"Fate left me alone with the most difficult questions in order to exercise me."
The man who uttered the phrase was Zhang Yunhe, a well-known writer and scholar who has been called China's "last showman."
Although she was born in a rich family and was pampered and tolerated from an early age, Zhang Yunhe did struggle with fate from birth, and her whole life was constantly heralded by the arrival of death, but she did not give up on herself because of this, but has been tenaciously and tenaciously running her own life.
Even if she was weak from a young age to middle age and experienced ups and downs, diseases, and even was asserted by doctors that it was difficult to live past fifty years old, she never thought of compromising with fate, but formulated a three-not principle for herself and cherished every day of life.
No one can really predict the fate of others, and Jang Yoon-ho eventually died at the age of 93, making his life a legend.
Born into a famous family of frailty
More than a century ago, in the middle of a summer, Jang Yoon-ho was born, but she was different from other children from birth.
Zhang Yunhe was a premature baby, and he did not hear a cry for a long time after birth, and the doctor and servant who delivered the baby thought that this thin baby died after birth, thanks to the old grandmother who came up with a home remedy to save her life, let people spray smoke at her, and after a while there was a faint cry.
Zhang Yunhe is weak and loves to cry since she was a child, so many people say that she was like Lin Daiyu when she was a child, but she does not agree with this, because she feels that she is stronger and can withstand the wind and waves, and her later life has indeed proved this.
Under the care of his parents and elders and the company of his brothers and sisters, Zhang Yunhe slowly grew up, and his personality became more and more cheerful, and he grew into a little girl who was loved by everyone.
Zhang Yunhe's father was the well-known educator Zhang Wuling, and his mother was the well-known Kunqu researcher Lu Ying, who had made great achievements in their respective fields.
As intellectuals, parents have always attached great importance to the education of their children, not only requiring them to study well, but also attaching great importance to cultivating their artistic practices.
Under the cultivation of their parents, ten of their sisters and brothers have grown into the best in various fields, and the four daughters have both moral integrity and ability, and have won many praises from outsiders.
Although there are many brothers and sisters in the family, Zhang Yunhe's parents treat each child equally, so the feelings between them have always been very deep, even if they are scattered all over the world, they still care about each other, and even founded a magazine together to commemorate the feelings between the family.
Zhang Yunhe's childhood was spent in such a loving atmosphere.
A lively girl with a love sinus at the beginning
After entering the campus, Zhang Yunhe was loved by teachers and classmates because of his beautiful appearance and outgoing and kind personality, and he also actively participated in many activities and met many new friends.
When Zhang Yunhe was 16 years old, he went to his friend Leyi's house to play, and happened to meet Zhou Youguang, Leyi's brother, who was at home on vacation.
As soon as this 20-year-old young man saw the beautiful and generous Zhang Yunhe, his heart was chaotic and he fell in love with her.
At that time, Zhou Youguang was in college, Zhang Yunhe was a junior high school student, the two often went to Shidi for a walk together, Zhou Youguang would tell Zhang Yunhe about the books he had read, tell her the story of "Romeo and Juliet", and the distance between the two slowly narrowed.
Although zhou youguang and Zhang Yunhe's portals are not equal, and Zhou Youguang has worried about the future between the two, Zhang Yunhe has not the slightest big miss style, written a ten-page long letter to comfort him, and this relationship is also supported by her parents, who are very fond of this simple and elegant boy.
Later, Zhang Yunhe went to college in Hangzhou, where Zhou Youguang also taught, and the feelings between the two became increasingly warm, and they began to talk about marriage.
Although both were intellectuals, but at that time there were still a lot of cumbersome etiquette for marriage, one of which was to see the eight characters of the two people's birthdays, and after reading the eight characters of the two people, they asserted that they could not live to be 35 years old, which caused the relatives around them to be very worried, but the couple ignored it and entered the palace of marriage hand in hand.
Break the shackles of fate
After the two were happily married, they always respected each other and had sweet feelings, and soon their son and daughter were born, and the words of the fortune teller did not overshadow their sweet lives, and later the facts proved that those strange and chaotic remarks were unbelievable.
After the outbreak of the War of Resistance Against Japan, the two with their two children ran around and fled, living a turbulent and displaced life, during which their youngest daughter Xiaohe was killed by an illness, when she was only 6 years old, which made the husband and wife fall into great pain, and later the son was unfortunately hit by a stray bullet and almost left them, which made Zhang Yunhe feel the fragility of life even more.
After the war, life returned to calm, and he thought that the family would be quiet like this, but Zhang Yunhe was diagnosed with heart disease.
After learning about Zhang Yunhe's physical condition, the doctor finally made a judgment that she may only have 15 years to live, when Zhang Yunhe was just 35 years old.
In the face of the doctor's prophecy, the performance of this lady who has experienced the storm is very calm, she firmly believes that she cannot be defeated by the disease like this, and she holds her breath in her heart to establish a three-no-principle for herself, neither blaming herself for the faults of others, nor blaming others for her own faults, and not punishing herself with her own faults.
These three principles Zhang Yunhe insisted on for decades, and the relatives and friends around her have been very worried about her body, but she herself is very calm, or maintain a normal heart in life.
In the end, not only did she not die young at the age of 50, but she lived to nearly 100 years old, and her mind was still clear when she was old, and she taught herself to type on a computer in her eighties, and continued to write literature until she died at the age of 93.
brief summary:
In 2002, Zhang Yunhe passed away peacefully in her favorite purple clothes.
This big girl who has experienced upheavals and pains in her life has been constantly resisting the fate imposed on her, even if the attacks of illness and suffering continue to occur, she has never thought of giving up.
Zhang Yunhe was able to create the miracle of life in large part because of her own good mentality beyond ordinary people, even if someone always reminded her that the disease and death were around, she could still hold on to the hope in her heart.
A peaceful heart, an optimistic spirit, and a tolerant attitude that does not care are the source of miracles.