I can have the right amount of self-esteem as I am

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The famous French psychologist, psychiatrist and best-selling author Christophe André once had a best-selling book called "The Right Self-Esteem", which I was shocked when I read this book in 2015, which made me understand that "always envy others and don't like what they look like", "look down on their origins", "are not satisfied with their own performance", "do not accept their current situation" and so on. And the self-esteem here is a little different from the self-esteem we usually talk about. Self-esteem here has two main meanings: the first is to assess the value of something; the second is to see something.

Simply put, self-esteem is how we see ourselves and whether we like ourselves in our eyes.

Therefore, the three major components of self-esteem are: "self-confidence", "self-view" and "self-love".

The nutrients of self-esteem, that is, how to obtain self-esteem, have two main aspects, one is "feeling loved" and the other is "feeling capable".

We used to think that a person must have a high level of self-esteem in order to get a better state of mind and life. The author of the book tells us that what we should have is "proper" self-esteem.

Because people with high self-esteem have strengths and weaknesses, so do people with low self-esteem. As long as the two are not mastered well, it will affect a person's normal mentality.

Therefore, when I saw this book launched by Guangxi Normal University Publishing House Magic Elephant Picture Book Kingdom, "The Unique Me", I suddenly understood.

Adults read books that allow adults to understand that certain of their behaviors and thoughts are due to self-esteem as their self-esteem matures, and thus get the right medicine for the symptoms.

This picture book is for children and parents to read, so that parents and children can learn how to become a person with appropriate self-esteem under the premise that the child's self-esteem level is not yet sound. That way, when these children grow up, maybe their self-esteem won't get sick.

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Everyone has their own things they are good at and what they are not good at.

As a parent, will you often blurt out your child's shortcomings, and when the expression becomes an evaluation, the harm to a person is relatively large.

For example, if a child has a problem that he can't do, you will say, "You can't do this problem, will you?" Is it because the teacher didn't understand when he was lecturing? Mom tell you again" or would she say, "How are you so stupid?" Can't do such a simple problem?"

The former is to express the situation, and the latter is to evaluate the individual.

Even an adult, when evaluated by others, will unconsciously produce a kind of recognition psychology, will think that they are like this, and begin to become unconfident. Not to mention being a child? In such cases, children often feel that they have no value, children who do not feel their own value, and their self-esteem is often low.

The book "Unique Me" can let children learn to find their own shining points in the process of parent-child reading, and also let parents understand that each child is good at different places, and the things they are good at are different, and they cannot make a bad evaluation for their children because one of the children is not doing well.

In the first person, in the tone of a child, tell the child's growing pains and psychology.

I didn't study very well, but I was particularly good at folding paper airplanes;

I am afraid of being bitten by mosquitoes, but I am not afraid of needles;

I couldn't catch the ball, but skated very well;

I am ashamed to sing in front of the crowd, but it is very relaxing to play the piano alone;

I often get lost, but know a lot of secret places that no one else knows...

In the propaganda profile given by the publishing house, the first-person "I" was changed to "some children", and when we read such words, it is obvious that there is a feeling that we are talking about others, "some children" as if they are "other children".

And "Unique Me" in this book, the author used the first person "I", the tone is expressed in a child's way, so that reading is particularly substitutionary, can let the child read and read on their own association, good empathy and self-thinking, can let the child understand, the original is not useless, maybe I am not good here, but I am good there.

You can find shining points and be brave enough to be yourself; you can also think about how to be a better version of yourself.

"The Unique Me" is to tell us that everyone is a unique star, do not be inferior because of their shortcomings, be good at finding their own shining points, and be brave to be themselves.

But by thinking, I also think that we can give children confidence and self-esteem.

But, as stated at the beginning, it is best for a person's self-esteem to be "appropriate" than too high or too low.

If parents blindly raise their children's self-esteem, it may also lead to children's conceit.

Again, this is what I thought of when I read the book "The Unique Me".

When we go to parent-child reading, the first time, we can read the text and look at the pictures with the child, so that the child understands the difference between each individual and their shining point.

However, when reading the second and third times with the child, we can have a conversation with the child in a thoughtful way.

For example, the passage: "I don't study very well, but I especially can fold paper airplanes", we can talk about it with children.

We can ask the child: Do you think it will be powerful to stack paper airplanes? What can paper-folding airplanes do in the future? Wait, if the child answers, you can build an airplane, then we can continue to guide the child to think about the front, so why is this child not learning very well? Wait, have some open questions and answers with your child to guide your child to think.

This is also the way to read the book "The Unique Me" thoroughly, so that children know the advantages and disadvantages of each person, but also let children learn to think about the relationship between these "wills" and "will not".

In this way, children can learn to find their own shining points, and they can learn how to carry forward their own shining points.

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A high-quality picture book is not boring for us to read it once, but the picture book itself has a profound connotation and can also bring us to think.

Undoubtedly, this "Unique Me" is a book worth reading and reading, thinking again, and waking up again.

Reading is the story in the book;

Thinking about the connotations in the book;

What is alarming is the expression of parents.

"The Unique Me", using the book as a medium, tells us that parents and children are unique.