Zhang Haidi is a famous figure who has appeared in some primary school Chinese textbooks in China.
Her inspirational deeds, fighting spirit and hard work have inspired many people.
However, compared with these contents, Zhang Haidi's love experience has rarely been paid attention to.
The love story between her and her husband Wang Zuoliang is very ordinary: there is no vigorous plot, no twists and turns, and no grand wedding.
They choose to be bland, and they choose to stay with each other like a long stream.
They made an appointment, accompanied them to the old age together, and then moved into the nursing home together.
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Zhang Haidi was born in 1955 in Jinan, Shandong. Her parents were intellectuals, and her family's economic conditions were relatively good.
According to this point of view, she will most likely have a stable life.
However, at the age of five, her fate was suddenly rewritten — paraplegic from a spinal hemangioma.
At that time, she lay in bed day after day, with a long unhealed knife wound on her back.
She was careful not to move at will, for fear of pulling the wound.
To understand the boredom, her mother taught her to whistle. It was an important pastime for her on lonely days.
While other children could run freely and explore the bigger and bigger world in front of them, she was forever imprisoned in a cold wheelchair.
Moreover, she was using a wooden wheelchair at the time and could not move on her own. Even if she wanted to get a glass of water, she had to get help from someone else.
Even when others are willing to help her, she still feels very uncomfortable in her heart, because she is the one who is helped, the party who must rely on others.
This kind of mood is unimaginable to many able-bodied people.
Zhang Haidi later reflected that this mentality is not healthy and will further damage the mentality of disabled people in their daily lives. People will find it difficult to be happy and will feel that life has lost hope.
For her young age, the blow of this great change was once unbearable.
To make matters worse, Zhang Haidi could not go to school normally. Because of her disability, the road to knowledge and socialization was also hidden in front of her.
Years later, in the process of literary creation, Zhang Haidi revealed his loneliness, inferiority, disappointment and helplessness that he was forced to be trapped in a wheelchair at that time.
Since then, she has been forced by fate to ask about the meaning of life earlier than other children, trying to find an outlet for life.
She was not depressed and depressed, unable to go to school, Zhang Haidi taught herself at home to complete the primary and secondary school curriculum. It was her tenacious resistance to fate.
At the age of fifteen, Zhang Haidi had to follow his father to the countryside of Shandong. At that time, even in a wheelchair, she still tried to contribute to her strength.
She began working as a teacher, guiding the children there to learn.
When observing that the local people were suffering from illness due to lack of medicine, Zhang Haidi boldly had the idea of teaching himself medical skills. She managed to buy some basic medical books and prepared a thermometer, stethoscope, and some medications.
In order to find out the internal organs, she dissected the small animals; in order to find out the acupuncture points of the human body, she directly punctuated herself and then practiced with needles.
After that, she began to provide free treatment services to local residents.
In addition, Zhang Haidi also taught himself radio repair techniques. She actively repaired malfunctioning radios for local neighbors.
In addition to normalizing the function of the radio, she also took the initiative to wipe the surface of the radio clean with alcohol, cotton balls, etc. When fellow villagers come to pick up their own radios, they often marvel as if they have a new radio.
This is Zhang Haidi's attitude towards work and life. She is delicate and thoughtful, doing her best to do the best she can.
In those days, even if the conditions were difficult, Zhang Haidi still did not forget to improve himself. She had the foresight to teach herself English, Japanese, German and other languages, as well as undergraduate and master's degree programs.
In 1993, Zhang Haidi passed the postgraduate examination and thesis defense of the Department of Philosophy of Jilin University and successfully obtained a master's degree in philosophy.
It is also worth mentioning that after becoming a national model figure, she once voluntarily rejected the title of "honorary college student" that a university wanted to give her.
These accumulations have laid a solid foundation for her future reading and writing work.
Zhang Haidi's belief in life is: don't infinitely magnify your pain.
Because of her illness and paraplegia, she suffered in the long years to come that is unimaginable to us ordinary people. But she is still actively seeking and constructing her contribution to others and creating the value of her own life.
Her choice perfectly interprets Tagore's words: The world kisses me with pain, and I return with a song.
In the early 1980s, Zhang Haidi's inspirational deeds were widely known after being publicized by the media. She became a model figure with great influence in China after the reform and opening up.
The five-year-old "folded wing" child slowly gained the reputation of "contemporary Paul".
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Unable to stand and walk, Zhang Haidi began to develop inward, examining his spiritual level and creating literature.
She has completed hundreds of thousands of words of English novels with great tenacity, and has authored representative works such as "Dreams in a Wheelchair" and "The Pursuit of Life".
Dream in a Wheelchair is an autobiographical novel. In this book, Zhang Haidi portrays a protagonist "Fontaine" who stubbornly resists fate and has infinite enthusiasm for life.
She borrowed Fontaine's mouth and said a lot of her own words.
She described Fontaine's life as "like a wild storm". She reluctantly admitted that what happened in her life had changed her dramatically. But she refuses to conform to life; she struggles to change her life.
