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In the 32 episodes of "Dear Child", Su Jingwei's company was manipulated, and internal employee Kang Shao leaked secrets to opponents, causing the company to suddenly fall into difficulties, facing many partners to terminate contracts and collect debts.
Su Jingwei felt that Xiao Lu must have done this, after all, he left his company and knew a lot of secrets.
At this time, he had already quietly gone to the hospital to do matching, and he was matched with Xiao Lu's daughter Hehe, but he still needed further confirmation and examination.
So it was still in a situation that was not public, at this time, he suddenly thought that Xiao Lu had betrayed himself, and there was naturally a knot in his heart, and there was hatred, and when the hospital urged him to cooperate with the examination again, he hesitated.
Run to the bar to chat with Lei Wen, to the effect that when the enemy is in trouble, you can save, will you save?
Lei Wen did not answer directly, but talked about her own affairs, her parents divorced, her mother scolded her father in front of her every day in front of her, and she naturally followed her mother to hate her father.
But she was still a child at the time, easy to forget bad things, but also easy to encounter happy things, every time she wanted to go home to share with her mother, she found her mother with a sad face, scolding and grinning, and her excitement suddenly fell, and suddenly reached the freezing point.
What she means is that hate takes more power than love.
The advice to Su Jingwei is: do what you think is right, if you don't know which one is right, do what you feel you won't regret.
Indeed, hating someone doesn't make you get more, it doesn't make you feel better, and it doesn't affect the person you hate.
Some people often say, "Do not persuade others to be good without suffering."
Sounds reasonable, but what kind of suffering are you suffering? How do you go about being "evil"?
On the issue of feelings, the other party has changed his heart, changed people, and abandoned you, and you feel that he has hurt you and brought you pain. You start to hate him, and even keep pestering him, feeling that "you want to make him feel bad."
But looking back, was he the one who made you miserable? Or do you have to suffer yourself?
If you don't love him, you don't care, you can even feel very happy when he changes people, because you can also change people. So what's the big deal about him giving up on you first?
If you love him, shouldn't you bless him? Go with his word? If so, what are you suffering from?
Is it reluctant? Is that reluctance love? Maybe it's just a factor of possession, enjoyment, domination.
And those pains may be unloved or unloved, just because they are unwilling, or even just afraid of other people's jokes.
So the pain of these sayings and goings is not necessarily brought to you by that person, but what you allow yourself, what you are willing to do, and what you choose.
If you hate that person, you can also, anyway, it does not affect others, you want to hate it.
But in the process of this hate, you will lose a lot of new beauty.
As Lei Wen said, she could have been very happy, but her mother always mentioned unpleasant things and always reminded her to hate her father.
How much more than worth the loss? You are obviously hating others, in fact, you are looking for yourself to be unhappy, others may not know anything, continue to live a leisurely life, no impact.
If you feel that this is even more unpleasant and "disturbs" him, it is actually just to find more unpleasantness for yourself.
It is very tiring, very hard, and it takes more strength than loving someone.
In this process, you can't sleep well, eat well, and have no way to start a new life.
Even because of this resentment and get sick, so that the life is messed up.
This is obviously not a cost-effective thing, it is not the right choice.
It is better not to care whether he is disappointed or abandoned, a person leaves himself, sorry for himself, just let him go, ignore him, or bless him, and then go to live his own life.
There are also new opportunities to meet better people, there are better opportunities to live another life, and it may be that fate has arranged for you to leave this person, to rearrange a better person and a better life for you.
Therefore, if there is any need to hate someone all the time, it will not make yourself healthy, nor will it make himself better, and it will not make him uncomfortable because of your hatred.
So, why hate anyone? Remembering the phrase "He made his sins, I accumulate my virtues" is also similar to this mentality.
He was sorry for me, I was already miserable, so I couldn't torture myself anymore.
This torture includes a lot, such as hating him is a kind of torture, not going forward is a kind of torture, and complaining and reminding yourself to hate him every day is even more a kind of torture.
Anyway, remember not to spend time on people who don't love themselves or give up on themselves, spend energy, hate needs time and energy, take these things to make yourself happier, and contact some people who can make you happy.
Otherwise, to hate others is to trap oneself in a quagmire, because the hated person knows nothing, but the bad feelings have to be tried by the hated person himself.
This kind of laborious and unflattering thing, we naturally do not want to do, use the fastest time to adjust ourselves, hurry to live a new life, in order to live up to the good times of good people.