After more than half of my life after 80, stop tossing and turning, and this life will win

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Zi Yue: "The deceased is like a sifu, who does not give up day and night." ”

Time is like flowing water, and our childhood after the 80s is still vividly remembered, and now it has passed the age of confusion.

We lament the passage of time and panic about the half of our lives.

Roman Roland once said: "Life does not sell round-trip tickets, once you leave, you can never return." ”

The past cannot be traced, and the future can still be expected. The past makes it the past, and as long as we grasp the present and the future, we can still win life.

For the post-80s generation who have lived more than half of their lives, winning or losing does not depend on career and wealth, as long as you let go of the past and stop tossing, you will win in this life.

Do not toss the body, health is a blessing

Chernyshevsky once said: "Life is beautiful, and for man beauty cannot be separated from the normal development of the human body and the health of the human body." ”

Wu Di's older brother Wu Wei in "Northern Love" is an ambitious and successful person, from his 20s to his 30s, he spent 10 years to build his own business empire.

But just when he was in his prime, he was diagnosed with a dying life before he could enjoy the country he had laid down by his own hands, and he once said: "I have used myself too hard over the years." ”

He knew he had the result of today, all because of his ambitions, but it was too late.

Li Ka-shing once said: "In addition to making money to satisfy their sense of accomplishment, a person is to make his life better, if he only cares about making money and losing his health, it is not worth it." ”

In this world, nothing is more important than health, health is the root of everything, living intact, there is hope for the future.

If health is gone, everything becomes meaningless.

There is a saying in the folk that says it well: "When you are young, you use health for money, and when you are old, you use money to exchange health." ”

People are like this, each age has different pursuits, but in the end they find that everything they do is just a futile cycle.

After the age of 40, take health as one of the most important things in life, and don't damage it for any reason, because health is the premise of having a happy second half of your life.

Don't toss the mentality, contentment and happiness

Thomas Hardy once said, "The meaning of life is not in the changes in the outside world, but in the experience of the heart." ”

The so-called inner experience is actually a state of mind.

According to the Liezi Tianrui, when Confucius traveled to Mount Taishan, he met a man on the road who was unclothed but played and sang on the side of the road with ease.

Confucius asked him why he was so happy, and he replied that there were many reasons why he was happy. Born of all things, only man is the most honorable, he was born as a man, this is a pleasure; there is a difference between men and women, men are inferior to women, he was born as a man, this is the second happiness; life has not seen the day, the early death, he can live to 90 years old, this is the three joys.

Ninety-year-old man obviously suffered from human suffering, but can live so happily, the most fundamental reason is still in the mentality, he has an optimistic heart, everything to think of the good, do not care about regrets and gains and losses, with a grateful attitude to look at the world,

In this way, he will feel both content and happy.

Zhang Ying once wrote in the "Congxun ZhaiYu": "It is always difficult to be rich and poor, and contentment is the meaning." ”

The standard of happiness and happiness is not rich or poor and success or failure, but contentment.

In life, many troubles are caused by mentality, if you can change your mentality, all your troubles can disappear.

Don't regret the past gains and losses, don't bother yourself for what hasn't happened yet, and live every day in the present.

Don't compare yourself with others, others have other people's lives, you have your life, live your life behind closed doors.

Don't care too much about what others think, and enjoy every minute and every second in your own human life.

Don't toss money, keep savings

It is very much appreciated as a saying on the Internet: "Money is not omnipotent, but without money it is impossible." ”

People living in this world are inseparable from money, and chai, rice, oil, salt, food, clothing, housing, and transportation must rely on money to solve the problem.

For a person in his 40s, with savings in his hands, his heart will not panic, but if he is empty or even in debt, the future days will be even more difficult.

In addition to the working people in the system, the earning power of the vast majority of people is inversely proportional to age.

When you are young, you can toss and turn, and it is better to settle down in your 40s, do not do anything risky, and hold the money in your hand is a victory.

Life is a gamble, but this gamble is only suitable for the first half of life, for a person who has more than half of his life, any adventure has the possibility of losing, and for people of this age they can no longer afford to lose.

Don't think about making a lot of money by investing, don't go to the sea to do business, don't lend your money out at will, live quietly, and keep your savings more important than anything else.

Don't toss life, be safe and stable

Life is roughly divided into two parts, one part is work and the other part is marriage.

If a person wants to live a stable life, he must first settle down these two aspects.

No tossing at work

When you are young, you can jump ship at will, and if you are not satisfied, you can change it, but when you are in your 40s, don't act arbitrarily.

If you can always do this job to the end, a plain life, in the future honestly take retirement pay.

Although this kind of life is not exciting, it is at least particularly stable, which is better than accidentally losing one's job and finding employment.

No tossing in marriage

Put away the flower intestines, and all the unrealistic ideas.

Mistakes were made when I was young, and last time there was room for manoeuvre, and a person in his 40s would suffer more or less in his later years if he lost his marriage.

In the second half of life, it is a partner and children, and if you keep your family, you will have a peaceful old age.

Don't play a good hand of cards, or you won't be able to bear the pain of your later years.

Epilogue:

From adolescence to old age, it's a process that no one can escape.

If life is likened to a journey, then the situation in your 40s is the most critical part of this journey.

In his 40s, he is no longer young, but he is not yet moving towards old age.

After saying goodbye to youth, everyone must prepare for the second half of their lives.

Life is precious in stability, do not have to be rich and expensive, do not have to stand at the top of the pyramid, you just need to stop tossing, with a calm attitude to face the next life, you have won in this life.

I am Shadow, an original author who focuses on the field of emotion.