Today, Weibo hot search #Dr. Tiger Dad forced young children to learn high numbers # caused a hot discussion.
Wangzi Jackie Chan and Wangnu Chengfeng are the common feelings of people, but the education method of a "tiger father" in Nanjing is really incomprehensible, he not only let the two children in the first grade of primary school and kindergarten learn advanced mathematics, but also often abused and beat ... In desperation, the child's mother can only "ask for help" from the court.
Just like this father, many parents will use harshness to describe their children's further education, and even be complacent, because they feel that they are strict with their children, which is a more responsible performance. But most parents do not distinguish between harshness and malice, and even beat them with insults and intimidation, and most of the time, their harshness becomes "evil" without knowing it.
Strict education of children is indeed a good thing, but everything must have a degree, the truth of the opposite of things must be understood, once a boundary is broken, it is likely to bring some bad results. If you always express love in the wrong way, it is often not happiness that brings to the child, but hurt.
Some parents will put forward extremely strict requirements for their children, and criticize and scold if they can't do it; or keep their children within a certain range for fear of being exposed to negative information from the outside world; or turn their children into an extension of their own will, and use strong control to make children like walking dead. These ways of treating children are called "love." The essence of these false loves is that parents always try to replace their children's wishes with their own will in the process of giving love.
On the issue of parenting, parents should think more from the perspective of their children. Parents are not high on top of the prestige, usually treat the child's further education achievements, respect the child, communicate with the child equally, listen to the child's own ideas, rather than saying to him "I am your mother/father, you have to listen to me." ”
Strict education is not authoritarian, strict education is education without temperature, it is difficult for children to feel love and attention, especially for young children. Even if we adults are too harsh and harsh, we will stay away from excessively harsh and harsh behavior, let alone young children?