Xiao Min and Chen Zhuo are two men and women in normal love, but this kind of "bright and upright" is only known to the upper echelons, that is, the mother and sister know, but the son Jin Jiajun and Chen Zhuo's daughter Chen Jiajia are hidden. The reason for this is that I am afraid that the two children will not agree to something that cannot be controlled.
She has not been with her son for 12 years, and it is estimated that this mother-son relationship is more difficult to continue; Chen Zhuo has promised his daughter not to marry and not to have children, although Chen Jiajia has reached adulthood, chen Zhuo still does not want to be a fat father who reneges on his word. Therefore, her and Chen Zhuo's middle-aged love affair is both hard and up-to-earth.
But accidents always come so unexpectedly, just when her son came to Beijing, she found out that she was pregnant, and this child born out of wedlock was not in the plan, and if she didn't get it right, her relationship with Chen Zhuo would have to be polarized, either to get married or to break up. And it seems that the initiative is in her hands, but the biggest reason why the two people who are not confused can be together for 3 years is to leave space for each other.
The child's unexpected appearance is obviously to break this harmony, and she does not want the child to be a means of forced marriage, although she originally intended to go with the flow. But she had to make a choice, both to force herself to make a decision, but also to force Chen Zhuo to make a decision. After reading this series of questions about the whereabouts of children and how they came into the world, I realized that marriage is not a simple union, but hides its unique mysteries.
Inform the design of pregnancy
When she learned of her pregnancy, she bought three pregnancy test sticks in one go, and although it had been confirmed, she still measured and tested again, until even when the two tests were eloquently proved, her mind buzzed. Her first reaction was to hide from Chen Zhuo and quietly beat up this child, and she really lined up to pay the fee, only to get on the operating table.
But she saw the third habitual miscarriage in the hospital, a woman who married a rich man and desperately wanted to have a second child, but unfortunately, after the failure of the test tube, even surrogacy was difficult to succeed. And she was quite old, but she was naturally pregnant, and at this moment she regretted it, or she was afraid that this miscarriage would forever lose the ability to give birth.
To this end, she also listened to her mother's opinion, but her mother made it clear that she and Chen Zhuo could marry, but giving birth to a child was to cause trouble for herself. Originally hesitant, she began to sway again, and it was indeed troublesome to have another child.
She and Chen Zhuo both have children. If you regenerate, you may be able to bring each other closer, and having children is equivalent to having involvement in this life. However, the arrival of new children is equivalent to adding new problems to the old problems. Can she be a good stepmother? Can Chen Zhuo be a good stepfather of Jia Jun? Can the children of both families identify with the newborn child? Can she accompany her children to grow up and start a family?
Although she has absolute decision-making power in law, the child is not a matter for one person, she still feels that this "problem" should not be borne alone, and she decided to inform Chen Zhuo of the pregnancy when she wanted to understand it. It's just that she didn't intend to say it deliberately, but used an "accidental" way to let Chen Zhuo find out on her own.
Her plan was that if Chen Zhuo pretended not to see, then forget it, she would not hesitate to break up when she turned back; but if Chen Zhuo asked her to be born, the relationship between the two of them would have to change qualitatively, after all, the child born out of wedlock came to this world, and it was not the result she wanted.
So, she specially returned to the secret nest of the two people, tried several times, and finally threw one pregnancy test stick at the top of the hand paper bucket, and the other one near the flush toilet, so that Chen Zhuo did not want to see it, and would not appear too deliberate. Then he borrowed his sister's rectum to listen to his son Jiajun's tone to see if he could accept his remarriage, after all, remarried and had children sooner or later, he couldn't hide it, simply turned passive into active, and it was better to prepare first than to fight an unprepared battle.
For the matter of re-pregnancy, Liu Xiaomin is cautious, after all, the age and situation are there, but she has always been the one who takes the initiative to accept it, and has made sufficient preparations for birth and not to give birth. Although she loves Chen Zhuo and plans to spend the rest of her life with this man, she will still consider what has happened, after all, when people reach middle age, self-interest is the first choice.
The fight of the child to stay
When Chen Zhuo learned about her re-pregnancy, he waited for two days to meet, and the two drove all the way to the tea house without saying a word. It's just that Chen Zhuo is engaged in technology, his style of acting is direct, and he expresses his dissatisfaction with her wanting to sneak up on her, but he is also blocked by her "afraid of your embarrassment", yes, there are a lot of problems in front of them, but there are not many choices available for them, and the time cannot wait. Chen Zhuo had to make a decision, and it was more than her concern.
