*Title source: Question 1 of this issue of Micro-Q&A
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Question 1
Keywords: direction of effort
I: 96 years, high 169 heavy 98, not the only sister is married, now a listed company engaged in college entrance examination teaching research and development, the chairman is directly in charge of the development space, in 2024 there is a chance to read the doctorate of the top bull of the people's university. The provincial capital grew up in rural areas, and is now housed as a whole and has a superior location. Cooking and dessert, friends and colleagues around me are full of praise.
The male god is 91 years, high 178 weight 170, art undergraduate, independent, his own foreign business, Y reason is not optimistic, growth experience is insecure, and father has not been harmonious, father does not give financial support to let him go home, pressure often says to try to keep the boss, I respond is my eternal boss. The family is well-off, several properties, and the parents run their own company.
See you once a month or so in a different place and stay for about a week. I never asked about the itinerary, but I would inform me in advance of the dinner and entertainment, and then shoot a video to me, which I never asked. I will tell me every day when I get home. There has never been an unpleasant relationship with each other for half a year.
The male god's family hopes that the daughter-in-law is a good wife and good mother of the husband and godson, and the male god's mother expressed her liking after seeing my photo first and understanding the situation in general, and matched to support the relationship. Hope to get married quickly.
The chat history is the daily style of me and the male god, every day. A separate photo is attached.
Demands:
I want to ask Sister Doll, does my situation belong to Gao Pan? What direction do I need to work on to maintain this sweetness?
I hope that the baby sister and the little assistants will teach a lot and be grateful!
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answer
The front seems a little exaggerated, especially the paragraph where you describe myself, there is always a feeling of full expression. But you later said that "you have never been unhappy with each other for half a year", plus he does look much worse than you in the photo, and if everything you say is not mixed with water, there will be no major problems in your relationship until at least 35 years old.
Plus it's good to watch your conversation, you're quite intimate, although it's not too sweet, it's plain and warm, and if you can keep it in this state all the time, it's not a big problem.
Your advantage now is mainly in the MV, your choice is much higher than him, if you can read the doctor in the description later, it will be better. However, even if you can't read it, the overall impact on you will not be too great, because if you can study for a doctorate, then you are now at least a master, and you have added points. It would be better to read it and add a layer of insurance to your feelings. Whether you read it or not, you have to pay attention to maintaining your current weight. (except during pregnancy and childbirth) (source of the title of this issue)
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Question 2
Keyword: mate selection
【Theme】I would like to ask you to help judge the value of personal marriage, guide the suitable object and how to improve the right to choose a mate.
【Content】Hello baby sister, hello assistants, the following is my personal situation:
• Age: 27.
•Family situation: only daughter in a small city, parents civil servants, father died of illness in recent years, assets within 2 million.
• Appearance: fat, ordinary face; 160cm，59kg。 (Hidden photo not attached)
• Education: 985 Doctor of Arts, first degree one non-heavy book.
•Work: University teacher (signed to be hired), the unit is a university in a third-tier city.
• Personality: honest, low self-esteem (especially appearance), emotional instability.
• Emotional experience: It can be said that no, I have actively pursued two cut men, and because the MV is not high enough, I also blackmailed emotional value, and the results failed.
♡ A new powder, not a glass heart, please criticize more! Thank you Sister Wa, looking forward to being selected! ♡
answer
You are a girl from a small city to a third-tier city, other conditions are ordinary, it seems that the biggest advantage in choosing a mate is 985 doctorate, the profession is a teacher, and it is a university. Cloth like yours is called "academic cloth", which is not as good as "social status cloth" and "money cloth", which is not easy to find objects in the cloth. If you can find a boy from a bad family among your colleagues, the probability will be higher. Especially the phoenix man from a poor background, I think it's good to have the opportunity to enter marriage, but you can't expect him to give you too much emotional value.
Note that this matter must be solved before the age of 30. Because you, as a "doctor cloth", the circle of communication is not large, and unlike the "money cloth", it is likely to rise a lot later. While you are still young and still have scissors, the chances of solving this matter will be higher. Otherwise, after the age of thirty, the mate selection track of "academic cloth" will be too narrow.
Judging by personal conditions, you look quite handsome, but you need to lose weight. I think there will be many enterprising men who will like your style, especially the phoenix men who come from an average background (lower than your original family), and strive for their own hard work the day after tomorrow, if you are lucky, find a more handsome one, or engage in scientific research, civil servants or whatnot, it is possible.
If you want to make a leap in class, you may have to marry a divorced big cloth man, and their personal conditions are not as beautiful as the phoenix man. They are likely to only have primary school education or junior Chinese, and want to rely on you to upgrade the education of their offspring, which is another common choice for your type of girl. But this kind of money cloth that uses you as a stone, I don't think it's a good choice, because they are generally older, if you are looking for it, only 45 years old is suitable for you.
At the same time, your height is not very high, if you look for a phoenix man, your height is not an advantage, but people in the past are generally not as tall as the current person, you look for a big cloth, they feel that they can hold you, height will become your advantage.
