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There are many people in life who are addicted to paper drunks and enjoy short-term pleasures, but our lives do not only come from this, but every bit of our lives can bring satisfaction and happiness to our inner world.
Taste life in reading, or learn some new skills to simply and seriously live, be the most ordinary person, enjoy the most simple happiness, be a "useless person", why not the most romantic thing?
A Peking University girl named Li Xueqin became popular because she shouted at Wu in the camera during the interview. And she was once complained about as the "most earthy" girl in Peking University, and only because she was found to work in a hot pot restaurant.
Originally, college students worked hard, and it was a normal thing to do some odd jobs to subsidize their lives after completing their studies, but the public chased After Li Xueqin, and even thought that she had humiliated Peking University, as a student of one of the highest universities in China, what kind of part-time job is not good, and even need to go to the hot pot shop to work.
But Li Xueqin said that the days when she worked in the hot pot restaurant were the real happiness, because she found the true meaning of happiness.
She met a waiter named Xiaoxia in the hot pot restaurant, who worked very hard every day, came out early and returned late, and every time she arrived at the meal, she was eager to have three heads and six arms, although she only took a salary of five thousand yuan per month, but Li Xueqin could always see a smile on her face.
And for Li Xueqin, who has a high salary as soon as she enters the hot pot restaurant, she has never been as happy as Xiaoxia, and even cut her wrist, and after diagnosis, Li Xueqin has suffered from severe depression.
So why is that? After contacting Xiaoxia, Li Xueqin understood the reason why his heart knot was not open,
Once you fail, you will have a strong sense of psychological gap, so as to self-doubt, question whether you have the ability, and finally gradually boil down to yourself as a useless person to society, thinking that your future is very slim, and over time you will lose confidence in yourself and hope for life.
Many people think that the higher our achievements, the happier we become, but in fact, the more we have, the less happy we will be.
Then at this time, we need to stop the pace of running with our heads on our backs and look at the happy people and things around us.
Let those beautiful landscapes that were once forgotten warm your tired heart, enrich your spiritual world, and find or create more of your own in the world around you, a unique happiness.
The survey found that today's young people are becoming more and more unhappy, and even their unhappy time is constantly prolonging, and some people say that the happiness of contemporary adults is only five minutes, which makes people sigh.
Maybe you used to feel bored and miserable because of all kinds of tedious things in life, but in the end you only need to cry or sleep, and the feeling will gradually disappear. But the pain and unhappiness of the present is like a seed that will slowly take root in your body.
Accidents in life always come sooner than surprises, you never expect what will happen in the next second, and the more you want, the heavier the things you carry.
The fast-paced life has also changed our state of mind, and the impetuous heart has become a vicious circle, which cannot be solved and has to be buried in the head.
We have long since lost ourselves in the sinking of desire, and fleeting happiness has become a fleeting luxury.
Being forced by life to run forward is not beautiful, and a genuine smile from the heart is the most precious treasure. We have always warned others that no matter when and where we are, we must not forget our original intentions, but how can we who have lost happiness have the power to pursue happiness?
I've seen such a passage, why do people become more and more unhappy?
That's because we always look forward to the ideal result, and once there is a deviation from the expected result, we begin to feel self-pity, and we can't feel the existence of happiness.
When we were young, we would spend a whole day watching an ant move, and then bounce back home to share this inconspicuous little thing with our parents, when we were the happiest from the heart.
Today's impetuous society always creates all kinds of anxieties for contemporary young people, whether it is employment pressure, academic anxiety, appearance anxiety, it may become the last straw that "crushes" our tense spirit.
While accumulating cultivation in the present, you can endure loneliness and endure impetuous heart to harvest more happy times.
While we have desires and ambitions, we must also understand that we are thinking that those unreachable things may become "stumbling blocks" on our road to success, and cherish the present in order to get happy feedback.
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Author | Tommy
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参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205