But Chen Zhuo is looking forward to children, because in the last marriage, his ex-wife Li Ping had questioned his ability in that aspect, which for him was equivalent to denying a man from the root. To this end, he has paid special attention to maintenance over the years, plus fitness.
And what is important is that Chen Zhuo is deeply rooted in the idea of wanting boys to pass on the generations, not to mention that don't look at others who are now engaged in the most cutting-edge industries, dressed as a successful person in society, but in his bones he can't erase the conceit of struggling from the middle and lower levels to the middle level or above.
However, Chen Zhuo is an old jianghu, as long as she is not forced to get married, she will also avoid the problems related to marriage, and focus only on whether to have children or not. But this kind of behavior as long as the child does not mention marriage will not succeed in convincing her, and it will make her retreat.
Coincidentally, when the two were at a stalemate, Chen Zhuo's gallbladder stones recurred, and she had no choice but to treat the disease first. It had been a week since the two of them had contacted each other again, and although Chen Zhuo had sent her a message when she was discharged from the hospital, she deliberately delayed her reply and only returned a smiling face. Even when Chen Zhuo was discharged from the hospital, she did not take the initiative to appear.
Chen Zhuo clearly wants children, but marriage does not dare to declare it directly, because the children of the two of them are the biggest problem in the middle, and if they do not get it right, it is a war that affects several large families. There are also their respective predecessors who are eyeing each other, none of them are fuel-saving lamps, which is their tacit understanding, but Chen Zhuo, as a man, has instigated this time.
To put it bluntly, the child is not pregnant with a man, whether to have a child is Chen Zhuo's word, but for her, the hardships of pregnancy in October, the upper limit of the birth age, the scheduling of work, the escort of production and the long decades of birth and maintenance problems, as an adult, Chen Zhuo is not like Mingjing in his heart.
For the matter of being a father again, Chen Zhuo is happy to see it, but it is not a must. People are the first to think about what they have already got, and then they imagine what they may have in the future. If there is a clear gap between the two compartments, the answer is obvious. Chen Zhuo did not only mention that he did not have children, but he did not say about marriage, which was beneficial to his bloodline once again; the disadvantage was that he could not explain to his daughter. People don't all eat in the bowl and in the pot, which thing to want, which to see which way.
The so-called mystery of marriage is nothing more than self-interest
Another week passed, and Chen Zhuo finally found the department where she worked and met her directly as a patient. After seeing her, he took out his mobile phone and showed a few big words on the memo: Let's get married. Unconvinced, she hurriedly asked Chen Zhuo if he had thought clearly, and when she got the letter, she replied, "Opinions must be unified in order to be unanimous to the outside world, and the Long March has just begun." ”
Look, this is the real middle-aged married attitude, even if there is no face-to-face proposal, there is no trace of romance to speak of, but the real two people are instantly in agreement. The decision to remarry is nothing more than a reply that is ready, waiting for another ready reply, and rather than the fancy romance, landing is the weight that drives them.
In fact, she knew that Chen Zhuo would agree to have a child, but she still had to ensure that the child came to the human world with sufficient guarantees. Because giving birth to a second child is to put a tight spell on her own life, not to mention that she was about to come out, just wait for her son to go abroad, she is completely free, so she never urgently wants to be a mother again, but she can be sure that Chen Zhuo is more eager to be a father.
For the marriage of Xiao Min and Chen Zhuo, I am supportive, after all, it is a fortunate thing to meet someone who fits in their lives, and both of them are people who have the ability and conditions to regenerate and raise children. Although they are all married twice, it is not too late to love this matter, as long as you still have love.
However, for adults, the starting point and foothold of everything is on a "profit" word, because no one is willing to give up everything they are struggling so hard for, let alone throw it away. All the thoughts before and after Xiao Minsheng did not have children, as well as the temptation of Chen Zhuo, and Chen Zhuo's avoidance of the heavy, can see their self-interest.
However, the essence of marriage, apart from the love that sounds beautiful, is a cooperation in itself, and there is no need to make it look like not loving to break up, because love will disappear.
The bottom man wants to get married, nothing more than to continue the incense, the middle man is to find helpers, the upper man is looking for strong teammates, and the scumbag is to help you out of poverty. Marriage across classes seems to be very fearless, but most of them are poignant, and only marriages with consistent classes can last, at least everyone is willing to be an open and honest person.
Of course, I firmly believe that marriage is so beautiful that women are willing to become yellow-faced women, and men are willing to be a windshield, but they will put self-interest in the first place, and the second or second is the other half. Isn't it silly to be married, half to concentrate on personal experience, half to strip yourself of supremacy, don't make your head bleed, and ask for a statement of love or no love?