He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
"Women can hold up half the sky" is the biggest lie that some people have about women's groups at the moment.
When will you be able to top half the sky?
When women are required to assume the responsibility of "full-time wives" in marriage, their dedication and hard work are called "top half of the sky".
When women want to realize their self-worth and return to the workplace, they are treated unfairly.
Even if you graduated from 985 with a master's degree?
Even if you have a lot of work experience?
Age is society's first prejudice against women.
I saw a hot search on the Internet: somewhere in Shandong, a 40-year-old 985 female master's degree applied for a job, but was verbally insulted by the company's HR.
The other party said:
"The age is not suitable, may I ask the company to recruit an aunt to raise it?"
Only 40 years old, called "Auntie"?
I found that this society is biased, harsh, and unfair to the female community.
Even, women are embarrassing women.
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"Workplace prejudice" is the first difficulty for women
Some time ago, there was also a hot search on the Internet.
A 27-year-old unmarried woman applied for a job, only to be rejected.
And what are the reasons for the rejection?
The company responded: "Priority is given to married and childbearing, such people are more stable." ”
What is the subtext?
"You are all married, you have children, and you will not have children in a short time, which is easier to handle."
Isn't it ironic to compare the two hot searches?
27-year-old unmarried, disliked by the company as "unstable";
40 years old, married, family, highly educated women to seek employment, but was rejected by the company: "We don't recruit aunts."
What a bias?
How ironic?
When will fairness in the workplace shine a light on women?
See a set of data:
70% of workers over the age of 35 have stagnated career advancement.
What does that mean?
To explain briefly:
When you are over 35 years old, there is basically no possibility of promotion, promotion and salary increase in the workplace, especially in some private companies, especially in small companies.
35 years old is a "hurdle" for people in the workplace in today's society.
After all, fresh college graduates are also facing the crisis of unemployment after graduation;
Over 35 years old, in the eyes of some, is also considered "middle-aged, lack of competitiveness".
"Looking for a job at the age of 35, I think you are old; Retire at 60, think you are small. In the intervening 25 years, are you going to pick up rags to make a living? ”
As a woman, there are too many obstacles to returning from marriage to career, or choosing another career before marriage.
In my hometown, in the small fourth-tier cities, there are quite a few women who have no guarantee in the workplace.
It's just that with a small salary, there are no five insurances and one housing fund.
In this way, they are already satisfied.
To what extent do women need to be able to give them more "workplace fairness"?
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"Full-time wife" is the second hurdle for women
Saw a set of data online:
Which professions have the highest anxiety index for girls?
Among them, "full-time mother" ranked third.
Do you know how much it costs for a girl to take on the role of a stay-at-home mother?
First of all, she must have been out of touch with the workplace for at least 1 year.
From a month or two before pregnancy, basically do not work; If there is maternity leave, be able to take a period of rest.
If there is no maternity leave, it means that you have to give up your career and give birth at home with children.
Some women will choose to return to the workplace after maternity leave, and let the elderly at home help take care of their children.
But what if there is no elderly person in the family to help take care of the children?
Either the couple discuss finding a nanny, but they are not at ease about spending money to ask outsiders to take care of the children.
In the end, only one person can stay at home and be a stay-at-home mom or stay-at-home dad.
And this candidate, "stay-at-home mom" is more likely.
It can be said that:
Choosing to become a stay-at-home mom means that there is no chance to return to the workforce until your child is in kindergarten.
Before and after, stay-at-home mothers have to be out of touch with the workplace for more than 3 years.
Stay-at-home moms aren't scary yet, what's scary?
When a woman chooses to become a stay-at-home mother, she is treated unfairly by her husband and her in-laws.
Like what:
The husband cheats.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions.
After having no financial resources, the husband does not give money to spend.
After giving birth, the husband proposed the AA system.
These phenomena are often seen in my thousands of consulting cases.
As for "widowed parenting, widowhood marriage", it is more frequent in women.
What is the meaning of a woman's marriage, you say?
Is it a husband and godson?
Do you like full-time wives?
They marry men and think they have met love;
They have children and firmly believe that their husbands are responsible and reliable.
They also did not expect that their expectations would be disappointed.
If every husband can give his wife more care, more love, and more "family involvement and responsibility", women's happiness will also be much improved.
In this society, there is a prejudice against women.
workplace discrimination,
Domestic violence;
the anxiety of stay-at-home moms;
the misfortune of marriage;
Not respected, not understood, not loved.
These are all mountains that weigh on women, the shackles that bind their hearts.
The progress of the times is reflected in the tolerance and fairness of women.
Women's consciousness awakening, self-realization, self-respect, can win more "fairness" for themselves.
Respecting every woman is also respecting one's mother.
Today's Topic:
What do you think of the "40-year-old 985 female master's job search was scolded" incident?
Do you think the current environment is fair for women?
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