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School bullying is a very terrible word, in the eyes of many parents, school bullying occurs frequently in primary and junior high schools, so this stage is also an important period for families to carry out anti-bullying education for their children.
But you know what? Nowadays, the situation of school bullying has become more and more young, and even many children have suffered various unfair treatment in kindergarten.
What is even more heart-wrenching is that some seemingly harmless "hidden bullying" makes children have words of suffering, and also makes parents helpless.
Teachers do not fight and do not scold, but children have words of suffering, parents do not ignore these "hidden bullying"
A few days ago, chatting with colleagues, colleagues' sons are in kindergarten middle class, talking about the child's performance in school, colleagues confessed that this kindergarten is very disappointing, she is considering changing the school for her children.
It turns out that the son of a colleague is a more naughty category in the class, and many times sleeping and eating require the teacher to pay more patience, and over time, the child becomes the most headache in the class.
Although the teacher of the class does not beat or scold the children, but often speaks sarcastically, the attitude towards the son of the colleague is obviously different from the treatment of other children, over time, many students in the class also imitated the teacher's attitude, a mention of a classmate, everyone is a bad impression.
Colleagues admit that although it is true that their sons are naughty, the attitude of teachers and classmates towards their sons makes them very uncomfortable, and children who grow up in this environment will inevitably have self-confidence and self-esteem to be hit and hurt.
The experience of colleagues is not uncommon in real life, which is also the "hidden bullying" staged in many kindergartens.
The following kinds of hidden bullying are often staged in kindergartens, and parents should pay attention to them:
1. The teacher's abandonment makes the child an "invisible person"
In kindergartens, usually two or three teachers have to take care of thirty or forty children, and if some of these children have higher needs and stubborn personalities, they will make the teacher feel very tired and helpless.
As a teacher, neither corporal punishment of children, nor can they scold children, then in order to take care of the large group, many teachers will choose to give up such children directly, as long as they do not do things out of line, the teacher will have to get by.
But this approach often leads to the child's needs not being met, the teacher's indifference and abandonment will make them become the "invisible person" in the class, and as the child's mind develops, they will also behave very resistant to the teacher and the kindergarten.
2. Unintentional "verbal violence" by the teacher
Verbal violence is not just accusations, but sometimes includes inappropriate jokes and careless ridicule.
When the naughty children in the class suddenly stand out, the teacher may casually say: Even so-and-so classmates can do this, can other children not do it?
When you see the obese children in the class working, the teacher may joke: the little fat man is really diligent today!
Although these words are not malicious, they will label the child, and the teacher's every word and deed will affect the class students, and the children will quickly remember these nicknames and amplify them indefinitely.
3. Habitual domination by classmates
In the relationship between small children, we will find that some children with strong personalities will habitually dominate and direct others, and the dominated children will compromise due to personality reasons even if they are unwilling.
In fact, this kind of domination regardless of the wishes of others is also a kind of hidden school bullying, and over time, the dominated children will lose self-confidence, and their personality will become only promised and dare not express.
When children encounter school bullying, how should parents solve it?
First of all, parents should teach their children to bravely say no to school bullying, and the premise of letting children refuse is to let them know which behaviors are school bullying.
Parents can tell their children the scope of bullying through some picture book stories, and help their children identify invisible bullying by communicating with their children about their school situation.
Secondly, when children encounter school bullying, in addition to teaching them to fight back, parents can not sit still, but to communicate with teachers in time, meet parents when necessary, use practical actions to clarify their positions, and let children understand that they are their strong backing.
Finally, parents should not ignore the psychological harm brought by school bullying to their children, whether the problem is temporarily solved or not, parents should pay attention to their children's psychological changes and actively channel their children's negative emotions.
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