A question: Have you watched the realistic life drama "The Right Way to Open Life" starring Huang Bo and Mei Ting?
Nanfeng originally wanted to wait for it to finish before watching it, but accidentally brushed some audiences to "complain" about it, saying that this drama "makes people's blood pressure soar", so he rushed into the play with the mentality of "I want to see how angry people I can be". As a result, I watched more than twenty episodes...
#是谁每天等更新, I don't say... #
The spit on this drama on the Internet Nanfeng has also watched, there is a saying, from the fragments alone, some plots are really infuriating.
For example, Li Man (played by Liu Hailan) suspects that her husband Yu Guang (played by Tian Yu) is cheating, and Li Man, who does not ask the reason and is unreasonable, is very much in line with the image of "a hysterical wife who suspects her husband of cheating".
Many viewers complained that Li Man was "too made", saying that Li Man, who married into a "wealthy family", was a typical "want, want, and want" in marriage, thinking that she only took and did not give in marriage, and was suspicious all day. Therefore, some viewers sighed that "women can't do too much, don't make it difficult for men to do it", and Nanfeng can also understand.
But if you extend the plot a little more, explore "Why did Li Man break out?" ", the audience will find that Li Man's grass and trees are essentially vigilant against marriage, because their sense of security has not been satisfied.
Li Man joined the family as Yu Guang's second wife, and Yu Guang, as a husband, did not observe her sadness as a stepmother, nor did she find her deliberately lowered posture for the sake of this family.
When Yu Guang passionately pursued her, she could still regard the other party as a dependency, but in the past, her life would always tend to be dull, and Yu Guang's feelings about her daughter did not allow her to have a child of her own. Li Man's sense of security in this marriage is becoming less and less, she thinks about it, and the only thing she can desperately grasp is money.
So the quarrel between the husband and wife became: Li Man felt that he had to have enough money to feel safe, but Yu Guang felt that Li Man was always calculating his money. In this husband and wife state, it is such an endless cycle, it is strange not to quarrel.
Some other clips that the audience focused on complaining about were also likely the same problem, and the conflict of the plot made the audience focus on the quarrel itself, but did not find the reason for the outbreak hidden in the shadows.
Bian Liang (played by Huang Bo) "defaulted" to the favor of female subordinates in the workplace, and the audience felt that it was a minus for male morality, but looking back, you will know that the workplace culture pursued by Bian Liang is to separate life from work, face the rejection of female subordinates, and continue to work.
#HR: We suspect that you have an improper relationship with a female subordinate
Bian Liang: Then I'll take her to have a meal with my wife #
At the beginning, in the face of Wen Caocao (Zou Yuanqing)'s confession and constant overtures, Bian Liang was panicked, he seemed to be unable to refuse harshly enough because of the same thing, but in fact his heart never wavered. His care for Wen Hasao is also limited to the normal scope of care for capable subordinates as a superior.
He will tell Wen Cao Cao as soon as possible, "I'm married", hoping that the other party will stop in time. He would take Wen Cao Hao home for dinner, let her see the love between himself and his wife, and wanted the other party to retreat. He will also sternly tell the other party that "you have crossed the line" when the other party is worried about his family affairs.
The boss knocked on the side and said that there was nothing wrong with being a little ambiguous in the work, but Bian Liang would directly express his "dare not agree".
Work to work, life to life, as a leader, Bian Liang does not want to let personal relationships affect the normal progress of work, but he will also stick to the bottom line and protect his family.
There is also the relationship between Bian Liang and his father Frontier (played by Han Tongsheng), which also makes many viewers feel angry, and as soon as everyone sees this "unconscious" father, they feel that the blood rushes directly to the head.
Frontier suspected that his son was cheating, and followed him all the way to the playground, and the so-called "evidence" was not found, but he injured himself.
He accompanied his grandson Lian Mai to play games, and even took him to "skip school" to experience the life of a chef, and the old man was submissive and doting on children, contrary to the educational philosophy of Bian Liang and his wife for children.
He and his own mother are always quarrelling, and many conflicts break out in front of the children, which makes the children very embarrassed.
He always seems to be enthusiastically mixed into the children's lives, and eventually makes the small family "chicken and dog restless". Some viewers think that if it were not for this father who "cares" and "loves to make trouble", Bian Liang's small family would not have contradictions.
But once you put aside the phenomenon and look at the essence, you will find that the frontier that has long been retired, the world is actually very small. In order to be able to close the distance with his grandson Bian Xiaofang, he ran to play games when he was old; Seeing that his son "is going to go the wrong way", he hurriedly knocked on him ...
The old man's approach may not be appropriate, but the original intention is good. The grandson was ostracized at school, and he went to the court to fight to support Xiaofang; His own mother suffered from Alzheimer's disease, and he put aside his contradictions and seriously helped find a way. He is doing his best to use his own methods to maintain this small family.
