There are many men who deal with the contradiction between their mother and wife, blindly let their wives tolerate, they always feel that the mother is the elder, the elders teach the younger generations is the right, do not know that your mother does not have the grace of mother to give birth to the wife, why let the wife tolerate it everywhere?
These men eat their wives to death, always feel that their wives do not dare to divorce them, but everyone's patience is limited, in the face of your mother's unreasonableness and your inaction, the wife will be hurt by you sooner or later, and she is not willing to continue to maintain this marriage.
When the wife really proposed the divorce, these men panicked, they did not want to divorce ah, at that time, they took the initiative to submit to the wife, hoping that the wife looked at the past love, can give him another chance, if they are willing to correct their mistakes, the wife is also willing to forgive him, this marriage is about to be broken has also been saved.
Today's story comes from the sharing of fan Liu Shanshan.
After marriage, he was deliberately harassed by his mother-in-law.
Liu Shanshan and her husband Qian Song are college classmates, the two people met and fell in love when they were in college, after graduation, Qian Song took Liu Shanshan home to see his parents, but his mother was not satisfied with his girlfriend, forcing the two people to break up, Liu Shanshan could not bear to be looked down upon by her mother-in-law, so she took the initiative to break up, but Qian Song resolutely did not agree to break up, and it did not take long for the two people to get married.
The mother-in-law learned that the two of them secretly got a license to get married, and she was very angry, and said that there was no son of Qian Song, qian Song knelt on the ground and begged her mother-in-law for a long time, and the mother-in-law reluctantly admitted to the marriage, but she was not willing to let them hold the wedding.
Liu Shanshan felt that her mother-in-law's request was very unreasonable, and she wanted to theorize with her mother-in-law, but looking at her husband's embarrassed look, she was a little unbearable, so she temporarily agreed.
After marriage, Liu Shanshan wanted to go out with Qian Song to live alone, but the mother-in-law did not agree, not to let them move back to live together, in order to ease the contradiction between the mother-in-law, she had to agree, but the mother-in-law always deliberately made it difficult for her, and also pushed all kinds of work in the family to her, as long as she pushed a little, the mother-in-law would be angry, and would also add fuel to Qian Song's complaint and provoke the feelings between the two of them.
The husband's incomprehension.
Liu Shanshan felt that her mother-in-law was like a green tea, she really couldn't stand what her mother-in-law did, whenever she was wronged and complained to Qian Song, Qian Song not only did not comfort her, but said to her: "My mother has admitted that you are a daughter-in-law, you behave well, try to please her, our family can also be harmonious, don't always come to my mother, the two of you have a contradiction, the most difficult thing is me, can you think about it for me?" ”
Listening to Qian Song's words, Liu Shanshan's heart was even more uncomfortable, and she said to Qian Song: "Before getting married, you promised me that you would not let me be wronged after marriage, but since I married you, have you ever said a word for me?" Why do you always stand by your mother's side and help her accuse me? ”
Qian Song said to Liu Shanshan, "Why didn't I speak for you?" When my mother didn't agree to our marriage, didn't I resolutely get a license from you? I knelt down and begged my mother for so long before she agreed to accept you, why don't you see my efforts? If you think I've wronged you, let's get a divorce. ”
Listening to Qian Song's words, Liu Shanshan was sad, and she said: "I just complained to you, I want you to comfort and comfort me, but what about you?" Blame me for all the problems and file for divorce, are you a little too much? In fact, Qian Song just wanted to scare Liu Shanshan, he also knew that his wife would not divorce him, so he said so, he then said to his wife: "I have tried my best, if you are still not satisfied with me, then I can't do anything." The two men quarreled and broke up, and then they had a cold war for a long time.
Saved a marriage that was about to break.
Not long after, Liu Shanshan became pregnant, but her mother-in-law's attitude towards her was still the same, during pregnancy, her body was very uncomfortable, but her mother-in-law not only did not understand her, but also let her do all kinds of dirty work, nor let Qian Song help, she had to drag her tired body to complete her mother-in-law's requirements.
Ten months later, Liu Shanshan successfully gave birth to a boy, originally thought that the mother-in-law loved her grandson, would not deliberately make it difficult for her, but the mother-in-law still went her own way, and did not help take care of the child, after the confinement, she had to go back to work, but the child could not be taken care of, Qian Song said to Liu Shanshan: "You can go to work with confidence, my mother will definitely take care of the child." ”
But one day, after Liu Shanshan came back from work, she found the child crying in bed, but the mother-in-law was sitting on the sofa watching TV, she hurriedly made milk powder for the child, and after the child was settled to sleep, she went to question the mother-in-law, she said to the mother-in-law: "The child is crying so loudly, don't you hear it?" The mother-in-law said to Liu Shanshan: "What does it have to do with me, the child was born by you, you didn't take care of it, and there was a face to ask me." ”
Listening to her mother-in-law's words, Liu Shanshan directly quarreled with her mother-in-law, and at this time, Qian Song returned, and after learning the origin of the matter, he said to Liu Shanshan: "My mother did not mean it, you are a junior, how can you confront the elders?" Liu Shanshan said angrily to Qian Song: "You didn't say that your mother would take good care of the child, but my son was crying there, and she was sitting on the sofa watching TV. ”
At this time, the mother-in-law fanned the flames and said, "Son, you heard it, what kind of wife did you marry?" So big and not small, he still dared to confront me and ask me to say that I should get a divorce as soon as possible. Qian Song then said, "Wife, no matter what, you can't confront my mother." In the face of her brutal mother-in-law and weak husband, Liu Shanshan's heart was a little desperate, and she said to Qian Song: "Divorce, you are out of the house." ”
Qian Song also understood that his wife was really moving this time, and he hurriedly said to his wife: "Wife, it's not that I don't want to be towards you, but my mother is already willing to accept you, you just put up with it, is it not good for the family to live in harmony?" Liu Shanshan said to Qian Song, "Haven't I endured enough?" It is for you that I have endured again and again, I have thought about divorcing you countless times, but I can't make up my mind, but you have disappointed me too much. ”
Listening to Liu Shanshan's words, Qian Song said: "Wife, do you listen to you well?" Our family of three moved out so you don't have to be wronged. At this moment, the mother-in-law said, "Son, you can't be led by this woman's nose." Qian Song said to his mother-in-law: "Mom, you should stop mixing things between us, I know that you are for my own good, but your approach will not only not help me, but also hurt me, let's move out and live alone with our family of three." ”
Listening to Qian Song's words, Liu Shanshan's heart was much more comfortable, she really proposed divorce, but unexpectedly saved the marriage that was about to break.
In a marriage, must not let the partner tolerate everywhere, husband and wife in the process of getting along with each other should pay each other, mutual understanding, this relationship can be long-lasting, if the husband everywhere to challenge the wife's bottom line, blindly let the wife tolerate, over time, the wife's heart will also be dissatisfied, the marriage of two people will also be affected.
Men must understand that when you get married, you have your own family, your wife is also your relatives, when the mother and the wife have a conflict, we must solve the problems between them fairly and justly, must not be partial to any party, do not feel that the wife is not related to you, there is no need to care about her feelings, since you married her, you should be responsible for her, can not let her suffer grievances in your family.
In marriage, we must pay attention to the opinions put forward by the partner, we must not turn a blind eye to the requirements made by the partner, and the problems encountered between husband and wife must be communicated and solved in time so as not to cause more serious consequences.
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