Growth is a very painful thing, in the eyes of many small partners, people's growth seems to be concentrated in the stage of youth and ignorance, but this is not the case.
In fact, growth runs through our entire life, even if people reach middle age, they still need to grow, but when fate wants you to grow, there will always be some people or things that make you unhappy to stimulate you.
Too comfortable and comfortable life, often let everyone forget to reflect, only the ups and downs, will make everyone think about the pain, but also during this period, harvest growth.
For middle-aged people, if friends of the opposite sex do the following things to you, don't contact, they are arranged by fate to help you grow.
1, borrow money and do not repay
Same-sex and heterosexual getting along, there is always a difference, for many small partners, if it is a same-sex friend and their own borrowing money, do not want to borrow or do not have the ability to borrow, will bluntly tell each other.
But if it is replaced by a friend of the opposite sex, it is usually not easy to say it if you refuse, especially for men, but also because of face, even if you do not have enough money, you will still be generous with your scalp.
It's just that in this world, not everyone is grateful, especially when it comes to monetary interests, and it is best to see a person's character.
Obviously, it has reached the agreed repayment date, but the other party has delayed the repayment action, even if you gently remind the other party, but they still continue to pretend to be stupid.
Even when you go bluntly to ask for money, they will still find all kinds of reasons and excuses to shirk it, and such people clearly don't want to pay it back.
First of all, paying back money is a matter of course, so even if you are willing to lend money to them, even if you are willing to lend money to them, you want to pay the account after borrowing money, such a person's character is problematic.
Secondly, everyone is still a friend, and with such a friendship, the other party should consider it for you, think about your difficulties, and cannot ignore you for your own interests.
Presumably, this is also the reason why more and more people are reluctant to lend money to others.
2. Over-concern
It is normal for friends to care for each other, but everyone will have a degree, even if they are friends with good feelings, there will be a boundary in their daily life, and crossing the line will only make everyone uncomfortable, and will also bring the opposite effect to each other's friendship.
Especially for friends of the opposite sex, this boundary will be more obviously divided, just as some men will reduce contact with friends of the opposite sex since falling in love, and the other party will also understand that they will not bother.
For middle-aged people, they often have a family, in this case, if the other party really just treats you as a friend, they will definitely distance themselves from you and avoid bringing trouble to your life.
But if the other party not only does not pull away, but cares too much about you, it can only show that he has other ideas about you, and he does not want to have a relationship with you, just limited to ordinary friends.
In this case, everyone's best choice is to stay away from each other's lives and let the other party disappear completely from their own lives.
If you continue to get along, it will only make the other party fall deeper and deeper, and it will also cause unnecessary misunderstandings in your lover, so only in this way can the harm be minimized.
3. Pour out your heart
In fact, in life, everyone encounters a lot of troubles, will find friends to pour out, which is not a problem in itself, the key lies in the gender of the object of pouring.
If it is a same-sex friend, the whole thing will become ordinary, if it is a friend of the opposite sex, it is not a big deal to occasionally confide in the heart, but if it is the other party, as long as there is a heart, it will come to you to chat, then pay attention.
In the case of singleness, there may be nothing intimate between friends of the opposite sex, but in the case of marriage, we must pay attention to maintaining a distance from the opposite sex, which is actually clear to everyone, the reason why they will make this kind of "cross-boundary" behavior may be because in the other person's heart, you are not an ordinary friend.
As mentioned above, the relationship between the opposite sex is no longer just a simple friendship, whether it is for the other party or for themselves, to distance themselves, disconnection is the best choice.
Some middle-aged people, because they have not been able to withstand this temptation, still maintain contact when they know that the other party's friendship is not simple, and as a result, they have an unimaginable impact on each other's lives.
For some people, after middle age, many things have been looked back, and many truths are also understood, so they are more concerned about the friends who are still around.
But people will become, many relationships are not as firm as everyone thinks, and many things in this world will deteriorate, including friendship.
But don't start to doubt life, life is like this, seemingly ruthless, but it has been teaching us something, experience your life with your heart, and find that every day is worthwhile.