You can go either way, it's up to you to choose. No matter how you choose, it's best to get it done before the age of 29. If it really doesn't work, you must also get it before 33, because the further you drag, the less likely you are to choose a phoenix man, and the older you will be to choose a big cloth, which is not a good thing for your fertility.
I hope you will work this matter while you are in your 20s. Take out your heart and energy to enter graduate school and work hard. You can for sure.
Question 3
Keyword: suitor
Good afternoon, sister
I am 93 years 157/46kg/b cup, not alone, in the small third-tier city sales industry Y situation affects the average monthly salary of 6k+, have talked about 3 relationships, the longest 1 year and the fastest less than 3 months, every time is a novelty once I broke up coldly and violently, at this stage I feel that I can also get married
Now there is a junior high school classmate 94 years 170, in the hometown home has a villa, there is a car, flash marriage flash divorce, a son returned to the woman, did not give alimony, in Guangzhou as a sales manager, last year the pursuit period every day afternoon tea, lunch, holiday red envelopes were refused, and then refused on the pretext of not wanting to develop a boyfriend with friends, disappeared for more than 1 year after refusing, and now launched a pursuit, now get along as a friend
May I ask Sister Wa, is this man suitable for me to get married? Am I climbing above each other?
answer
This man has a son, has not yet paid his son alimony, and is engaged in the sales of this very scissor profession, which shows that he is the best among the scissors. At this time, look at his photo, highly beautiful, in the photo he combed a greasy back, his eyes were big, and he was shiny, so neat. Do you think it's possible for him to be with you and not flash the marriage a second time? If you have children, will he give your children support after the divorce? He had an accident with his ex-wife's children, is it possible that he will completely leave it alone?
If you are greedy for money and want a good partner, then you are bound to accept a rotten big apple. There must be pitfalls in this relationship after marriage, and you have to watch out for it.
Question 4
Keyword: mate selection
Dear doll pick up hello, thank you for meeting you last year, solved a lot of emotional problems, currently read the public account every day, wish the baby sister family health and happiness.
In 00, there is an 11-year-old brother in Non-Ren Fei, 177/123 pounds tall, B cup, college degree, self-assessment cloth cutting, currently in the first line of the Soviet Union monthly salary of 5k.
Knowing that my academic qualifications are insufficient, I am studying part-time undergraduate, and last year I was fortunate to contact the doll sister to read some books, and I am currently reading it lightly.
Emotional experience:
I talked to a boyfriend in college for a year and a half. The pu is high, and the MV is relatively high compared to the other half, but there are many little fairies that the baby sister has contacted, and here they dare not be presumptuous. Treat the other half as a provider for emotional value and eventually break up
Family situation:
My parents have been divorced since childhood, and my younger brother is half-father, but I love him very much, when he was a child, he was breastfeeding and diapers and sleeping well, and his sister felt very full of motherhood since he was a child. It is difficult for the mother to intervene in the family, and her father's love and mother's love are slightly lacking, but she also knows that every family has a difficult scripture.
Knowing that it is difficult to find an excellent spouse in first-tier cities, he is now hesitant to return to his second-tier hometown. But my own distribution is a bit heavy, and I always want to slowly accumulate savings in first-tier cities, and then try some anchor side businesses.
So I wavered in first-tier cities and returned to my hometown to work, hoping to be lucky enough to be drawn by the baby sister team to solve its confusion
answer
You are indeed a cloth cut, but it belongs to a cloth cut that is not very good-looking, and you are a little beauty in the crowd, but if you want to brave the Internet celebrity circle, it is almost meaningful. If you are a anchor, if you don't be a ca-side anchor or dance a little ca-side, you will definitely not be popular.
And your appearance looks quite gentle, not ruthless, see that you speak greedily, lack of ambition, and do not look like a girl who can be open-minded, so you better give up the road of being an Internet celebrity earlier, it is not suitable for you, you do not have a good view can simply rely on your face to eat.
But in other words, you are so tall, it is not very easy to find a partner when you go back to your hometown. The best way for you is to lower your heart and find a second married man with children who is much shorter than you.
Some people may ask, why do I advise the subject not to marry a boy with children in the previous question, and I advise the subject to find a boy with children in this question.
Because people are different, the subject of the previous question has obvious aggression, it can be seen that she and the child with the child, as well as the ex-wife can not get along, if it is forced, sooner or later there will be a problem, then it is better not to find a boy with children.
But the girl in this question looks more gentle, gets along better, adjusts and adjusts her mentality, and has the possibility of developing towards Bushi, she is likely to get along with the child of the ex-wife, then it is easier for her to get good results when she meets a boy with children.
The former should avoid men with children, but the chance of marriage is not large, the latter can consider having children and men, the probability of marriage is high.
Back to this question, your height is difficult to be accepted in your hometown, because there are few boys who cut and cloth in your hometown, and if you stay in the big city to cut cloth, you have more opportunities.