If you think about it, the audience can "complain" about the plot of "The Right Way to Open Life" because the things that happen to the characters in the play are all annoying things that we ordinary people will experience.
This kind of life is very bad and trivial, and it is easy to substitute ourselves.
In Bian Liang, we see various contradictions in the workplace and family intergenerational relationships.
People reach middle age, there is no breakthrough in their career, but the mortgage cannot be seen at a glance, not only to bear the double pressure from the family and the workplace, but also to worry about the trivialities in life, every day when you wake up to the project plan, the child is about to take the exam, and the parents at home are not in good health...
Once his wife, who has most of the family responsibilities, decides to "take a break," the balance he has worked so hard to maintain collapses overnight.
He is like the epitome of thousands of middle-aged men, connecting the identities of professionals, husbands, fathers, and sons in a state of "glue".
He carries the responsibility on his shoulders and his family in his heart, leaving him with endless stress and exhaustion.
Not only Bian Liang, who has a strong sense of substitution, but also everyone around him has the shadow of "us".
Fu Xintong (played by Mei Ting), who has been away from the workplace for more than ten years, originally chose to return to the family for her children, and now that her children have grown up, she wants to return to the workplace, but the workplace is no longer her world.
After several trade-offs, she chose to start again from the insurance industry, but before she took a few steps, she was "disliked" by Bian Liang because she posted insurance information in the circle of friends, and he was very worried that this behavior would make others look down on him.
The combination of Dongxiao (played by Zhu Zhu) and Zhao Xian (played by Sun Jian), a sassy female executive X returning elite, seems to be sweet and matched, but faintly feels like be.
After all, Dongxiao's front foot just showed that he could not have children with Zhao Xian's parents, and Zhao Xian's parents also said that they did not care about this, but the man on the back foot took out a prenuptial agreement and listed a separate article about the child...
In the latest trailer, Dongxiao is also suspected of catching evidence that Zhao Xian cheated on him, and he really sees how something is wrong.
In addition to these, there is also Fu Xintong's mother in the middle of Alzheimer's disease, memory loss, and the helplessness of the three families being tossed by knocking on the door in the middle of the night; Bian Xiaofang, who is in adolescence, is entangled and ignorant about the future; Bian Liang's choice between Mr. Zhao, who values himself, and Mr. Liao, who teaches him to grow, the game between the two parties and the confrontation in the workplace...
It can be said that although the drama "The Right Way to Open Life" revolves around Bian Liang, it does not only focus on Bian Liang, it shows a middle-aged life guide, real and comprehensive.
There is a saying, the plot of life flow, the most difficult thing is to tell the story itself, the control of the story "passed" will make the audience feel too depressed, "thin" and make people feel not real enough.
What is rare is that "The Right Way to Open Life" not only "tells a story well", but also shows the truth and makes the story warm and healing.
For the thinking of life itself, this drama does not force preaching, nor does it press the head to let the audience come in and learn, but very naturally talk about things, and let everyone feel the strength in the mutual support and mutual waiting between husband and wife.
When the child was anxious and the relationship between mother and child was tense, Fu Xintong and Bian Liang talked about the mother's sacrifice and sacrifice in the family, and talked about the impact of parents' emotions on the child, and the mother said, "I don't want to be a perfect mother, I want to be a happy mother." ”
When Fu's mother Alzheimer's disease was serious, Fu Xintong sighed "Do you say that I will be like this when I am old", Bian Liang asked her to "don't think blindly", and pulled her back to hug her who was leaving.
It is normal for husband and wife to have friction and misunderstanding, but they are willing to communicate, be honest with each other, and always work together to solve problems. Fu Xintong was depressed, and Bian Liang would offer to accompany his wife out to relax. Bian Liang was suspected of cheating by his mother-in-law, and Fu Xintong would calmly express his trust in her husband.
The husband understands enough, the wife trusts enough, one is willing to take responsibility, and the other dares to give up. This way of opening up life is not suitable for all families, but it is "correct" for Bian Liang's small family.
Life always has ups and downs, and life always goes on. This drama seems to be the daily life of Bian Liang and his wife, the competition between the three generations of the Bian family, and the life of the Bian family's "chicken flying dog jumping", but it is actually the warm companionship of the family.
Every family has each family's "opening way", and there is no right or wrong way to get along, let alone high or low, only adaptation.
For Bian Liang Fu Xintong, ordinary life itself is very happy, this way may not be applicable in a family like Li Manyuguang, but many netizens feel that it brings a lot of inspiration to themselves.
At the end of the day, there is no standard answer to life, and everyone's life must be defined by themselves.
"The Right Way to Open Life" is not to tell everyone what is right and what is wrong, but to unfold the real life through the experience of the characters, so that the audience can find a way to suit themselves.
Everyone's situation is different, if we can get some inspiration and strength from others, and then face our own life better, how is this not a gain?
Life itself can be beautiful and warm, and so can we be in it. I wish everyone can find their own "right way to open life"~