Several of Wu Mi's feelings are all chosen by herself, and all the cards in her hand are good.
He was a poet, a writer, but he lacked the great wisdom of life.
He didn't end every relationship.
For him, what may not be obtained is always in turmoil.
First, the first wife
In 1917, at the age of 23, Wu Mi went to the United States to study.
In the past ten years of staying in the United States, Wu Mi has written many papers and is well-known in the industry.
During this time, he began the first love in his life.
Wu Mi, who studied at Harvard, received a letter from Chen Liexun, a tsinghua classmate studying in the United States, one day, saying that he wanted to introduce his sister Chen Xinyi to Wu Mi as his wife.
Wu Mi is a person who is extremely yearning for love, and was touched by Chen Xinyi's direct and warm love, and was immediately moved.
He immediately wrote in response, packed his bags, and rushed back to the country.
In August 1921, Wu Mi, who had returned from staying in the United States, met with Chen Xinyi.
However, the meeting did not seem to go well, and they were relatively speechless.
Coincidentally, Mao Yanwen also came to the Chen family later.
Mao Yanwen was lively and elegant, generous and decent, with a new ladylike demeanor, and his temperament was very different from Chen Xinyi's, which left a deep impression on Wu Mi.
However, Mao Yanwen was already a "famous flower with a master" at that time.
Mao Yanwen's fiancé at the time was also Wu Mi's friend Zhu Junyi when she was studying at Tsinghua University.
At this time, Wu Mi suddenly met her, and she was moved and lost.
He was lost because he also knew that Mao Yanwen had a master and was also his friend's fiancée.
Therefore, Wu Mi rationally chose to talk to Chen Xinyi and say love.
Just 13 days later, Wu Mi and Chen Xinyi were officially married.
Chen Xinyi was chosen by him on his own initiative and should have gotten along happily, but in fact, this marriage lasted only 8 years.
Second, get it but don't cherish it
Chen Xinyi gave Wu Mi a stable and comfortable home, but he gradually became dissatisfied with her.
He blamed her for being too quiet, too obedient, too unpretentious, and ashamed to communicate.
Before, all the advantages of his love for her were now her bad, even guilty.
By 1929, Wu Mi saw that Chen Xinyi was already unhappy everywhere, and he could not stay at home for a day.
After the marriage enters a period of time, the couple has aesthetic fatigue and will have a sense of boredom.
But more importantly, Wu Mi has another woman's good in her heart, and he thinks that this woman is his real dream lover, his true love.
This woman is no one else, she is Mao Yanwen.
At that time, Mao Yanwen's fiancé, Zhu Junyi, was a professor with Wu Mi at the College of Literature of National Southeast University.
Six years after the two were engaged, Zhu Junyi fell in love with another woman, and on the grounds that the marriage of close relatives was harmful to the next generation, he resolutely dissolved the marriage contract with Mao Yanwen despite the opposition of many parties.
At this time, Wu Mi, regardless of the identity of the husband of a woman, expressed her heart to Mao Yanwen.
When Mao Yanwen heard this, he categorically refused.
The more she refused, the more Wu Mi came, and the more she chased after her.
Wu Mi, who was obstinate, left Chen Xinyi and his three young children and divorced.
Later, Mao Yanwen finally couldn't stop Wu Mi's stalking and accepted Wu Mi's pursuit.
But Wu Mi began to hesitate again.
He wanted to become a husband and wife with Mao Yanwen, but he was also worried that there would be disharmony after marriage, so he hesitated and suffered from gains and losses.
In 1931, at the age of 37, Wu Mi went to Paris for academic exchanges.
He sent a telegram to Mao Yanwen, asking her to give up her studies in the United States and rush to Europe quickly to marry him, or break up.
Mao Yanwen came to Paris as scheduled, but Wu Mi did not want to get married again and became engaged instead.
Wu Mi felt that even if she married Mao Yanwen, who had always loved her, it was not a perfect thing.
He lazily coped with Mao Yanwen's repeated urgings to marry, while immersed in love with other women.
Mao Yanwen was furious, and no matter how much she wanted to get married, she couldn't stand Wu Mi being so light and childish to herself.
Just two months later, Mao Yanwen lightning married.
The groom is not Wu Mi, but a man named Xiong Xiling.
Hearing this news, Wu Mi was in pain.
A few years later, Xiong Xiling died of illness.
Wu Mi began to stir again, began to write love poems, and wanted to pursue Mao Yanwen again.
At this time, Mao Yanwen had experienced several major changes in the impermanence of the world, and his heart was already like a rock and he was not moved.
In this way, Mao Yanwen became the "white moonlight" in Wu Mi's heart.
3. Second wife
In 1950, he met Zou Lanfang, a female student at Chongqing University.
Later, this Zou Lanfang classmate miraculously became Wu Mi's second wife, and this year, he was 56 years old.
Zou Lanfang came from a landlord family, and her two older brothers were suppressed, leaving behind a group of young children.
She studied outside and had no one to rely on, but she still took on the burden of nursing her brother's orphans.
When she saw Wu Mi's "ideological review" article in Xinhua Daily, she immediately found Wu Mi like a life-saving straw.
She enthusiastically wrote to Wu Mi, claiming that she admired his moral articles and reverently admired him.
At this age, Wu Mi still couldn't resist the admiration of a girl.
He wore reading glasses, and he read the letters well in the future, and he replied angrily.
Subsequently, Zou Lanfang came uninvited, came to the door to seek advice, and sewed and washed the pulp for the teacher as a student.
Wu Mi could not resist her enthusiasm and was afraid of people's words, so she had to marry her.
At that time, Wu Mi had a high status and income, and he was also a high-ranking united front object, and his political treatment was far superior to others.
But Wu Mi complained bitterly, saying in her diary that she had to do it as a last resort.
Zou Lanfang suffered from tuberculosis before marriage, and was a sick straw and medicine jar.
Wu Mi once said to a friend: "This is the love of dusk love, but it is actually treating Lan Fang's illness, and she is raising Lan Fang's family of nine." ”
However, he did not "have to" for long, because the lady suffered from tuberculosis before marriage and died shortly after marriage.
Wu Mi is indeed very scummy emotionally, but he is also kind enough and righteous enough.
He used most of his salary to help raise several nephews and nieces of Zou Lanfang.
In his later years, he once wrote a letter to Chen Xinyi to confess: "Mi's divorce in the past years is the biggest mistake in his life, and Mi's old age is also remorseful." ”
When he dreamed back and tossed and turned in the middle of the night, he would think of Mao Yanwen and couldn't help but burst into tears.
He also worships Zou Lanfang every year on the occasion of the lively Chinese New Year's Eve and family reunion.
Wu Mi is like a gluttonous child, and love is his favorite candy.
Admittedly, his favorite food is the sugar in his hand, but he is always looking forward to the next sugar.