Recently, there was a social news that caused quite a stir.
Although it was not on the hot search, Uncle Yu was greatly shocked after reading it-
In a neighborhood in a first-tier city.
A 14-year-old boy, alone in an underground garage, lived for three full years.
Where are the boys' parents? Where's the teacher? Why hasn't anyone helped him in three years?
Until last week, with the intervention and visit of TV reporters.
The relevant person in charge, the owner of the community, the boy's family, and the boy himself began to speak up.
However, what people did not expect was that the statements of all parties contradicted each other.
It gradually evolved into the "Rashomon" incident.
What is the truth?
The 14-year-old boy who lives in the underground garage is named Xiao Zhang.
When the reporter arrived, Xiao Zhang's bed in the underground garage was being demolished.
Because he defecated in the underground garage, he often stole the charger of the battery car to sell for money.
The owners of the community have been complaining for a long time.
The reporter immediately went to the neighborhood committee to understand the situation.
Secretary Zhao of the street told reporters that Xiao Zhang's parents divorced and his mother remarried to a foreign country.
Xiao Zhang lived with his father and escaped from home because of a quarrel with his father.
Since Xiao Zhang moved to the underground garage, he also terminated his studies.
"The doors of the school are open, but the children do not go to school;
The door to the house is also open, but the child just doesn't come home."
Secretary Zhao also said that Xiao Zhang had returned home, and his father welcomed him very much.
All kinds of indications show that Xiao Zhang is a problem teenager.
He slept in the underground garage, seemingly out of rebellion and wanting to escape home and school.
But is that really the case?
In order to seek verification, the reporter came to Xiao Zhang's father's home.
As a result, as soon as he entered the door, Xiao Zhang's father only said two words: "Get out."
While talking, he rudely bombarded the people in the program group.
Xiao Zhang did not go home at all, and his whereabouts are unknown.
Seeing the clue is broken.
Fortunately, three days later, with the help of an enthusiastic owner, the reporter met Xiao Zhang himself for the first time.
From the small mouth, I learned that my father often abused him:
"Daily scolding, with a belt, with an iron rod, if the bath is not washed within the prescribed 10 minutes, the head is smashed with a shower."
He had scars on his head and multiple fractures on his hands.
That's why he didn't want to go home for three years.
And such an important piece of information, the people in the neighborhood committee did not mention it before.
Since I don't dare to go back home, why don't I read the book anymore?
In fact, Xiao Zhang is very eager to return to school.
He has his own dreams, he wants to apply for military school and become a volunteer in the future.
But he was also afraid to go back to school.
Because there was no one to take care of him, he often didn't have enough to eat.
Sometimes in the cafeteria, I saw my classmates pouring leftovers into the trash can.
He was so hungry that he couldn't help but turn it over.
When he talked about this matter, Xiao Zhang's face was full of grievances.
He also stressed that it did not affect other students, and after turning it out, they all hid and secretly ate it.
Unexpectedly, I was discovered by my classmates.
Classmates began to laugh at him and ostracize him.
"Xiao Zhang went to the trash can again to rummage through the food", which caused the whole class to laugh.
Therefore, Xiao Zhang left the school.
Xiao Zhang saw the arrival of the program group, as if he saw the dawn of salvation.
Not only did he reveal the secrets and disks that were backlogged in his heart, but he also revealed his wishes to reporters:
"Custody is still with my dad, and I hope to be able to apply to the court to forcibly remove him from custody."
Is it familiar that the son wants to take his father to court?
At the end of the movie "What a Home," 12-year-old Zane takes his parents to court:
"I want to sue my parents, sue them for giving birth to me, but they didn't raise me well."
According to Xiao Zhang, he was unable to bear domestic violence and hid in the underground garage.
However, this is very different from the statements of the neighborhood committee and the street office.
What are the facts?
The reporter found propaganda cadres, community office cadres, and women's federation cadres in the streets.
Heads of all departments gathered at neighborhood committees to discuss solutions.
And Xiao Zhang was on the spot to observe.
