The disappointment of boys in love is well hidden.

You say, how do boys behave when they are disappointed in a relationship?"

This is a question asked me last week by a friend who had just been in love.

Her boyfriend belongs to the kind of person who has a particularly good temper, whether he is happy or unhappy, he will not act obviously, and everything will follow her.

Although she seemed so happy to others, she was full of uneasiness about it.

Because if one party's negative emotions cannot be understood and appeased by the other party, sooner or later it will become the fuse for the two to break up.

I just have to admit that most of the boys' disappointment in their feelings is well hidden and difficult to detect.

So to this end, I interviewed a friend of the opposite sex who had just broken up (that is, a cousin who was a year younger than me).

-How do you guys behave when they are dissatisfied with their girlfriends?

- Nothing to show.

- Won't you be angry and not talk? Or tell the other person about it?

- No, if I were angry, she would be even angrier than I was. Directly explained? Even more unlikely, she wouldn't listen to what she said, and it seemed like I was calculating.

- Then keep putting up with it?

- Yeah, or else?

- If your girlfriend has any complaints about you, do you want her to tell you directly or put up with it like you?

- Of course, that's telling me, or I wouldn't know she was angry.

-Then why can't you tell her too?

-Men are not the same as women, you women are always easy to get angry, angry do not say anything, WeChat does not reply to the phone, it takes several days to coax well, we men are angry with themselves digested.

- Do you remember anything that disappointed you in your last relationship?

- Of course I remember. Once before she was sick, I cooked her porridge and cooked a lot of dishes, busy all morning, but she didn't eat two bites, said it was too salty, and finally I ate it all. If I had cooked for her, she would have been angry.

Another time I went to pick her up from work, it was only ten minutes late, she ignored me with a cold face along the way, and several times in the middle of the initiative to talk to her, she did not look at me, and passers-by thought that I was harassing her, which was very embarrassing.

- Have you ever thought that if you had communicated these grievances or misunderstandings in a timely manner, you might not have broken up now?

- Maybe, but... Never mind.

After talking, I only have one feeling: many feelings are estimated to end like him.

Replace dissatisfaction with silence and communication with tolerance.

So that obviously small problems have finally become the last straw that crushes feelings.

So many people still can't understand what the two people broke up for many years.

Because that person never showed his real moment of disappointment, you never know what broke his heart.

I don't know if all boys like to hide their disappointments like this.

At least the exes I've met before seem to be like that.

They rarely express their dissatisfaction with some of my actions, nor do they scold me for doing something wrong to break his heart, nor do they completely snub me because of a small matter.

Most of the time he was capturing my emotions and soothing my grievances.

Occasionally I could detect a little bit of his frustration, but he always calmed himself up quickly.

So if you think about it, you don't seem to be a competent girlfriend either.

We often say, "Enough disappointment, and we leave."

In fact, most of the time this sentence is said from the perspective of women. Because women's emotions are more delicate, they also prefer to show them.

However, this principle also applies to boys.

Boys will also feel dissatisfied and disappointed in love, but they don't like, are not used to or good at expressing these emotions.

He felt, or that there was a part of this society that made him feel that boys should not be too preoccupied, could not have too many negative emotions, and could not show their dissatisfaction in front of their girlfriends.

Otherwise it is "not a man".

But emotions are gender-neutral.

A healthy romantic relationship requires both people to honestly show their emotions, and then to communicate, to reconcile, to change, rather than blindly tolerate and tolerate.

Otherwise, even the best feelings will slowly wear out in the disappointment of day after day.

It's not about gender, it's about whether you want to keep the relationship going.

It's actually important to realize that you're "disappointed" in your relationship, because only then can you have the option of "dealing with disappointment head-on."

And making choices can prevent greater disappointments in the future.

So, the next time you are disappointed, you may wish to tell yourself: you can endure, but don't go on like this, and don't quietly accumulate disappointment.

Maybe she cares more about your emotions than you think.

Author: Zhou I don't know

Music: Hu Xia, "I Only Like You"

Typography: Kai Kan

Design: Pepe