Written by: Mori
My mother often taught that if you do not develop good habits from an early age, it is easy to "make big mistakes" in the future growth process, and if the child has these characteristics, then it will be difficult to have a success in the future, parents themselves compare, pay attention to it, and correct it in time.
1. Lack of responsibility
The 2 children of the uncle's family, the cousin and the cousin, because the uncle and aunt have always retained the obvious "son preference" ideology in their thinking. Therefore, in the past, the cousin in this family suffered a lot of grievances, even if the cousin has been married to a wife, and her career is relatively good, but she still cannot escape the influence of the original family, and the household subsidy for the mother's family is "necessary", and the help to the younger brother is the lion's share.
A doctor of psychology from the United States said that the key to the cultivation of a child lies in the cultivation of a sense of responsibility, which is to exercise him to make decisions for himself, speak, and make decisions for himself. And the cousin has been pampered by the family since he was a child, which has led him to take his sister's help for granted in his thinking, and he has been in such an environment since he was a child, and he has become accustomed to enjoying the fruits of his sister's labor, and feels that he has a responsibility and obligation to help, which has nothing to do with himself.
This is the typical child raised by a family with a lack of responsibility, which is caused by the environment, so that the child has no assertiveness or even knows how to bear the consequences for himself.
2. Love to lie and be insincere
The cousin who has been pampered since childhood has this stinky problem of lying. I remember when I was in elementary school at my grandmother's house, my cousin was asked to ask his parents several times for lying, and on one occasion he was seriously dissuaded from school. Because he always lied to the teacher that his things were missing, bullied, etc., accused of stealing by whom, and then asked his mother to go to school to make trouble, making everyone know.
But it was later confirmed that it was all things made up by the cousin, and the younger brother made it up himself; Even if the aunt knew that the cousin was lying, she still connived, felt that the little cousin was "brainy", very smart, and did not say anything about educating or correcting his behavior, so after such connivance again and again, it brought a recognition to the cousin that lying can also be praised, and it has become more intense. This is one of the reasons why the current cousin still lies and does not show up when he is an adult.
Some children before the age of 4 are affected by the brain is not fully developed, and the phenomenon of "lying" is understandable, but parents should do a good job of correcting it, and start "education" from the first time, so that children can develop good habits, otherwise lying will become a character problem in the future. After all, society's requirements for integrity are strict.
3. Moderately exercise children's ability to endure hardships
Exercising people's ability to endure hardships is personally considered to be beneficial and harmless, so what they have exercised during this period is their quality of not backing down in the face of difficulties, and they have unremitting efforts. In particular, it needs to be cultivated in the embryonic stage of personality.
All in all, what quality children will become will become, and the role of parents in shaping is still more critical.
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