Marriage, probably as Yang Dai said: "The people who are surrounded in the city want to escape, the people standing outside the city want to rush in, whether it is marriage or career, most of the desires of life are like this." ”
Life is nothing but desire that appears again and again. Some desires can make people develop in a better direction, and some desires will ruin their lives.
In the vast sea of people, it is a lucky and happy thing to meet a person who loves each other and enter the marriage together. What we should do is to protect and manage this marriage well, understand that marriage is not easy, and know how to cherish the people around us.
We often say that "do not forget the original heart, we must always", but some people in the long years, gradually forget their original intention, forget the original commitment. Or, even if you remember your original commitment, your state of mind is already different.
Fidelity is the foundation of marriage, and if there is a lack of fidelity between husband and wife, the marriage may collapse at any time.
It's just that in life, not all people can remember this, in the face of some temptations, they forget marriage, forget fidelity, and even forget the love between husband and wife, just want to enjoy the joy outside of marriage.
Tong Jie is 43 years old this year, in the eyes of outsiders, she originally had a happy and stable family, a pair of sensible children, and a good family. However, the bitterness in Tong Jie's heart is only clear to herself, the brilliance of her appearance is only for others to see, and many things in marriage cannot be told to others, and can only be faced by herself.
Last year, Tong Jie's young daughter was admitted to college, which is a thing worth celebrating. Although Tong Jie has been worried about her children for so many years, seeing that they have all successfully entered the university, Tong Jie's heart is also considered to be complete.
However, after this incident, Tong Jie ushered in the first blow, once she was going to buy some beautiful clothes for her daughter, but accidentally saw her husband with a young and beautiful woman in the mall, the behavior between the two is very intimate.
In order not to affect her children, Tong Jie secretly hid this matter in her heart, and since then, she has begun to plan for herself, no longer as unconditional trust in her husband as before, and unconditional dedication to this family.
Stupid women will lose themselves because of marriage.
Sanmao said: "Sometimes marriage will also make a woman lose herself, otherwise, there should be many more outstanding women in the world." ”
In marriage, women think about the same thing, hoping that their small family can be happy and happy, hoping that their husbands can be loyal to themselves and keep their minds in their own homes.
It's just that people's hearts are unpredictable, even if they are relative pillow people day and night, it is difficult to guarantee that he will not change his heart and can be good to you for a lifetime. Especially in the middle age of marriage, the husband and wife are no longer as fresh and interesting as before, but live the most prosaic and realistic life.
If the husband and wife have similar views on marriage and enjoy such a life, the marriage will be peaceful. But if one of them has other thoughts and is no longer satisfied with the life in front of him, it is difficult to guarantee that he will always be loyal to you.
In such a situation, what women have to do is not to blindly pay and sacrifice themselves for marriage, but to know how to live for themselves, and sometimes they have to learn to be selfish and think more about their future. In this way, even if the marriage comes to an unfortunate point, it will not be too sad.
Tong Jie's idea is like this, in twenty years, all she wants is a happy family, even if the conditions are average, life is a little harder, as long as the husband and wife are in the same heart, the days are also plain happiness.
But now, such happiness has obviously left her. After her children left her side, Tong Jie had more time to plan for herself, and she used the money she saved to do some small businesses, although the income was not much, but at least she could guarantee her own life and have the ability to take care of her children.
When the business stabilized, Tong Jie had evidence that her husband had betrayed him and directly filed for divorce. At that time, her husband still felt that she was a weak woman, saying that divorce was just a momentary angry, until Tong Jie took out the divorce agreement, and her husband was dumbfounded.
Parents have advised Tong Jie not to be too impulsive, after all, the two have been together for so many years, and the children are so old, don't do this kind of stupid thing, otherwise she will suffer losses. Tong Jie just smiled slightly and said to her parents: "Rest assured, after the divorce, it is not me who suffers losses." ”
After the divorce, as Tong Jie said, it was not she who suffered the loss. Although she did not have a marriage, fortunately she did not have to worry about life, and the children were also very sensible and very good to her. And her ex-husband, I heard that after the divorce, I married the woman, but life is not happy, the woman values his money, spends a lot of money after marriage, and the days are always noisy.
But what she cares about most now is not her ex-husband's life, she just wants to live her own life and take care of her children.
Florence Isaacs said, "Marriage requires the constant nurturing of two wise men, and the key is not to be complacent, but to always improve your marriage." ”
Some men reach middle age, always feel that their wives are older, not as attractive as before, coupled with some temptations around them, the more they are not accustomed to their wives.
After betraying the marriage, they thought they had met true love again and had met a younger and more beautiful woman. Men don't think that those young and beautiful women will be willing to be with him, whether it's because of love or because of materialism. If it is because of love, it is lucky, if it is because of material, it will not have a good ending.
Stupid men will only allow themselves to be guided by those temptations. Smart men will definitely know how to think about the pros and cons, even if there are some temptations around them, they also know what kind of life is more beneficial to themselves.
When people reach middle age, the most important thing is to accept reality, stop easily believing in those temptations outside of marriage, and think that they will encounter a better life. Otherwise, in the end, not only will it be tossed around, but life will become more miserable.
Mrs. Carnegie said, "Being like-minded with your husband is the basis for a happy marriage." ”
I hope that the husband and wife in the marriage can be like-minded, can cherish their marriage, cherish the people around them, and don't wait until they lose it to know regrets.