Cadres of the Women's Federation said that Xiao Zhang's family conditions were not bad.
His father also had a suite, but it was specially used to put his grandfather's urn, and he was determined not to let Xiao Zhang live.
When asked about the most important topic of "domestic violence".
The answer of the director of the community office Tao made things complicated again:
"We have repeatedly learned about the problem of domestic violence from the side, there may be conflicts between father and son, but it is said that beatings cannot be established."
Director Tao also put pressure on Xiao Zhang on the spot, "As a social person, you must be responsible for speaking."
It's ironic.
Nowadays, Xiao Zhang is regarded as a social person, let him seek truth from facts, and do not exaggerate.
Before that, when Xiao Zhang slept in the underground garage and did not dare to go to school, did he ever think of him as a social person?
Following the stubble, Director Tao also transferred the responsibility and pressure to Xiao Zhang:
"Communicate more with your father and show your good side, your ideologically motivated side, to your father." He's your father after all."
Is this a "victim guilt theory"?
There are contradictions between father and son, and it is not because the child is not good enough, you are not good enough.
Many opinions, different opinions.
The key person who can solve the situation is only Xiao Zhang's father.
So, everyone decided to take Xiao Zhang home together.
As soon as he heard that he was going home, Xiao Zhang was obviously panicked.
Facing the camera, he made only one request to his father:
"Be a normal person, stop hitting me."
A group of people came to The Small Zhang family, and a shocking scene was staged again.
The father was very angry and loudly rebuked Xiao Zhang:
"Don't you recognize me as a father?" Must bring so many people back to send you back? I'll call you Daddy."
The reporter tentatively asked: I heard you would hit him?
Before the words could be heard, Xiao Zhang's father suddenly moved.
Facing the camera and the crowd present, Xiao Zhang gave Xiao Zhang a heavy slap.
Xiao Zhang's father lost his mind.
Not only is there no remorse for his violent behavior.
He also blamed all the faults on Xiao Zhang:
"As long as you don't recognize me as a father, let me die and get out."
The reporter couldn't help but remind: "You are domestic violence."
However, the father punched and kicked Xiao Zhang again, and took something and slammed it on him.
After the fight, he also provoked the camera: "Let you hit 110."
In order to prevent the situation from deteriorating further, everyone protected Xiao Zhang and quickly left.
At this point, the truth of the matter has also been roughly discussed.
Xiao Zhang's father's domestic violence behavior is basically solid.
Director Tao, who previously said that "domestic violence is never established", quickly changed his mouth:
"We will work with various departments to promote the development of this matter in a good direction, so that Xiao Zhang can return to the social family."
At present, Xiao Zhang is temporarily living in the security room of the community, waiting for follow-up arrangements.
Why did Uncle Yu specifically talk about this?
In addition to the outrageous event itself, Uncle Yu wants to emphasize more:
Domestic violence against underage children is by no means unique.
It is not simply social news, and it deserves the attention of everyone.
Just imagine, Xiao Zhang is a child living in Shanghai with good family conditions.
For three years, there have been enthusiastic neighbors to help, plus tv reports.
And so on, so that the matter has been initially resolved.
So, what about elsewhere?
How many children are shrouded in the shadow of domestic violence, their conditions are likely to be worse than Xiao Zhang's.
There is nowhere to hide, no way to cry.
The 2014 Investigation and Research Report on Cases of Domestic Violence against Minors states:
697 cases of domestic violence against minors;
There were 675 cases of violence committed by members of the family, accounting for 97.5%;
Among them, 84.79% of the parents are the main perpetrators of violence.
In recent years, there have been news of parental child abuse.
Some children have even been abused to death.
And the harm of domestic violence does not stop at the physical.
Psychological trauma is more difficult to repair and may ruin a child's life.
Most seriously, some children thus develop antisocial personalities that harm others.
For example, in Chongqing, a 10-year-old girl fell on the 25th floor.
This 10-year-old girl is not actually a natural "little devil" in many people.
She grew up in domestic violence.