However, you also have an advantage is your age, so young, even if you are taller, it is not without a chance to return to your hometown. You can take advantage of the time to inquire more when you go home, see if you can find a suitable partner in your hometown, of course, it is better to find it, and the girl can not be a stepmother.
Question 5
Keywords: stone cloth
Hello smart and beautiful doll! Thank you and your assistants for opening such an emotional counseling platform and helping so many sisters. I have followed you for many years and bought your book to study, but I still do not learn well, so I would like to ask you and my assistants for advice:
I am a stone cloth woman, with high spirit, low emotional intelligence, self-centeredness, low perception, and not good at communicating with people. I tried changing the properties and it didn't work. I know in my heart that I can't control myself when it comes to the actual situation.
Sometimes the intentions are good, but the response is not satisfactory. Over time, I became more conservative, preferring not to do things than to do the wrong things.
For example, the leader of the unit asked me to help him, and I found that he was not satisfied after helping. After reviewing the fact, I think that I should ask more leaders for advice, but after reflection, I will still not handle similar things well, and my ability to adapt to changes is limited.
Another example is that I am the eldest sister, there is a younger brother who is 10 years younger than me and goes to secondary school, my mother's thinking is traditional and patriarchal, and the family's economic conditions are not good. I want to play the strengths of cloth, my monthly salary to the card is 5200r, I transferred 500r to my mother's bank card for a year, my mother collected. (Before the salary was 2300r, I transferred 1000r per month and she confiscated)
But when I came home and asked my mother to treat me and my brother equally at least in terms of housework, she refused, saying that she would return the money, and my family did not understand me. Shouldn't you make money and expect from your family?
Alas, I am distressed, what are the advantages of this attribute of stone cloth? How to leverage strengths and avoid weaknesses?
answer
If you give your mother 10,000 yuan a month, and she needs this 10,000 yuan very much, then this is a lot of money for her and can really change her life. If you ask her to change for you and treat her as an equal, it may work. Even if you don't do any housework, you push it to your younger brother, which is no problem.
Calling your mother with a salary of 5200 to your mother 500 feels that you are playing to the strengths of cloth, and you feel that you can ask others to change decades of ingrained wrong thinking for you, which may be your biggest misunderstanding of cloth.
But you only give your mother 500 a month, for you, you may feel that your brother has not given at all, and you are already "giving back" to the family, how to say that you are doing your filial piety, your mother should change somewhat.
But what you didn't expect is that these 500 are not much different for your mother's life, taking it and not taking it sincerely. But it's unrealistic for you to use this 500 a month as a handle to threaten her to change her original ideas. If it is so simple to get along with people, 500 yuan can solve such a deep-rooted problem, then our account does not need to be opened, everyone takes 500 yuan to ask others to change it.
The advantage of the stone cloth attribute is that it can do housework very well, do a lot of work well, and have the opportunity to do well in your career. And your current problem is that it is too internal consumption. Many stone cloths will be depressed, because they do not master how to deal with emotions, every time they interact with others, they are frustrated, and finally they are simply rotten.
The root cause of these situations is that they have too little knowledge of the real world. For example, if you think that if you give your mother 500 yuan a month, you will have the capital to compete with the authority of your parents, isn't this funny?
If you want to completely correct the traditional idea of "son preference" of your parents, you must be much better than your younger brother, and you will earn more money to offset the uncertainty brought by future generations and the disadvantages of your grandchildren.
Let's take ancient times as an example, if a family has only one house, this house is not given to the daughter, the daughter can still marry; If a son is given, the son will marry his daughter-in-law well, and they will have more opportunities to have better grandchildren. If this suite is given to the daughter, the son is very likely not to marry his daughter-in-law, and the daughter just attracts a little white face and ruins the family property, which is equivalent to giving away a lifetime of savings to outsiders. There is an ancient word called "eating the household", which refers to this situation.
In the traditional education your parents receive, if parents prefer women to boys, they run the risk of being "eaten out", the family property will be destroyed, the son will not find the other half, and the daughter will be deceived.
If your level of excellence can eliminate their panic about this and settle your brother's life, then they will value you more and more, otherwise they instinctively feel that it is better to follow the information they have been exposed to since childhood, according to their past experience.
You now transfer 500 yuan and start making demands, which is so impractical. But if you switch to a place where you can keep your parents from work for the rest of your life and turn the price of your life (such as adding a w), don't say change, you can do whatever you want at home. But now you only take out 500, give too little, ask too much, this is your most stone cloth place.
Now what you can do is not to think that 500 pieces can be bought to change. "Patriarchal" does not seem correct to you, but it is even more incorrect that you want to "buy" a change with money. If I were you, I would think that my family did not lack my 500 yuan, and if I couldn't pay without resentment, I would rather not give it first. If you want to honor your parents, you can wait until you earn more money.
You want to know what stone cloth is, "Filipino maid" is a very typical kind of stone cloth. People have internal cloth support, and can do housework to the extreme, and they are also very loyal at work. It is internationally famous. And in many state-owned enterprises, stone cloth women can also be very happy.
Believe that you also have many advantages in this attribute, but you haven't found the right way to open it yet.
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