She said that the road was chosen by ourselves, and no one can take the place of us to go through the whole journey. Yeah, no matter what, we have to go on our own firmly.
In the book "The Pursuit of Life", Zhang Haidi shouted from the heart that only by relying on spiritual liberation can we break through obstacles and break through the net that binds people everywhere, so as to obtain precious freedom.
This is the answer she got after asking about her life, and it is also the belief in her future life.
It is also in this book that she talks about aging. This is something that no one can resist.
Zhang Haidi was thinking seriously at that time, when his sideburns were white, his face was covered with fine wrinkles, his voice was hoarse, and his hands could no longer hold the pen... What kind of life course does she wish she had gone through?
For Zhang Haidi, in fact, even writing is not so easy. Sometimes, she sat quietly at her desk, sorting out her thoughts and preparing to write, but the physical discomfort forced her to stop.
By the time the body is adjusted, the original inspiration may have disappeared without a trace.
In this dilemma, she has been able to accomplish so much work and produce so many works, which is undoubtedly admirable.
In order to encourage more disabled people not to give up their personal ideals and have the courage to climb the peak of literature, Zhang Haidi proposed the establishment of the Huaxia Literature Award, which provides an outlet for the 85 million disabled people who have experienced physical pain and inspires them to create excellent literary works.
She believes that when a person has the desire to create, he can make up for the physical deficiencies with spiritual gains.
She hopes that disabled people can also pursue the life they want like normal people, and not be imprisoned in their hearts by physical defects.
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Like ordinary women, Zhang Haidi has also been deeply attracted to the opposite sex several times and established a romantic relationship with others.
There is a boy who once fell in love with Zhang Haidi. However, he later chose a healthy girl. Zhang Haidi decently chose to let go and leave.
This experience did not eliminate the idea that Zhang Haidi would continue to look for love and live a married life like ordinary people.
Later, Zhang Haidi and her husband Wang Zuoliang successfully entered the palace of marriage in 1982. This happened before Haidi Zhang became a nationally renowned inspirational model.
At that time, Wang Zuoliang accidentally saw a report about Zhang Haidi and became interested in her in depth. He put it into action, inquired about Haidi Zhang's contact information, and began to write to her.
In the exchange of letters back and forth, they found more and more commonalities between them, and felt the joy of meeting Zhiyin.
When they first met, Wang Zuoliang was determined to spend the rest of his life hand in hand with Zhang Haidi. Soon after, he confessed to Zhang Haidi, and Zhang Haidi also bravely accepted this feeling.
However, based on Zhang Haidi's physical condition, her union with Wang Zuoliang was initially questioned by her in-laws.
The elder's question is simple: after the son marries Zhang Haidi, he will encounter many difficulties! Despite this, Zhang Haidi slowly gained their trust.
Her husband Wang Zuoliang was very kind to her. For example, he supports her act of contributing to society and helps her send letters, remittances and objects to facilitate her contact with the outside world.
However, in the relationship between the two people, Zhang Haidi will not rely too much on each other. At home, she doesn't need her husband's help to lift her from bed to wheelchair or from wheelchair to bed. She said her husband felt like a healthy person.
When her husband is working overtime, if Zhang Haidi is at home, he will clean up the house and do some housework such as laundry.
If it was her husband Wang Zuoliang resting at home, he would also do these chores. This is a tacit understanding formed between the two people.
Zhang Haidi hopes to overturn an inherent stereotype through his marriage: the marriage of a healthy person and a disabled person is a dedication of the former to the latter, an emotion worthy of appreciation. She wanted to do everything she could to get rid of that prejudice.
In her view, it is often the mentality that affects the way people with disabilities get along in marriage, rather than the body.
Even if she has a disability, she believes that she can provide value to her lover emotionally and in life. She is a romantic person, a person who loves life, and she pursues a healthy and equal marriage.
After Zhang Haidi became famous, her mode of getting along with her husband has not changed much.
Wang Zuoliang works as a translator at Shandong Normal University. After getting married, Wang Zuoliang has always hoped to live a low-key life and refused to appear in the media.
In 1998, Zhang Haidi also collaborated with her husband Wang Zuoliang to translate a contemporary American work, "Murdoch - The True Story of an Elephant".
It can be seen that two people have a common language in their careers and can support each other.
In a 2005 interview, Zhang Haidi said that her married life was very happy, she and her husband were like good friends, they relied on each other.
This is exactly the state that Zhang Haidi wants to strive to achieve. She didn't want anyone to remember that she was disabled and that she needed someone else's care all the time. She wants to be strong as much as she can and have her ideal life.
When the love story between them is reported and talked about, they choose to laugh it off.
By this time, they had been with each other for many years. Fading the throbbing and passion of their first acquaintance, they have become accustomed to enjoying happy times with each other on ordinary days.
When Zhang Haidi had to undergo surgery and face unbearable pain, her husband Wang Zuoliang accompanied him.
When they talked about their plans when they were old, they also made an appointment together and went to live in the nursing home together.
Ordinary days, can not completely get rid of the pain of life, because of love, get shared, resulting in a beautiful stay.