This leads to a distorted personality and a serious tendency to violence.
The transition from victim to perpetrator is the result of domestic violence.
In addition to the harmfulness of domestic violence, in this case, there is another angle worth focusing on -
The failure of many parties to jointly cause today's tragedy.
The most fundamental reason, of course, is the dereliction of duty on the part of parents.
Xiao Zhang's father did not fulfill his obligation to raise him.
Or kotaro Isaka's words:
"It's terrifying to think that parents don't have to go through any exams."
The second is the dereliction of duty of school teachers.
In the face of the ridicule of Xiao Zhang by the students, the teacher should intervene to stop it and correct the deviation in time.
And when Xiao Zhang did not dare to come to school, the teacher should have understood the situation and helped him return to school.
As a teacher, you should care about every student.
But the teachers in this incident did not do their duty.
Students like Xiao Zhang, who had to drop out of school, are more common in poor areas.
And what did Teacher Zhang Guimei do?
She waded through the mountains and waters, going door to door to persuade the girls who had left school to go back to school.
I saw the girl crying and saying, "I don't want to read it."
Zhang Guimei immediately understood the helplessness behind this sentence and hugged her and cried bitterly.
She would also stroke the girl's face and say:
"Come with me, sleep with me, eat there, make up your mind for yourself, and read the book."
The same is a teacher, which is a world of difference.
The third is the dereliction of duty of the relevant departments of the community street.
The answer of the person in charge contradicts itself.
When I first met the reporter, I said:
"Anyway, we haven't been lazy about this."
Seeing that the situation described did not match the facts, he hurried to play the round.
The most said sentence is:
"Then you can give us a solution."
The implication is: We don't have a rut.
Even more bizarre is the fact that the matter was reported by the media as early as three years ago.
At that time, the same was kicked in the ball, with a sentence of "not completely true" confused past.
The above situation of multi-party negligence is actually the most common phenomenon in domestic violence incidents.
For example, the Korean movie "Little Client".
Adapted from the 2013 "Lacquer Valley Child Abuse Case" that shocked South Korea.
Both siblings were abused by their stepmothers at the same time.
The film focuses on how all sectors of society prevaricate again and again when children are calling for help.
The sister reported the matter to the police, who referred the matter to the children's agency;
When they come to the children's institution, the relevant personnel are careless and do not take it seriously;
The teacher saw the scar on her sister's neck, but pretended that nothing had happened, but did not ask;
The downstairs neighbors ignored the violence and the cries of the children.
In short, everyone thinks that "more is better than less".
As the documentary "The Gabriel Case: A Little Life That Died" says:
"The ultimate evil in this world is to see what is wrong, to know what is wrong, and to turn your head away."
Xiao Zhang's situation is very similar to his sister in "Little Client".
Because of the indifference of bystanders, the voice of distress is gradually weakened and even distorted in the process of proliferation.
After repeated failed calls for help, they stopped making a sound.
You can only resign yourself to fate and resign yourself to it.
In the case of domestic violence, why does this phenomenon of shirking responsibility occur so often?
In addition to the generality of legislation at the legal level, the most fundamental reasons are:
Deep-rooted traditional notions.
We always say:
"If you don't fight, you can't make a device."
"Filial piety comes out under the stick."
"Lao Tzu beat his son, righteously."
These concepts make people feel that "hitting children" is utilitarian and educational.
As a result, many people weaken the seriousness of the "spanking" incident.
Or a sentence that "it is difficult for a clean official to break the family affairs" prevaricates.
But they don't realize that many domestic violence incidents are no longer "domestic affairs", but crimes.
Only by breaking this phenomenon can we better protect children.
The most important thing is to reconstruct old social ideas.
We are not opposed to parents adopting a strict approach to education.
But harshness is by no means the same as violence.
There must be zero tolerance for acts involving violence.
"A strong youth is a strong country", and protecting minors is to protect hope and the future.
If there is a similar incident of violence, everyone should speak up in time.
Don't be silent accomplices.
Don't let "anti-child domestic violence" just stay in a slogan.