Did your child say dirty words?
How do you treat it?
Did he not take it seriously, or did he teach him a hard lesson?
Recently, a good friend of mine was angry enough to choke on this matter.
Her son is 6 years old this year, usually a little lively, but has never done anything out of the ordinary.
A few days ago, when a friend was cleaning up his room, he counted his son out because he threw toys around.
Perhaps annoyed by what she said, my son actually said to her:
"Got it! Bad mom, get out of the way and don't stop me from watching TV. ”
When her friend heard this, she was shocked, she did not expect her son to dare to speak to herself like this.
After the shock, the friend was furious. He scolded the child and punched him in the arm a few times.
As a result, the child was told to cry and the friend himself was angry enough.
I understand my friend's mood very well, after all, it is not a good thing that children learn to scold people at such a young age.
But I still have to say that she has mishandled the way she handled this matter.
After hearing the child say dirty words, directly "hands-on" to solve.
The child was honest at the time, but this practice caused a rift in the relationship between mother and son, and it may be counterproductive in not allowing the child to say dirty words.
Because the child knows through this matter, the insult will cause great harm to others.
The next time you have a disagreement with someone else, you will continue to use this method.
In fact, it is nothing new for children to say dirty words.
Every child will have a time when he likes to say something vulgar like and.
For example, call the mother "stinky mother", call the father "fart father".
If you don't respond properly during this period, you are likely to make your child's wrong behavior go further and say something more ugly.
If adults overreact, it is not helpful for children to swear words. Although the curse sensitive period is a fun thing for children, it is a rather headache for adults. Here are three ways to deal with it.
Coping method one: Allow children to enjoy the fun of "vulgar language" without making specific responses.
The reason is very simple, in the face of children's "vulgar language", if you give them more responses, it will strengthen the child's profanity behavior and become counterproductive. Therefore, parents accept and do not respond too strongly, for children, it is a kind of acceptance and tolerance.
Coping method two: When children express emotions with harsh words, parents should accept and tolerate children's emotions in time.
Sometimes you will find that children may have all kinds of negative emotions during the sensitive period of cursing, such as children saying to adults, "I'm going to kill you!" Such harsh words, these harsh words do not mean that the child has really become a "fierce and evil person", but only that the child is expressing his anger.
So, parents accept the child's emotions and can tell the child, I know you are angry now. For the child, the parent responds to the child's emotions, rather than to what he says himself, which is a kind of acceptance and tolerance for the child. It's a great way to avoid the edge.
Coping method three: Help children accumulate more coping methods.
In the process of reading picture books with their children, parents may wish to relax with their children, and then say to their children some words that are vulgar in the eyes of adults and cannot be elegant, such as and pee farts and the like, let the children say a happy, say a happy, this is also a good way to cope, which is conducive to helping children find a language way to get along with their emotions.
On the one hand, this can make the child feel that the parents are accepting him, and on the other hand, it can also let the child know that I have more ways to express my inner emotions, and I don't need to say such harsh words to adults. Then, in this process full of joy, the child's curse sensitive period has passed unconsciously, and it goes without saying that this will smoothly open a new chapter on the child's growth path!