorce
After Zhao Haoran's relatives left, Zhang Immediately accused Zhao Haoran of not exposing his annual salary in front of them. But unexpectedly, before Zhao Haoran spoke, Zhao Haoran's parents said that Zhang Lili was simply too careful, and his son was now out of the blue, naturally to let others know.
But I didn't expect that in the three days when Zhao Haoran's annual salary was exposed. Zhao Haoran's family has a lot of relatives who come to borrow money, and Zhao Haoran has 12 more cousins in 3 days. However, Zhao Haoran was embarrassed to refuse because of his face, so it can be said that those who came to borrow money could be said to be non-rejecting. After two days like this, Zhao Haoran's reputation spread in the village, and more and more people came to him to borrow money.
Zhang Grain also advised Zhao Haoran not to lend them money, but Zhao Haoran loved face very much, and after being touted by others for a few words, he lent all the money out.
Zhang Haoran was very angry after knowing that Zhao Haoran had lent all this money out, and she directly questioned Zhao Haoran why she did not consult with herself, but Zhao Haoran felt that she was the head of the family and there was no need to consult with Zhang Haoran.
Looking at the "phoenix man" husband in front of him, Zhang Grain finally couldn't stand it anymore and directly filed for divorce with him.
After returning home, the two went directly to the Civil Affairs Bureau to go through the divorce procedures.
After the two people divorced, Zhao Haoran was still borrowed by relatives in the village in turn, and only then did he know how correct the request that Zhang Grain had originally made was, but now it was useless to regret it.
There is a saying that goes well: "The poor are in the downtown area and no one asks, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains." Just like Zhao Haoran in the text, when the economic conditions of his family were not very good, the relatives in the family were cut off, and they had contact with his family. However, after learning that he had money, no matter what kind of relatives who could not beat the eight rods, they all wanted to share a piece of the pie. This is the human heart.
Although there is nothing wrong with saying that they help each other as relatives. But after marriage, we are not just an independent individual, and when thinking about things, we can't just start from our own point of view. Since they are married, two people are a common family, and no matter what kind of decision they make, they need to discuss and decide together.
Now we have a lot of "phoenix men" in our lives, and after we have some money, we hope to return to the previous environment to show it. In order to show their wealth, they generally do not refuse all kinds of requests from relatives. But they never considered whether their financial ability could bear it, and only agreed to many unreasonable demands for their so-called face.
However, these requirements that they cannot meet will not only bring trouble to themselves, but also add a burden to the other half. In this case, the marriage of two people will naturally not last long.
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